Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
My Baby Born Sleeping
My Husband and I lost are beautiful baby girl she was born to us sleeping, Im not sure why this happend to us but it did and it makes me so sick and I feel so bad inside. I was 39 weeks and all my dreams was about to happen I was finallly getting my little girl but the unexspected happed she wasnt moving and I went into the hospital they did a ultrasound and found no heart beat....my life stopped and flashed before me, this is not happening, Im dreaming, this isnt real, she had a heart beat on tuesday and here its friday and no heart beat, what did I do, this is a mistake, I was in shock and disbelieve of the loss of my baby, every mothers worst nightmare came true, the lost of a child it doesnt matter if your child is 1 ,5,15, 55 or born to you sleeping our hearts all hurt the same. Since the lost of my baby I have heard it all, you can have another baby ,you just be glad that your baby wasnt 1 years old and that happend and my most favorite is Everything Happens For A Reason, well we all know it does but what the hick is the reason , because not a darn thing was wrong with my baby? People dont know what to say to you when something like this happens, so crap fall out of there mouth. Ive been going to grieve councling with my Pastor and that helps a lot, my Pastor had said to me, to GOD 1 day and 1 thousand years are the same GOD has no time frame and maybe Bailey lived her full life and her purpose of her short life was to bring you and Jeremy close together, in other words make us or break us and we are making it day by day but I 'll never forget the night my sweet Angel Bailey was born to me Sleeping!
My lost little boyI gave birth to my first child Baby Jack 4 weeks ago yesterday. He was still born at 42 weeks.
I had a normal and healthy pregnancy and was under mdwifery led care.
My labour had started and was in early stages when I first went to hopsital but I was sent home as only 1cm dialated. My baby was fine and his little heartbeat was 'healthy' at this point. this was at 12.00am the following morning I was worried as I hadnt felt baby move so I went back up hospital and found he had died.............
Words can describe how I felt when told this, I went into shock and thought my world had ended. This was monday, my labour progressed and I gave birth on the wednesday. I will never forget seeing and holding my perfect little boy for the first time.....now i just cant get my head around the fact that Ill never hold or see him again, never watch him grow....life is so unfair.
All I can think about is him and everywhere I turn someone is pregnant or has a baby.....Its so hard.
And all I can think about is trying again and then I feel overwhelmed with guilt for feeling this way when Ive only been with out my little baby Jack for 4 weeks.
Im not trying to replace him that will never happen but I need to be pregnant again and have a little baby to complete our family.....
Why are you even here?I was 23 at the time and I had been having pregnancy symptoms for almost 2 months when I found out I was pregnant.
On Halloween I noticed that my top was extremely tight and half way through the night I had to change, over the next couple of weeks I started to just feel like crap. I was gagging almost everyday and I started to notice my breasts were overly tender. My mother kept telling me I was pregnant but I just brushed her off my boyfriend thought she was nuts. December came around and I finally decided to take a test I wanted to prove my mother wrong, I took the test and it was instantly positive I was confused and nervous but very excited. I took a total of 9 tests because I wanted to make sure it was right. I told my boyfriend who was nervous and worried but I know now he was very excited. I also told my step dad because I was freaking out and he was the 1st one I thought to call.
Things just slowly fell in to place for me everything made sense all of the gagging and the clothes not fitting right, I had to tell my grandparents because I lived with them at the time, they were upset but happy my cousin had recently given birth to a boy so they were hoping for a girl this time.I was the 1st granddaughter so I wanted to be the one to give them the 1st great-granddaughter, My mother was not excited at 1st she didn't think she was old enough to be a grandmother and she had problems with the whole situation but she came around.
