Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
My bestfriend's POV on he pregnancy loss :[
My name is Hailey, My boyfriends name was Mark, I loved him so much, with all my heart, but I had a little tiny crush on the school quarterback, and happens to be Mark's brother, Eric. I knew Eric, he knew me, and when Mark when out to get popcorn at a far store, me and Eric had sex. It was amazing. Its like Eric did it before, tho he said it was his first time, and said he knew nothing about sex, never was curious when he was little. But then Mark got home. luckily, We changed quickly before Mark came in. Mark never had a clue we had sex, not a bit. He thought we were talking about school and homework. I was Erics tutor, so we could be talking about anything. But then I started to get sick. I missed 4 days of school once because of throwing up and fevers. When I was okay, my bestfriend Veronica asked me if I was pregnant, and who the father was. I could tell Veronica anything, but I was not pregnant, I told he that I slept with...Eric. Veronica was suprised and left in a flash. Was she going to tell?! no, she couldn't. She wasn't going to tell. heh, Veronica I think didn't like Mark. The next day was a Thursday, so I saw Mark and he walked up and kissed me. So she didn't. GOOD. But Veronica did walk up to me. She pulled out a Pregnancy test. "For the sake of you. Don't lie--I know you didn't use birth control or a condum...I can see it in your eyes." and then I rushed to the school bathroom and took it. Veronica was shout/whispering "Positive or Negitive?! Positive or Negitive?!!" She would keep saying...then...it came up Positive, How was I going to tell Mark?! Later I got the guts to atleast say it. Yeah yeah, it went threw where you go up and cry then they ask, you tell, they yell, then cry with you, then they hug you and say it'll all be okay. I told Mark next, and lied and said he was the father, cause we did do it. He kissed me, but then figured out he used a condum and he saw a Birth Control package in his bathroom. He found out Eric was the father later. Mark got made and told me if I wanted to be with him, I would have to give the baby up...so I did. I cried for almost 6 hours. I had a sin. Later, Mark broke up with me for a girl named Palma. He got her pregnant, and then he did the same thing to her. I cried and cried. How could Mark do this? but the thing is, if you give up your baby, know you did it for a reason. for your boyfriend or your parents, but know, its your chocie. remember that forever.
x2 Miscarrages (13wk & 5wk)Hi, I have just read through some of the other stories and I felt that I must share mine. My Name is Sarah I am 27. I had my first miscarriage in Aug 08. I only knew as I had gone for my 12/13 wk scan and when they scanned me they noticed that there was no heartbeat. My husband and I where gutted as you can imagine, we where taken into another room to discuss our options. I could not make any at that time. We later decided to have a D&C which happened the next day. At the time I was advised that my baby had died at 8wk3days which I found so hard to accept. but since I have been told that it may not have it could have just been ill and very small hence the late loss, which made me feel a bit better. That I had not carried him/her around for over 5wk dead. I made some thing positive come out of my loss I started my own business to keep me busy I named it after our baby George. www.georgieporgiekids.com Which makes me remember our little one every day but in a good way. We also bought a rooted xmas tree which we will plant on the 4th March 09 baby's due date! every xmas we will put lites on to it to make it shine.
In Feb 09 i found out I was preg again we where over the moon, but only 5 days later I started to bleed. As you can imagine it was a nightmare. It was confirmed 3 days later that we had lost the baby. So now 22 Feb 09 I have been looking into WHY?? but the real reason is their is no blame and what we should be thankful for it the miracle of life as to be honest it is a miracle that any baby is born as its such a complicated processes for the egg and the sperm to go through.
I feel very lucky as I have had x lovely children before and i am sure we will have another one in time.
But please don't ever blame yourself as it will not have been your fault it really is natures way of ending a non perfect pregnancy.
x Love to you all as it really is a horrible time and all I can tell you is that the pain your feeling will lift and you will feel better one day x
Try to do nice thing so you remember but don't dwell on it as it will hurt you forever. x
MY 2ND ULTRA SOUNDMY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARIED FOR 3 YEARS. THIS WAS OUR FIRST PREGNANCY. WE WERE VERY EXITED, AND WORRIED ABOUT IT. MY FIRST ULTRA SOUND WAS DONE AT 6 WEEKS WITH A VISABLE HEARTBEAT. I WAS ALONE AT THIS VISIT AND DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT. AFTER 6 WEEKS AND NO PROBLEMS OR SICKNESS I WENT FOR MY 2ND ULTRA SOUND AND THERE WAS NO VISIBLE HEARTBEAT. I WAS CONFUSED BECAUSE I HAD NO SIGN OF ANY PROBLEMS. LUCKILY MY HUSBAND WAS THERE FOR ME. THE NEXT DAY I HAD A D & C AND THAT WAS 2 WEEKS AGO. WE ARE GOING TO TRY AGAIN IN 6 WEEKS.
THANKS AND GOODLUCK
2 Miscarriages...My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years. We decided to start TTC in September ‘08. We got pregnant on our first try and were very ecstatic. Sadly that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 6 weeks. Four days later my father had a stroke. Luckily my body took care of the miscarriage and I did not have to have a D&C. We waited out a cycle and then started to TTC again. We got pregnant again in Dec ’08 and got our BFP the day before Christmas. We were very excited but still a bit hesitant due to the last miscarriage. Everything seemed to be progressing well, I had morning sickness terribly and was on medication to stop the vomiting. I had a doctor’s appointment and exam at 8 weeks where she said everything looked good, but they wouldn’t do an ultrasound. I went in at 9 weeks to find the heartbeat and they were not able to with the Doppler so they just told me that it was difficult that early on. Then I went in again at the end of 9 weeks to try again and they still couldn’t find it but would not do an ultrasound unless I paid the $200. I went in again at 11 weeks and once again they couldn’t find the heartbeat so the doctor finally did an ultrasound. This is when we found out that the pregnancy had stopped around 6 weeks. So there was a sac but no baby present and everything was only measuring at 6 weeks. We were devastated. I cry all the time and feel so hopeless that I will ever have children.
The day after we found out about this miscarriage my husband lost his job. I just feel like the world is against me. My sister in-law is pregnant and due a month after I was going to be due. I feel angry and hurt all the time. I know it isn’t anyone’s fault but the feelings are so strong. One of the worst feelings is that my sister in-law hasn’t even said anything to me, she didn’t offer and condolences or anything.
My husband has been pretty amazing and understanding. It is still hard though, he heals faster than I do and has a much more positive outlook on life. I am so afraid he blames me for not being able to carry a baby for him. I worry our marriage will fall apart.
My storyMy husband and I tried for almost a year to get prego after I got off the pill. I was begining to wonder if I could have kids since it was taking so long. Then on December 28 2008 I tested positive on an at home pregnancy test. I confirmed it on January 12 2009. Then on January 28 at 8 wks I called my Dr's b/c I was bleeding. We found out that I had a blighted ovum which is a form of a miscarriage. I had a d&c on January 30th. I had my follow up apt w/the Dr 2 days ago on February 13th. We're gonna try again. I hope my story can help someone else who is going through something similiar.
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