Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
after 5 years
me and my husband have been trying for a baby for 5 year we did one cycle of icsi in 2005 which didnt work, whilst in the middle of our 2nd attempt of icsi, i fell pregnant naturally, however i miscarried as the ivf clinic ignored that i may be pregnant i gave me medication and the nasel spray im so angry with myself for not listening to my heart, i should have stopped the medication, but just couldnt believe i was pregnant, i feel so depressed it's now been 40 days since my miscarriage but i feel like it's never gona happen for us.. i wont ever go through ivf again to them i was something to make money out of they didny care one bit that i was pregnant, im just at the of the road now i dont mentally or physically have the energy to deal with the infertility problems i give up from today.... life is unfair and cruel then they all nmake it impossible to adopt
Pregnancy #3 with no childrenI am currently pregnant. I am 8 weeks today, but my scan says I am only 6 and a half weeks. I wont know if things will be ok until the next scan scheduled for next week. I wouldn't be so nervous if it wasn't for my other two miscarriages. I am 36 years old and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for two years. We were blessed the first time we tried! The baby looked good and I was experiencing all the right symptoms. The only problem was I had fibroids. The fibroids finally filled my uterus and the baby was lost at week 10. I had a myomectomy.... 6 fibroids removed from my uterus. I was cleared to try again 6 months later. So we did and I was pregnant again after trying for another 6 months. I was 34 when we started and now I was 35. Soon into the second pregnancy I lost the baby. The doctor told me that this one was just one of those typical 1 in 5 losses. My husband and I got right back to trying. Now it took another 6 months and I am 36 years old. I am 8 weeks pregnant and I am told that the fetus is measuring smaller than expected. I will find out if this is the third loss on Monday. I'm not sure if I can hang in there much longer. I'm not sure what to do next.
Hoping for a miracleHI my name is Erma. I am 25 yrs old and I've been married for almost 9 yrs. My husband and I have no children. We have been wanting them but it seemed that when we finally had the chance our world just came crashing down. Back early march we found out we were finally pregnant we were excited but at the same time very scared. Back in 2003 we had a early miscarriage we took it hard but I wasnt that far along in my pregnancy. We were just hoping to God that this pregnancy would'nt end up the same way.
Everything seem to be getting better when I seen the heart beat on the ultrasound. It was one of the most wonderful things for a parent to experience and see. I was seeing my doctor very often because I was at high risk of having gestational diabeties. Everything was going well. My due date was December 08,2006. And we were already starting to plan our nursery and start shopping.
My world came crashing down in the middle of July when I noticed lots of discharge. I took myself to the ER to find out that I was starting to dialate. I was 20 weeks already and the doctor told me I would have to be in complete bed rest so I would'nt end up going into labor early. I was hospitalized for about a week and a half then was sent home to be in complete bed rest. I had nurses come in and check up on me every other day my doctor came in twice a week everything seem to be going well until August 8th I would never forget that day because it was on my mothers birthday. I woke up early that morning with contractions I chacked into our local hospital and they sent me to one of the best children hospitals in the state. I knew things were not going to be good.
I was put on magnezium to stop the contractions but 2 nights later on August 10 my cotractions came really strong and I knew I was in labor. I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl that night. I had her at exactly 23 weeks. Her lungs were to weak she weighed 1.04 lbs she was with us for a few hours and she passed on. It was the worst day of our lives. My heart was broken and I felt that I was never going to heal. We named our precious Daughter Natalia Angel.
I get so mad because the night I gave birth I was suppose to be getting the steroid shot for the babies lungs to strengthen. If I would've made it to 24 weeks there would have been a bigger chance of my baby being saved.
Losing a child is one of the worst feelings in the world and I really hope its something I never go through again. And hope no other parent has to go through it. But thats just something that we cant keep from happening. God has his reasons.
I just found out a couple weeks ago that were pregnant again. I didnt expect for it to happen so soon. Because it took us a long time for us to get pregnant to begin with. I feel very guilty But at the same time I hope everything goes well. I dont think I can deal with a 3rd loss. Thats why Im hoping for a miracle. If everything is well in the next couple months I will be having a cerclage. just in case the body wants to go into early labor again.
Its really hard for me not to worry I've been having spotting and really no symptoms of pregnancy but I've been in to see the doctor already 3 times and she says everything is progressing well. Im only 6 1/2 weeks and If anything worries me she takes me right in. I just hope she's right and everything does go well for us because Im ready to be a mother and my husband is so ready to be a father. We've waited long enough.
Thanks to everyone who had the time to read my story.
Medical miscarriage.Me and my husband were quite shocked but so excited when we found out I was pregnant because I have polycystic ovaries and Ive had some gynecological problems in the past.
My pregnancy seemed normal, apart from some stomach pain early on which I was told was completely normal. Because of the pain Id had 2 scans by the time I was 11 weeks and the baby was fine. On the 2nd scan we saw it moving around and was told that the heartbeat was really strong.
I had no reason to worry and so didnt have another scan until the usual 20 week scan. I was so exicted to see it again. The nurse doing the scan was quiet for a minute then started asking me questions like had I had any bleeding (I'd had none whatsoever- Id checked religiously) and how many weeks I was. then she told me that there was no heartbeat. I was so shocked I just shouted and cried involuntarily.