I was finally able to go see the doctor about a week later I knew something was not totally right because I was spotting and while that can be normal it just didn't feel right to me, I had started spotting the night Santa came on his firetruck to my cousins neighborhood I laid on the sofa with my feet propped up by a pillow cuddling with the dog. I went to my appointment and my doctor who is a very sweet man could not hide anything from me, he looked up at me and said "Well your pregnant" then he looked away I looked him in the face and said ok and everything is fine...he told me he didn't want to worry me but I needed to go get an Ultra Sound right away and he wanted me to get blood work. I left right away and drove 45 minutes out of my way so I could get a US ASAP because all the places close to me had no appointments. The tech was mean she barely spoke and just asked me one question "Why are you even here?" That was all she had to say and I knew something was wrong. I finally got a call back that I needed to go to the doctors it was a couple of days later. That night I started to have really bad pain and light bleeding so I knew when I went in to the doctors that next morning that whatever he was going to tell me was not good I had, had 2 blood tests at this point to check my levels from one appointment to the next. my levels had dropped as I had thought they would. The nurse who I had been seeing for years was very nice and asked if I knew what he was going to say to me, I told her that I knew I was going to miscarry. She said yes I was miscarrying but he would explain everything to me and she wanted to reassure me that at least I had gotten pregnant because growing up we were not sure I would be able to due to a intestinal condition I had since birth. Everything happened so quickly he told me when he came in not to worry that my body was doing it naturally so there was no need for drugs or anything it would take a couple of days and I would need to get my blood work done every couple of weeks until my levels were under 5.
My boyfriend wanted to take me to lunch to make my feel better which was a nice idea but have way through lunch it started I had to get up an walk around only that made it worse with it being Christmas time there were little kids and babies everywhere I lost it had a complete breakdown in the mall. I came home to lay in bed and let it finish I passed several large clots and I saw my baby I cried for what seemed like days we had guests coming in to stay and since not everyone in the family knew about the pregnancy I had to put on a smile and not let anyone know I was sad. I got the normal "God only gives you what you can handle" which to me was a load of crap because if in fact God only gives you what you can handle then he wouldn't have allowed me to get pregnant in the 1st place but that is just me I guess. Also I heard of a lot of well its not healthy for you to be soo upset over this. Yes thank you so much for understanding. I had to keep going to the doctors well in to February because my levels would not go down so each time I went to the doctors it was like living it all over again. It's been a year and this year was very interesting to say the least.
I want every woman to know that you are not alone when this happens to you, I wrote a blog about it writing letters to my baby and my boyfriend bought me the most beautiful memorial necklace, I will always have a spot in my heart for Quinn and the date I will never forget 12/18/09.
Mi AmorcitoWell, I Am 16 Years Old...Last Week I Was 8 Weeks Pregnant And I Had Been Going To Check Ups Since I Was 5 Weeks Pregnant Because I Didnt Know I Was Pregnant The First 4 Weeks And I Had Been Drinking Alot. The Babys Dad Was Not With Me But He Was Supporting Me. As He Is 23 Years Old . When I Was 8 Weeks I Found Out I Lost Mi Amorcito ) : I Was Devestated.. I Had Went To The Doctors And They Had Said I Was Bleeding Tremendously ) : I Was So Scared. And Now Its Been A Week And I Have My Period Now 0 :
Why*this is to all i guess*
im 15 years old, i have lost a baby! . idont really remember why this happened... this one night i went to a friend's house to go watch a movie , but instead of watching the movie we ended up just talking .. so after , they took me home , but before i could get inside my house , i realized i was bleeding , i went inside and told my mother! , she took me to the emergency room! , i dont remember the rest! , but i forget things easily cause like i lose my memory! . so my parents usually remind me things! .
by the way the father didnt care about the baby, he was a year older than me! ,
i was so excited to have a baby, its my dream! i guess like the father pushed me or something like that! ,i just wish i knew .... When i was 13 years old , i had picked out names for my future baby boy/girl. but now im just gonna wait until i finish school then go to college then have a family! , young mothers are lucky to have their children! , i wonder how it would be like if i didnt lose my baby!
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