Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
My husband and I found out we were pregnant August 6th, and we weren’t even trying. We had been married for 2 months, but were more than ready. After finding out I was pregnant I couldn’t shake off a terrible feeling of dread, like something bad was going to happen. Of course everyone reassured me, that everyone gets scared and worries. It took a while for my husband to really get into it, it didn’t seem real to him at first. He had just began to start rubbing my belly and referring to the baby.
I never had one sign of sickness until my seventh week, then I stayed sick all day, I had a terrible time going to my classes - to think I had bragged about not being sick at all when I found out at 6 weeks. I just knew I was having a girl, and I joked my husband about twins. In fact, after my first prenatal appointment, I prank called my mom, saying I was having twins. I guess I jinxed myself. I dreaded my first ultrasound, and I just knew something terrible was going to happen.
I had a family member who had to have a D&C because the baby was dead, and I was very worried the same would happen to me. Well, once we were in the doctor’s office, and I was getting a scan vaginal no less, I immediately saw two things. I wasn’t sure if they were babies, but when i asked if they were twins, the nurse wouldn’t answer any questions and said she wasn’t sure, id have to talk to the doctor. So, the doctor then came in, did the scan again, and told me there was no heart beat for either baby, and that there was the possibility that they were too immature for a heart beat.
He sent me to be tested at the hospital, and then had me wait two days, be tested again, scanned again and then tells me they were dead because the levels were decreasing, and gave me the choices. I didn’t think I could handle a miscarriage, I didn’t know if I would actually see the babies if I lost them, or what so i agreed to a D&E. My surgery was scheduled for a Monday, and this happened on a Friday. I was sent home all weekend knowing that come Monday they would take my babies, and I wouldn’t be pregnant anymore.
That was the worst time of my life, and I am afraid to try again, although I already started last week trying to conceive. I had to wait two months. I would have really enjoyed twins; they were identical. I don’t have any twins in my immediate family and neither does my husband. We beat the odds, both ways. Think about the population of the world, that represents all the successful pregnancies, I thought the odds were on my side, but I guess I was wrong. I now know to follow my gut feeling.
listen to your bodyI have recently had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. Around 9 weeks my pregnancy symptoms stopped i.e. nausea & fatigue. I thought it seemed odd so i called the midwives & she said, "lap it up!” I have 3 beautiful boys & all my symptoms lasted spot on to the 12th week, so I remained cautious but thought all was well until I had some slight discharge (brown) & went to emergency & they sent me home saying all was fine.
The next day I bled like crazy, cramping & knowing in my heart it was all over. Later that day an ultra sound confirmed it when there was no heartbeat & too much blood to see anything. The hardest thing was when the ultra sound lady said "we should be seeing the baby doing cartwheels at 11 weeks”. Any way my point to my story is listen to what your body tells you as it is usually right & I could have been spared a little heart ache. One positive thing is that we are going to try in a couple of months. Cheers for letting me get this off my chest.
My Twin AngelsI had been trying to conceive for two years, and then decided to see a specialist. In June, I went to my first appointment with my doctor and on June 9, 2006, I had laparoscopic surgery. I was then diagnosed with mild endometriosis. The doctor then gave my husband and me three months to conceive naturally. Nothing happened.
In September, I started my first round of Clomid. I got pregnant the first round. On November 9, 2006 I found out we were having twins. I was so excited. November 11, 2006 at 8 weeks, I started spotting on and off. Around 6:00pm I had a gush of brown fluid come from me. I went to the ER, where they only found one of the twins and one heartbeat. I lost one of the twins. The spotting continued for two weeks. I was on bed rest the whole time. November 22, 2006, I went in for my checkup and saw my beautiful baby. It had no heartbeat. I was losing the other twin. November 25, 2006, I miscarried at 10weeks. I lost both of my twins. I was devastated. I just started my second round of Clomid, and I am hoping to see a BFP at the end of the month. I don't have my hopes set to high though. I don't want to go through another miscarriage.
Hanging on by a thread!I was so ecstatic when I found out I was expecting a baby, I went for a dating scan and discovered I was 9 weeks gone, at 13 weeks I went for a routine scan and discovered on the screen that there was no heartbeat, the only clue that something wasn’t right was the week before I’d had some pains but I had no bleeding so I though there was nothing to worry about. To say I was devastated was an understatement. I had my operation on November the 4th. It’s now Jan 5th and I've just found out I’m 6 weeks gone again, the doctor said it is most likely to happen again as it is too soon since I miscarried. We shall have to wait and see. Say a prayer for me!!!
How do I break his heart?I found out I was pregnant a week after my boyfriend was deployed to Iraq. Yesterday I lost our baby at 15 weeks. I haven't spoke with him, and I really don't know how to tell him. He was so happy that he was going to be a daddy. Talking about the pregnancy made him smile, it gave him something to look forward to. I know by telling him I am going to break his heart. I hate myself for losing this baby. I mean what is wrong with me. The one thing God made me to do I can't.
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