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Aliah and Yousef's story

My name is Aliah and my husband's name is Yousef. This is our story We are Syrian and in our community it is very important to have children. It is considered something that people should do, so it's very rare that you meet Syrian couples who don't have children after they are married. We got married when I was 22 and he was 27. We waited a few years after getting married to try to conceive, as I was still in school and he was completing his residency at a hospital. When I was 25 and he was 30 we decided it would be the perfect time to settle down and have children. We began planning a future together and working to build a stable home for our children. We decided not to let our families know that we were trying and we wanted it to be a surprise. We tried for about a year and I still hadn't been able to conceive. We decided not to make a big deal out of things, and we were just going to let things play themselves out. When I was 27 and he was 32, he began to worry that one of us was infertile. I was scared that it was me, and I scheduled an appointment with a doctor so we could find out if we would be able to have children or not. We found out that Yousef couldn't conceive children We were very saddened by the news, and Yousef became very upset. I reassured him and told him not to worry about anything, and that everything would work itself out. Eventually he came to terms with the fact that he couldn't conceive. At first we decided that we just wouldn't have children and that we would live our life and enjoy it as much as possible without kids. But Yousef began to feel as if our life would be empty without children there, and that we wouldn't be as happy as we could possibly be, so we began looking for other ways to have children. We decided that the best way to do it was to adopt. today I am 32 and 37 and we have a beautiful six month old daughter named Laila and a three year old son named Muhammed. That is my story

Aliah and Yousef

Aliah

It does work

Hi to all. IVF can work. We tried for 10 years, and then decided to get help. It took 5 years of tests and tests and tests to find out that my husband has chronic bilateral absence of the vas deferens and therefore we could not have children naturally. We tried IVF and I produced 26 mature follicles. 19 were inseminated directly with sperm taken from my husband by biopsy, 15 matured and one was implanted. It did not take. 8 were then frozen. We waited 6 months and tried again, unfreezing 3 to get 2 transferrable embryos. Neither took again and we were devastated. We had 5 left frozen, but did we want to go through that again? We waited a year, and tried one more time. 3 were unfrozen but didn't survive the thawing, so they unfroze the remaining 2 and one survived. The one remaining embryo was implanted and our beautiful baby boy was born in May of this year. I can't imagine life without him anymore and still hold him when he naps and as much as I can the rest of the time. It can work. I found that the last time we had to destress entirely, so i went alone to be implanted, and then went to a hotel for 5 days for a staycation, and rested/relaxed/destressed the entire time. It was a great rest, and i fully believe it was that (and all the prayers) that caused the final egg to work. Don't give up, it can be done.
We are now debating about trying again, but what if it doesn't work, how do we go through the emotional turmoil of negative results after having a positive? It's a blessing to have my boy, but I still have dreams of six children.

Aliah

My story

Hi everyone! My husband and I have been trying to concieve for almost 5 years now. We were told a couple months ago that my tubes were blocked and my husbands sperm didnt have any structure. I was shocked to hear that both of us had something going on causing infertility. It has been very difficult trying to deal with all this and it makes me feel better that I am not alone and infertility is more common than I thought. I was starting to feel like we were the only ones not having a baby and that something was wrong with me because of it. My husband and I have decided to go ahead with IVF and we have our consult appointment for that on the 23rd of this month. I know this is not always a gaurantee and that scares me but it is worth it to us to go ahead a try it anyways. Does anybody have any success stories with IVF?

Aliah

ALWAYS KEEPING THE FAITH

Hi...
this is to reply Mary' letter. Ur not alone. Im have been married for 3 yrs and still have not concieved. We started trying 6 months before we got married, still engaged. We started getting worried when 2 years elapsed with nothing. I also get terrible period cramps and I thought that would pass I grow older. The issue stigmatization kills me... at work, around the community, circle of friends. I feel so alone, and lost. My husband is supportive and is willing to try all because he too is so fond of babies. Im also from Africa and ur success in marriage is determined by the number of children one has and if you dont have any.... ur are really not recognised. Thinking that I never realy struggled for anything and I was very determined in everything I wanted to achieve.... and this one thing is so difficult to achive.

I am still holding on....very hopeful

Ditjonko

Success

Hi all,I got married in 2002.since then we have been trying for a baby. I
Had 5 iuis and ivf.still no luck.I was extremely devastated . I felf that everybody except me having babies. Onedy I said enough is enough and Iam not going to see any doctors. I stated working as preschool teacher and having fun with the kids. After a year I went to see different doc and took clomid, guess what iwas pregnant and delivered ahealthy baby boy. My advice is don,t stress out ,enjoy life one day You will get pregnant.have faith in god.

Arthy