Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
sadness over sister in law being pregnant
In january 09 i found out i was pregnant i was very very excitied and so was my hole family i told every body i had a scan and i was 6 weeks along, i was so happy everybody was,In march 09 i was due for my scan on the 23rd i was 14 weeks i was very excitied to see my baby but unfortantly that same day i srarted to bleed alot and was having contractions every 5 min at this point i was waiting for my scan but when i went to the toilet i lost the baby, after that i was having contractions for 8 hours until i pushed the plecenter out. I am so sad i lost my baby. 2weeks after i lost the baby my sister in law announced she was pregnant i felt like i had just been kicked in the stomach i felt sick with sadness they told me in frount of my hole family so i tried to pretend i was happy for them, when i went home i cried soo much thinking why? why her not me. Now she is 5 months and is about to find out the sex and they want me involved but i am finding it very diffcult my family and i have always been so close we do everything together. My brother wanted all my family and me to meet at a pub so they can announce what they got, im hurting badley and feel like i havent had alot of time to grieve coz im trying to cocentrate on making my family feel im ok with my sister in law but im actually a wreck i feel alone they try hard to understand. I told my mum and sister that i dont think i can go with you all to found out the sex coz i cant handel it, my brother is a little mad and upset that im not ging and that i dont want to be apart of it right now, i love my brother and sister in law and i dont want to hurt them but it hurts to much seeing her pregnancy progress. My family went to the pub and i stayed at home crying and just holding my fiance all i kept thinking is that it should of been me, it should of been me up there celebrating weather its a boy or girl but its not instead i am at home feeling depressed, sad, angry and feel all alone, I havent been around my brother alot im trying to keep my distance for my sake and theres. Its hard whats happening coz its effecting my hole family they are trying to look at both sides i hate all this atmosphere its horrible and cant help but feel its sll my fault i wish i could just get over it and move on and be involved but its really not that easy all i keep thinkg about is that i lost my baby i will never get to hold my baby in my arms and it makes me feel sick to the stomache. I am so unhappy i lost my baby but now i feel like i have to fight to bring the closeness back with my family coz i feel like im drifting away from them, i know its down to me and my emotions i just cant seem to move on from the loss of my baby and also cant seem to want to be involved with my sister in laws pregnancy. Please please if anyone could please let me know if what im feeling is normal and how can i deal with this horrible situation. Thankyou, xx
My AngelsI just lost my fourth stillborn baby on 08/05/09. Yes, my fourth!! I feel very sad and I do not understand anymore why this happens to me. I was 21 weeks , I was admitted to the hopspital for complete bed rest until the baby was born, I was given a very strong medication so I would not have any contractions. I follow Dr orders! Before all this happened I make sure the baby was fine. They did the Chromosonal test that came back fine, his heart beat was fine. Wed 08/05 I started to feel a sharp pain I did not understand what was goin on, I was connected to a monitor where the nurses can see if I was having contractions, I kept asking them what is going on? They did not see any contractions. My water just broke and my baby came out right there in bed where I was. I could not beleive what was happening to me again, again, again. He was only 21 weeks they could not do nothing to save him. I hold him tight as could he still had a heart beat. He was small he was 1 pound 8oz he was my hope. My Dr was there no one could do nothing about it! Why? I was taken down to clean me I was still holding my baby, I kept telling him I am sorry, I am sorry maybe I did not do everything I supposed to do, I did not do a good job At keeping him inside of me. I do not know this is my fourth Angel that go to heaven.
Ocean BlueBlue was my little tiny baby. I say goodbye to him today. After a little bledding he came up in a transparent cloud, I clean him and hold him, place him in a cottom and let him swim. He give me life and give me back the most precious person I lost "me".
I feel for everyone here. My heart is with every story. I did not want to tell how it happen, but how the beauty of the few days being pregnant with Blue was a beautiful experience, a short dream that will last for ever.
stillborn at 38weeksI we nt into labour on sat 7th march 09, i phoned the hopitial and told them i was having contractions, they told me to come in. I went in at around 6.00am, by 6.40am i had given birth to a perfect beautiful girl, but she was stillborn. I couldnt believe this had happened to me, as im sure all parent who lose a baby due to stillborn cant believe why it has happened to them.
This has been the hardest day of my life to go to 38weeks during a preganancy and lose the baby girl i always dreamed of.
The postmorten results came back that louise diied of an infection called coliforms. The doctor said it happened really quick, so now i kept thinking what if i went in the day before she might be alive and with me now, but i cant go back in time
I later buried my daughter a few weeks later. I still cant believe she has gone. i will always love my little girl she will be will me forever.
MY BOYS !!i got married in april 2008 and my husband came from pakistan in may 2008 and i found out i was pregnant in june 2008. we was over the moon, couldnt beleive my eyes when i saw the positive result on the home pregnancy test. my mum made me do 3 tests just to make sure. everything was going so well. when i was about 11 weeks i had abit of spotting, stayed with my mum for the night she looked after me and it was gone the next day. i went for my scan at 12 weeks, when i saw my baby move i started to cry, it was too good to be true. my husband was gob smacked. we took pictures home, framed it and sent it to everyone via message. i was about 16 weeks and i felt something flicking in my stomach. i told the midwife and she said its the baby moving, from then onwards everynight the baby would get very active but it was the best feeling in the world. i was 18 weeks and 3 days. went to bed, woke up at 2am with a very sharp pain in my stomach. went to the toilet, and went back to bed. then same again at 3am and then at 4am and every hour after then. it just got worse, my back started to hurt. it was 8am and my husband said you should go to the doctors. i made a appointment with my GP, went to see her at 10am she said its just musclar pains take paracetamol and youll be ok. so i came to my mums house, and there i couldnt even sit i was in tears. i was like a fish without water, couldnt understand what was going on. the pain would shoot from the back to my front and then vice versa. my mum said looks like i am having contractions. she said why didnt you ring me in the night, i told her i didnt know what it was. my eldest sister drove me to A&E, they kept me waiting there for at least 6 hours, the pain was unbareable. they took me to the cubicle and i started screaming and crying, the doctors and nurses would walk in and out and say "whats wrong with her why is she screaming" one doctor came and gave me morphine to ease the pain. i think i must have dozed off for about an hour, when i got up they said we are transferring you to the early pregnancy unit. we think you may be having a miscarriage. by now it was 7pm. i got a room on my own and all my family was called into hospital. the doctor checked me and said i was 4cm dilated. the words i dreaded. she told me i will miscarry but dont know when. it was 8pm and i asked my family to go home. my husband stayed with me. as soon as they left i had my last contraction, and at 8.25pm i gave birth to my gorgeous son hashim. they took him away. he was born asleep. i cried and cried, it was so painful to let him go just like that. and at about 10 or 11 pm we called for our baby. the nurse bought him in a tiny basket, with a white cotton shawl over him, he was lying on his side, hand on hand. i kissed his forehead. and said goodbye to him. i couldnt sleep all that night, i was up in my husbands arms just crying. kept asking him was it something i did or didnt do... the next day the undertaker came to take him away.. we had him buried... when he took him it felt as if someone had ripped my heart out. that was in october 2008. i have had another miscarrige in may 2009 i was 16 weeks then. i will tell my second story another day..... god bless us all.. ameen..
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