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My dream might be coming true

Hello all,

I’m so excited, I'm 22 and thinking I'm pregnant! I got married 8 months ago to my high school sweet heart Wes. We are both looking forward to having children and I swear that I feel something’s different.

I have to wait to take an hpt, but I’m hoping and praying!

I’m an artist so this will be so inspirational. I have always dreamed of having a baby, but I waited, perhaps my waiting is over?...


Bernice

second baby on the way!

I’m 19 years old and currently 8 weeks pregnant with my second child. I already have a beautiful 18month old daughter and should have beautiful twins but I miscarried my twins last year.

Me and my partner have now been together for 7 years. We are very much in love. We have our own home and both work so we don’t live off any benefits. I just want to let everyone know that you can’t judge a young mother like we are all the same. Me and my partner have done extremely well with our family. Not all girls get pregnant to get benefits or because they sleep around. Some people do have babies for very wrong reasons but not all.

So to all young mums it doesn’t matter how you got pregnant or why you are pregnant don’t let anyone put you down or make you think you wont cope and be a bad mother. And to everyone else don’t judge a young parent. They can do well for themselves and their families.


johanna

If you are too young.

I just wish to let the little girls who just started their periods and want a baby know that it is not a dreamland! Let me ask you not to make that mistake! I am 16 years old and trying to make the hardest decision of my life, whether or not to give my baby to someone who can feed it (If I can even feel it move and deal with that), abort it before it has a heart beat (If emotionally I can become stable), or keep it (and wonder how I am going to feed it and know I can never give it anything it wants). To make things worse, the father does not want it because his family doesn't want it.

I have no idea what to do right now. I have always been against it, but if I were to abort it, I know that it would bother me and I would struggle with it the rest of my life. If I abort it, I will be able to go to college and I will be able to give a later child everything I want to give it and more. An abortion would not be a selfish thing to do right now, I believe. I would be watching out and making sure the baby does not come into a life that its not welcomed into by its father. I would save it the grief of not having nice clothes or not having enough food to eat. I can't guarantee I can give him/her those things.

I also do not want to see my child go without a Christmas present because I did. There were many times in my life that my mother hated me because she knew she had given up everything she ever wanted or could have done for a later child. I don't want to look at my child the way my mother did and say, "No, we can't go to McDonalds," or "No, you can't be on a dance team because we can't afford it." I wouldn't wish that upon any child and would never force one into that way of life.

If I chose to give it up for adoption, could I deal with my thoughts of where my child is or if my child is safe? Could I deal with feeling it move inside me for six months and then hand it to a person I don't know. No one could ever love my baby the way I can, but I know someone else could take better care of it than I can. I am trying not to be selfish with my decisions and trying not to make a decision based on emotions. Also, the only advice I have for someone considering adoption is to not start the process before you feel it move in your body.

If I am to keep this baby, I will work all summer so I can go to school and have money to buy diapers, formula, and the necessities that I can afford. I know a few people who will help me out, but there is only so much someone can do. I am very scared and I know what I can and cannot do. I know that I cannot provide the best life this baby could have and I know that I will have to give up everything and struggle to make enough money to put it in daycare and go to school and further my education. Being scared and worried is the worst feeling.

I just want to let every girl who is younger than 18 and/or financially unstable know that there is nothing harder to deal with than this. I also want to let you all know that the boy you are with now will not be the one you marry. There are so many changes you are still going through, hormonal and physical, that you will not be the same person later as you are now. Realize that you are throwing everything away the second you conceive. I'm not telling you to think long and hard about it I'm simply telling you that it is a horrible idea to conceive before you are ready. Even if you think you are ready at a young age, well ESPECIALLY if that, you need to have some serious counseling.

My friend Tiffany had a child at the age of 16 and let me tell you, no matter what she does, she struggles. I stayed with her for months to help her so she could work to try and support it. And let me just tell you, even with a child who sleeps through the night is hard to get to bed, and once you do go to bed, you must get up early and go to work or school and hope your child is safe with its baby sitter. And if you have to quit school, you're completely screwed and will never make above minimum wage. That is not enough to feed and shelter even your baby.

Girls, there is only so much your parents are willing to do or have the power to do. In the stages of pregnancy, the baby disappears when you choose to think about something else. Later on, the baby will be right there, your boyfriend will leave you and you can't leave your baby to go and find a new one. Keep your goodies in the jar or use great protection. (Protection does not always work and Birth Control can be a joke to your hormones.) If he really loves you, he will stay with you whether you can have kids or not or he will wait till you are truly ready. And just because someone is eligible and able to work, doesn't mean you can make them.

I hope this can give you some since.


Carrie

Mommy to Be!

Well I'm Ashley I'm 14 years old and I have a boyfriend who is almost 19 years old. We are in such wonderful love and my family can't stand it. Well I am now 2 weeks pregnant with his baby and we used to be very excited. But now it’s starting to sink into us that wow. I'm going to have a baby...

My Boyfriend~James~ Already had a baby with another Girl and he never gets to see his son because the girl decided without his okay to keep the baby in California with her sister. Funny thing is that the girl that had his first baby lives down the street from him. But he never sees the baby in Nevada cause he is in California. Well anyways James and I have always wanted to have kids but not this soon. And since we are both against abortion we are willing to take on our responsibilities.

We are still pretty excited but at the same time we are both pretty scared. My parents are going to kill me and send my boyfriend to jail when they find out... I’m so worried... But whether we are ready or not here comes Baby number two!!

To all and any mothers single or not. Just be Thankful that you can receive the gift and joy of a baby that most women can’t experience. I know I'll be thankful once my baby is here! =)

Ashley

Trying so hard

Hallo!

Me and my husband are trying to get pregnat for 1 year and 4 months now and still no hope in sight...

I was on 50mg Clomid for 3 moths and then 100mg for another 3 months. I decided not to drink it this month because of depression. Well, yesterday at 15 dpo I started to spot, Light beige brown cokour. Can still be pregnant?

Anika