Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
miscarriage @ 6 wks
I am a lesbian in a LTR (8 yrs). My partner & I have a beautiful daughter who will turn 4 in a couple of mos. We conceived our daughter via donor sperm from a sperm bank & then paid almost $400.00 a year to store our remaining 3 vials. Partly because we didn't necessarily want to pay the storage fee for yet another year, we decided at the last minute to ttc @ home this past December. And-- it worked! My first positive pregnancy test occurred on Christmas Day 2009, exactly 2 wks from conception. We were thrilled, convinced that God had sent us this baby despite our obstacles (2 women ttc @ home/ i.e., "turkey baster method"!!). All was fine until week 6. At work, I noticed some spotting. Because I had been through a subchorionic hemorrhage w/dd @ 7 wks, I was paranoid. We rushed to the ER, & my bleeding became heavier. At the time, I was working a night shift, so the only open places were hospitals. Plus, it was a Friday night. The ER ran an ultrasound, & the dr. assured me that I had a "normal 5-weeker". But I knew in my heart that something was wrong, b/c the ultrasound tech wouldn't tell me whether or not she saw a heartbeat. And any u/s tech worth their salt can see a heartbeat, even @ 5 wks. So, we went home, & sure enough, the bleeding con't. It went from spotting to full-on bleeding, just like a period, but heavier. My cramps were agonizing & radiated from my back, around my pelvis, and down my thighs. Normally I do cramp, but only briefly, and only in my front. The bleeding was horribly heavy; I used overnight pads for a few days. I didn't experience clotting, which I thought was strange; w/dd, I expelled huge, golf-ball sized clots during the subchorionic hemorrhage (sorry if t.m.i.). Anyhow, even despite the pain, what really devastated me was my complete loss of pg symptoms; my breasts went from extremely sore & firm on Friday to loose bags of flesh by Sunday. I didn't "feel" pg anymore. The nausea was gone; all I had was an extremely heavy period & an overwhelming sense of loss. The hormones were horrible, & my moods fluctuated like crazy; I mean, I went from being pg to not in the span of a weekend. At the ER, I was told that my HcG level was 1,500. By Monday, it had gone down to 217.
Well, that's my experience. I hope it helps someone. My partner & I tried another at-home insem in April that didn't take. We just tried another cycle last week @ a dr's office, & I'm praying that I'm pg. This was our last vial. If this doesn't take, then we won't try again. Some symptoms, but we'll see ...
CameronMy nipples had been hurting for a week and I just thought maybe it was a symptom of my period coming, but then I realized I never had symptoms of my period coming. That was when I realized, tender nipples is sign of pregnancy. For the next week and a half I took a total of 6 pregnancy tests, all which came out negative. But my instincts told me I was pregnant, so did my mother's. Finally, one night, I had gotten home from the store and got the sudden urge to take a pregnancy test. It was positive. Over the next week, I proceeded to take 4 more tests, all which came out positive. I went to the doctor and they said I was indeed pregnant, about 5 weeks. I was absolutely ecstatic. I had always wanted a child, and I was finally going to be a mother!! I told everyone I knew that I was going to have a child, and even some strangers!! I had gone out and bought clothes, pacifiers, a bottle brush, all sorts of stuff. But in the back of my mind, I knew I should have taken it easy with the buying, and I was paranoid. At 10 weeks, 3 days before my first scheduled ultrasound, I woke up with light bleeding. I was told this was normal, but my instincts said something was wrong. I asked my sister to drive me to the hospital, where they admitted me right away. After having tests done, and an emergancy ultrasound done, the LAST thing I thought it would be was a miscarriage. I thought maybe I was just being paranoid and there was nothing wrong. But I was wrong. The doctor came in and told me that my son had died at 6 weeks, and I had had a missed miscarriage. I opted to go home and let it happen naturally. Over the next 2 and a half days, I was in intense pain and bleeding heavily. Finally, I felt an intense urge to push, so I went into the bathroom and gave my strongest push, and out popped my tiny little child, into my hand. I stared at him in shock, not knowing what to do. I was home alone. So I wrapped him in toilet paper, told him I loved him, and laid him in the toilet, and flushed. I cried so hard that night, I didn't know if I had any tears left. I continued to bleed heavily for the next 2 weeks, and had to be put on medication because of all the blood loss. It's been 8 and a half months since I lost my son, and I still miss him everyday.
Cameron, I love you with all my heart. I know God is taking such good care of you, and that you're looking down on me and protecting me.
miscarriage at 14 weekshi im 23 years old, i had a delayed miscariiage at 9 weeks before xmas it was a devastating time. In Feb 09 i found out i was pregnant again we were so happy we had the scan at 11 weeks which showed a gorgeous little baby we coulcnt be happier then at 14 weeks i had cramping all day no bleeding i rang the midwife who told me to get bed rest but later that night the cramping got really painful then started clotting i knew that i had lost my baby again i am so devastated by this loss and i feel so low my partner has been amazing but at the momment a cant see the light at the end of the tunnel.
FibroidsHey, I was wondering if my miscarriage may have been due to the fact that I have multiple seedling uterine fibroids, that I never knew existed until recently. My doctor never said anything when I had the miscarrieage last year. I want to try and conceive again and wanted to make sure that evrything was fine so I had a pelvic exam done.
Is there any one who has multiple seedling uterine fibroids and have brought a baby to term? I was just about 19 weeks.
loss at 5 weeks, exactlyI found out that I was pregnant using an HPT, exactly 28 days into the cycle. I wasn't sure whether I should believe it, as this was my first time. My husband and I kept our fingers crossed. I tested again 36 hours later, and then again after 36 hours more. Beyond doubt, I was pregnant. Initially, we wanted to keep it to ourselves. But this was such a happy occurrence, that we wanted to share it with our nearest family.
Just 3 days into my "known pregnancy", I heard about the death of a young man, a friend's family member. I was very upset for his parents, knowing how devastated I would be if that were to happen to the tiny little life inside me.
Fear began. It just sounded too good to be true that it would be a live and full pregnancy and birth. Exactly at 5 weeks, I tossed around in bed all night, woke up early to see spotting and a negative HPT. Then, bleeding, and it was all gone... even before my first scheduled pregnancy appointment.
This was 2 days ago. I know it isn't her fault, I know I want her pregnancy to be wonderful and I know that I want mother and child tp have a long and fruitful relationship; but right now, I really, truly hate someone I know who has the same LMP... I read that this is normal.
I am still crying for no apparent reason. Something akin to postpartum depression because the hormone levels crashing down? I don't know. If it is chromosomal abnormality that caused the miscarriage, why in the world should imperfect combinations even get fertilized??!! I have no answers. Only questions.
My husband has been nothing but supportive of my erratic ways despite the fact that he is just as devastated by the loss. I cannot help seeing him as the enemy just a tiny bit, however. I told him so.
I was told to wait for at least on normal period, whatever that is supposed to mean, to begin trying to conceive again.
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