Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Two weeks before my wedding I decided that I would take a pregnancy test, my fiance and I waited to see the results. On May 25th I found out I was pregnant. We were so excited we called everyone, which made both of us late for work. We planned our wedding, and my wedding photos to show my belly, which had grown unusually fast for 2 months. We went on our honeymoon and everything was fine.
I got back from the honeymoon and went to the doctor the next day for a pelvic exam. The exam felt kind of weird but I went home and decided I would be changing doctors because I didn't like him. I was 10 weeks the day of my appt. The next morning I woke up and my tummy hurt, and I had started bleeding. I called my doctor and the nurse told me it was fine that this was normal; if it persisted call her back. So hours later I called her back to let her know that I wasn't just bleeding now I was gushing and cramping bad. She said I was prob. fine and that if I was having a miscarriage, that it was too late to do anything about it. I was at work so I asked if it was ok for me to work. She said yes I'd be fine.
A couple hours later I decided to go home after my mother told me to go home and lie down. I continued to bleed and started cramping so bad I couldn't lie still in the bed. I would be in the bathroom every two minutes urinating and gushing. I was at my house all alone crying my hardest. I had my mother on the phone most of the time. My husbabnd was at work. I finallly called and told my mom that I thought that I was having a miscarriage. She called my husband and told him that I was at home hysterical and that I needed to go to the ER room b/c I was losing the baby. He took me and I was in the hospital for 10 hours while the doctor gave me 3 pelvics and I had 2 ultrasounds. Neither ultrasound showed any heart rate. The doctor told me I had miscarried and was 50% of the way through it. He let me go after the last pelvic and retrieving the fetus. I was 10 weeks and one day and miscarried on July 1st.
We had got back from the honeymoon and were ready to start planning for the baby. I had been staying with my mom because I was supposed to rest just as if I had just delivered my child. I mourned with my mother and husband at my side. And now I have returned home to start the whole process over. I can't sleep. I can't think at work. It's like I'm a walking zombie. I've wanted a child for so long. I'm always alone which makes everything worse. I just sit at home alone and cry. I'm hoping I'll learn how to cope. I know it just takes time but just like everyone else going through the same thing, I'm sad. I pictured myself with my child. To me my child was here. I talked to myself all the time, talking to my belly. I sang to myself. I wasn't me. I was me and my child. I feel so lonely now. No one talks back to me. I haven't been able to talk to anyone, I feel like this is my "problem". Not theirs. I have to learn to do this on my own. I guess only time will tell. We plan to try again. I'm just so afraid. I'm not sure how to react thinking that the same thing could happen over and over again.
My miscarriageI just found out on 7/5/06 that we lost our baby. It started on 7/4 with a little brown spotting. It stopped later that day but I was always warned that blood is not a good sign. I went to the Dr. the next day. During the pelvic exam the Dr. said I felt like 10 weeks which was not too far off from the 11 weeks I thought I was. Then she could not detect the hearbeat so ordered an ultrasound. When I was laying on the table, the ultrasound technician did not say a word. I knew. I didn't want to ask her what she saw because I knew it wasn't good. After the ultrasound she asked me to sit in one of the exam rooms because she was going to have the Dr. come to me. I was by myself because my husband and I didn't think this would happen. The Dr. came in and told me there was a sac that was measuring 7 weeks but no embryo. You can imagine the devastation.
It has been a week and I have not bled. I am scheduled for a D&C on Friday, 7/14 and so I hope something comes out between now and then. I am scared of the D&C. I know it is a routine procedure but it is still surgery which I have never faced.
I cannot wait to try again. I am scared but hopeful.
Thank you for letting me tell my story.
MiscarriageThe past few months have been an emotional roller coaster. My husband and I got pregnant the first month we tried, and were excited that it happened so quickly. The first few weeks were uneventful, except for occasional bouts of naseau and tender breasts. Shortly after I started my 6th week, however, I began to experience what I later termed "the browns," brownish discharge in my underpants, and when I'd go to the bathroom. Alarmed, I called my midwife who told me that brown blood is "old blood," not to worry, but to call her if it persisted or changed color.
The spotting stopped for about a day, and then returned. My midwife scheduled me for an ultrasound, which revealed that there was an embryo in my uterus, but its heartrate was very slow. Concerned, my midwife had me come in for another ultrasound the following day. The next ultrasound showed that the little embryo's heartrate had doubled. I was sent home with orders to rest and not do anything strenuous.
For the next four days, I stayed at home, rested, and was happy that the browns had gone away. Unfortunately, they returned. I was scheduled to have another ultrasound at the end of the week, and when my husband and I went in for that ultrasound, the radiologist couldn't detect a heartbeat. The little embryo had died. We were crushed, especially since the previous scan seemed to indicate that things were ok. I waited for a week to see if I would miscarry natrually. Strangely, the spotting completely stopped after a few days. Wanting to move on, I had my midwife schedule a D&C.
I had the D&C last Friday. I was a bit nervous, since I'd never had surgery before, but all things considered it went well. I am glad I had it done...I feel like it gave me some closure. My midwife said we could try to get pregnant after I have two normal menstrual cycles. I know we'll try again soon...but I also know that I will be so nervous if we get pregnant again! I am hoping for a happier ending next time.
my miscarrigeToday is July 9, 2006 and I just had a d &c done Friday the 7th. July 1st, I was 6 weeks and 4days pregnant. I started bleedimg just a little and went to the hospital. They done a ultrasound and the baby's heart was beating and seemed fine. I went home and had a follow up appointment with the doctor on Thursday July 6. I was still bleeding but I thought It would be fine. When they done the ultrasound, the baby had died. So the d&c was done the next day. I had done told several people I was pregnant. The next time I will wail at least 4 months. The doctor said that it can happen 1out of 5 pregnancys and this just happened to be mine. I already have 2 children that are perfectly fine, but I still plan on having another one someday. I just hope this doesn't happen again. To everyone who has lost a baby, I am very sorry for your loss.
MiscarriageI have had 2 miscarriages in life. The first was Feb of 2001. The second was May of 2006. I seem to have a short cervix I learned after the last miscarriage. In future pregnancy I would have to get the cervical cerclage surgery to keep my cervix closed. Hopefully it'll work for me next time around. I really don't think I can deal with another loss like that. The big question is when do I start trying again. For me I would like that to be as soon as possible. Dr. says wait though. I honestly believe to leave it in gods hands. When he say it's the right time than it's the right time. I just hope he says this real soon for my husband and I.
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