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My friend got pregnant and she didn't want her baby at first. It was a surprise for her and her boyfriend. My husband and I had been trying. We finally got pregnant but then lost the baby in September 2006. (Like others I've read here.) But we waited a little and now we're six weeks pregnant again!

It's been hard on my best friend too and her attitude towards her little one has changed over the past months and she's actually due any day now! So now I have a little one to be an auntie to and I get to be a mom too. It's been a hard road but no matter how hard it's been I know that the kids are worth it.


Melissa

Unplanned and Anxiety-Ridden

I am a young lady confronting a most unpleasant reality. I've found that I'm six weeks pregnant, unmarried, living in a very expensive city, and a poor working student. The father is much older than I (he's 39, I'm 21), and urging abortion; I had an abortion nearly two years ago and have a hard time imagining again undergoing such a traumatic experience.

I'm torn between this instinctive urge to grow big and give birth, something I feel which is so esoteric and personal; and the reality that I don't have much money, I am quite young, I've not progressed in my education and career and life as much as I'd like, I'm not sure I have the support of my lover (and I'm almost certain my family won't help me much), and that the United States is pathetic in the benefits and health care provided for mothers, specifically poor, single mothers. But until the revolution, I must deal with this reality.


PoetaBoricua

i'm stuck in a position I don't wanna be!

Hi, My name is Yvette and I’m 17 years old and I found out that I am pregnant!!! I'm so scared. I don’t know what to do. I love this guy very much! He is 18. We broke up because all we do is fight. He doesn't want to be with me any more. When I found out and I told him that I was pregnant he didn't know what to do. He doesn't want it at all but I do.

I'm already attached to my baby and I just don't want to give it up like that. Even though I know me and him fight a lot – but why should I take a life away! It's not the baby’s fault. He wanted a baby a while ago but now it's like he hates me. He doesn't want it and so much other stuff. The reason why he doesn't want it, is because he's going to the air force and they’re telling him he has to be married if he has a kid.

I know we're not ready for all that and it's so hard on me because I’m going to feel like I messed everything up for him and his future but at the same time I don't care because I know I can take care of this baby by myself! I feel like I don't need him and I can do it alone. I’m stuck in a position I wish I wasn't in!! I’m so lost and I don’t know what to do!! He’s pushing and pushing me to have an abortion!! What kind of a guy is he? I loved him so much and I wouldn't think he would ever do this to me and it’s happening and I don’t know what to do any more!!!


Yvette

PREGNANT!

I am almost eight weeks pregnant and it has been such a hard two months for me. I first thought I had a severe stomach virus because I was throwing-up constantly, but when I missed my period I knew something was up so I took a test and it was positive! I freaked out totally. I am a nurse and I know how this happens but wasn't quite prepared. I have been dealing with terrible nausea since then and I am amazed how something so tiny can cause such sickness.

I have a son who is 11 and I remember pigging out the entire time I carried him, but this pregnancy is very different. I was 22 then and 34 now. I am married and financially stable but this is still very challenging. I had my first ultrasound at 6 weeks. The doctor likes to make sure the baby is in the right spot. He or she was. I couldn't see much, just the sack and a tiny flicker that I was told was the beginning of a heartbeat. That was neat!

I am on medication now for the nausea and it's somewhat better. I have my two-month check-up next week. I'll have to have a c-section because my first one was. Well that's it...each day is an adventure and I am getting more and more adjusted to the fact that my life has been changed forever.


Lesa

What A Whirlwind!!

Well after having my 18th birthday in Spain - my partner surprised me by taking me on holiday for the big day - we came home and carried on with life as normal, but I felt different. I've been pregnant before but it ended at 10 weeks with a miscarriage, but I 'felt' different and thought I recognized this feeling so after 3 negative tests I decided to ignore it.

But, after waiting another 2 weeks I decided to do one more test just to be sure and tried a different brand and got a positive result - after calculating and a few abdominal pain scares we discovered I'm between 10 and 14 weeks gone - we've seen our baby on screen after a stay in hospital with threatened miscarriage but all seems to be ok and all clear now. The only real problem I've had is major morning, noon and night sickness though its not the actual vomiting that bugs me, its the constant nausea in between and the not being able to even look or smell certain foods without gagging.

Luckily its begun to wear off now after trying every single tip on the web and from friends and family but to no avail - hopefully by Christmas it will have stopped and I’ll be able to enjoy my pregnancy. Fingers crossed - though I do think I might attempt to kill anybody else who suggests ginger anything: D


Bridie