I had to wait over the weekend until I could actually miscarry the baby because I had to be medically induced. The weekend went like a blur, looking back I was in total shock. On Monday I was given tablets to induce a kind of labour. I had no idea what to expect. Nothing happened for 4 hours and i started to get upset as I just wanted it over with. they gave me more tablets and very quickly i started getting pains which seemed like labour pains. I was told I needed to push, which was really upseting because it made it seem like a real labour. I felt like i couldnt push because i just wanted to keep my baby inside me. At least if it was inside me I could keep it safe and warm. Just as the pain started to get really difficult to manage, without warning my waters broke. I didnt know it was that at the time because it hadnt occurred to me that my waters would break. id only expected bleeding. The pain vanished immediately.
Within 5 minutes I could feel the baby coming out. Because the baby was quite developed I could feel it completely as I delivered it- baby shaped. I still have flashbacks to the feeling of it. I will never forget that feeling. Afterwards, sitting in the hospital room i felt strangely peaceful. The hospital were wonderful and did everything they could for me.
I have found it difficult adjusting to normal life again as a 'non-pregnant' woman. The timing couldnt have been worse as literally all my friends are pregnant. I havent been able to see any of them yet but keep in touch through email and text for now. A few women at work have recently had babies and I dread them coming in and showing them off. I had to leave the other day when one of them came in because I found it too difficult.
I know it will get easier with time. I feel like my only way to fully get over it is to get pregnant again and have a healthy baby. But i will never forget the baby that i lost. We bought it a tiny teddy bear (we wanted one that would be no bigger that it was) and i keep it with me for comfort.
Bad news from the Quad testMy husband and I had been married for 3 years and decided that it was time for us to add to the family. We had 2 cats that we called our babies so far.
So we decided that I would not renew my next birth control pill prescription and that we would start "trying".
I went off the pill in December 2005 and was shocked and overjoyed when two little pink lines appeared on the pregnancy test in March 2006. My husband had always feared that he may have low sperm count but it was never confirmed...just a male fear of his I think. So I was so happy that it didnt take us long to get pregnant.
So I battled nausea and sore breasts for the first 3 months but all in all I was having a breeze of a pregnancy so far. Every visit to the doctor was a normal routine visit...everything was going along swimmingly. at the end of May, we heard the heartbeat and it was strong and the doctor said that at 13 weeks, we were past the real danger zone of miscarriage.
Around 16 weeks, the doctors asked if I wanted to opt for the QUAD test to be performed which tests for neural tube defects, down sydrome and a few other conditions. Although I was not in the "high risk" categories ( I was 30 years old and in pretty good shape), I had a Friday off from work in my 16th week and said "eh, what the heck...I don't like needles and need to get used to being poked and prodded so let me go for the test...besides, it is covered by insurance".
So my husband came with me to get the blood test done and on the following Tuesday my doctor called me at work to report that I had some pretty high AFP results in my blood work which could indicate neural tube disorders like spina bifida or twins or fetal demise.
My heart sank. The doctor wanted me to move up my scheduled ultrasound that was 3 weeks away to immiediately so she could see what was going on. I got an appointment 2 days later. For those 2 days I cried, I worried but all the while was hoping for the best possible outcome....maybe we were having Twins...wouldn't that be great. But even if there was something wrong with the baby...like a neurological defect, we had already discussed that we were prepared to love and care for the baby just the same.
Thursday we went in for the ultrasound. The technician fumbled around for a while with the wand on my belly.
Her face was emotionless. She told me to stay where I was and that she would go get the doctor. A few minutes later, the doctor came in and looked at the screen the technician had up of our baby. And I will never forget the next words out of her mouth...she said "things aren't looking very good right now...it appears the baby has passed away...we can't find a heartbeat.."
My husband just puts his head down. I cried and cried and sobbed and sobbed and asked why and what happened? There was no good answer they could give. The baby died at almost 16 weeks and I found out in my 18th week.
I got dressed and they moved me into a different room where I could not stop crying. They let me sit there for a few minutes then shuffled me out the back door so as not to parade me past the waiting room full of expectant mothers as I was hysterical crying.
I scheduled a D&E for the following Wednesday. Those next few days were the hardest days of our lives. It was just such a sad, depressing thing to have happen to us. and why us? we were good people. we love each other. have a nice house, good jobs. We wanted this baby more than anything. I was angry and sad and confused and in shock and just....empty.
the next Tuesday I went in to the doctor;s office for them to insert some sticks that would soften my cervix for the D&E operation the next day. I asked the nurse to check the ultrasound one more time jsut to make sure they didnt miss the heartbeat. and although she probably was humoring me she obliged and she printed us the last ultrasound picture of our baby that we would ever have.
I cramped all night and by Wed afternoon the procedure was over and our baby was gone.
It has been 4 months since we lost our little one...it turned out that we were having a baby girl. The doctors were able to confirm that for us with tissue samples,etc.
My due date of 12/1 is fast approaching and it saddens me to think how far along I should be right now if this didn't happen.
My only solace is that I know she is in heaven and that God has a plan for us. We cannot control what happens in our lives if it is not in God's plan.
This experience has been the worse of my life...but it has made me have a new appreciation for how precious life is. I hope that God blesses us with another child in the near future and that the pain and sadness from the loss of our daughter subsides and is repalced with joy and happiness in our family.
Good luck to all of you who are trying again and my prayers go out to you.
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