Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
My baby boy
I was 37 weeks pregnant and it was a wednesday i woke up and new something was wrong. he hadnt moved much threw the night and he usually didnt stop. I said to my boyfreind before he left for work that something was wrong but thought hed wake up soon enough by the time lunch time came he still hadnt moved and i knew he was gone. i went to the hospital and they confirmed what i already knew, my baby boy had died. i was so shocked my pregnancy had been perfect and now all of a sudden he was dead. My baby boy Sebastian was born on the 17 april 08 and he was abosolutly gorgeous. I will think about him every day for the rest of my life.
My Heartbreak at 18On the 30th of June 2008 I woke up at 5:30 am for pt. I started bleeding right after I awoke and thought nothing of it "maybe it's just my period" was my first thought. Well at about 7:45 am when I returned the cramping began. The cramps were so bad that I almost passed out. My Fiance took me to the ER. The ER sent me to the OB/GYN clinic on the second floor where I sat form 9:30 am until 1 pm. At that time i was then escorted back down to the ER by the supervisor of the clinic. I then met with a doctor who told me that I was in fact 8 weeks pregnant. He left the room to get the results of my blood test. Not even a half hour later did he return to tell me that I did have a miscarriage, that my body had actually aborted my child. Well at the age of 18 I was told a miscarriage is somewhat common and that it didn't mean that I couldn't have children in the future, just that this wasn't my time to be a mother.
My Two Guardian AngelsI became pregnant after 9 months of dating my boyfriend. We were both nervous and scared but knew we wanted to continue the pregnancy. Everything went well until my 19 week. It was one morning I woke up not feeling well. I thought it was from not sleeping well the night before. I went to the bathroom and noticed a small red stain. I called the doctor and he advised me to stay home from work and rest. That night I developed a fever and cramping. As I was lying down on my bed my water broke, I couldnít believe this was happening to me. Everything was going so well, what happened? I called my boyfriend and told him to meet me in the hospital. What was supposed to have been an hour and ½ drive for him, only took him less than an hour to get there. Once I reached the hospital I started hemorrhaging. At that moment I knew the baby will not survive. I was in a state of shock through all of this. I couldnít comprehend anything the doctors were saying to me. They told us the baby has a fatal heartbeat and it will not live. My boyfriend and I cried the entire time. Later that night I was induced. I was in labor for 9 hours and delivered a baby boy, we named him Jeffrey Vincent. At first I was scared to see our son but then my boyfriend said he looks exactly like me and at that moment I wanted to see him. I was shocked to see how developed he was and how much he looked like me. He had my nose, my lips and my fingers.
I was in pain not to see him alive. I wanted to take him home, keep him close to me.
Not knowing how to deal with the babyís lost I tried to put everything behind me and move on. Well, this led into a depression. In the mist of all of this I moved from the city to the suburbs to be with my boyfriend, which led me into a deeper depression. I was away from my family and friends. I needed stability in my life and I didnít have it. I was scared, lost and had no one to talk to, I was so alone. I spent months crying. All I wanted was to escape, to disappear from the world. Not knowing how to handle the lost of my baby. I spend that year depressed and sad. With the help of my therapist I learned to talk about what had happened, talk about my baby and face my fears. It took a toll in our relationship but my boyfriend never gave up. He was very supportive through this ordeal. The following year my boyfriend and I married. We waited 9 months to get pregnant again. Now I am married and in the process of buying home. I finally feel I am in a good place in my life to start a family.
My pregnancy once again was going well until I reached my 17 week. I was at work in the bathroom when my water broke. I couldnít believe it. All along I was naïve to think something like this couldnít happen to me again. Well, it did. We rushed to the hospital where they did a sonogram and told us there are no fluids and there is a 5 % chance for the baby to live. It was a nightmare. I am re-living everything all over again. I spent the next 3 days in the hospital in the hope I would regain fluids but didnít. The doctor told us we can terminate the pregnancy or wait a few more days to see if I can recoup some fluids. My husband and I decided to wait and see. My heart was aching. I couldnít stand the thought of losing another child. I was angry, angry at God to let this happened again .
Later that week we saw doctors and specialists to figure out why this happened. It was an exhausting and draining week. After seeing the specialist he told us we would have to end the pregnancy as soon as possible because it could endanger my life. That day I went to the hospital to be induced. Once again why me? I failed at the only gift I could give to my husband, a child. I was in labor for 10 hours and deliverd another baby boy. We named him Jared Jason. He looked exactly like his father.
My life will never be the same. I walk around with an emptiness that could never be filled. The pain and the hurt will never go away.
I now have two boys watching over us. I miss them and wish they were here with mommy and daddy.
joanne, Nesconset, NY
DylanI had 8 months of my pregnancy left when I found out that my sons heart had stopped beating, it was a massive shock as only 1 week earlier I had had an ultra sound to make sure everything was okay. it was a week after my 19th birthday when I gave birth to him, it was the most awful and heart breaking thing to happen I didn't know anything about child birth so the whole situation was new for me and very scary. What hurt the most was that hundreds of other mothers left the hospital with there babies and I didn't , i had to say goodbye to my son after carrying him almost 9 months, I think about it every single day and I am scared to try again. My partner was very supportive the whole time and that helped, but we had bought so many things for our baby and made so many sacrifices that we are still getting our lives back on track 9 months later. I feel terrible for anyone who has to go through this and I hope one day I'll have another baby.
My Little Angel LoveThis is my story of my little girl March11,2008 i found out i was pregnat. i was shock scared becouse im 22 yrs old still live with my parents. they were not happy. i told the babydaddy he said oh really im going to the club. so about parents they whanted me to get a abortion and i said no so my dad said i have about 3months to stay in the house. so i was stress i had to do everything on my own know that the baby daddy is not there. May 21,2008 i felt a small cramp i didnt think much of it so i was starting to stay calm praying to God to help me one of my manager said to me start to think God for what you do have. that is what i did the next day the cramps was hurting bad still calm and i knew i had to go to the prnatal check up. i called the doctor to tell her what is going on i did not here from her. May23,2008 it was extream during the pregnacy i never got sick i did not throw up but on Friday the cramps was off and on. went to the doctor for the apointment she told me when i am 16weeks the uters streches. did not think much of it untill 1200am the cramps where so bad i had to call the doctor this is after i song to my baby prayed for my baby. i felt alot of discharge come out of me then i blood alot that is when i knew i was getting a miscarrige. went to the Hospital and the doctor said i was getting a misscarige i pledded with God save my baby scriptures came to my head. as they stroll me down the hall i saw my baby for the last time she was still alive the fluid was running out i told the doctor is there anything you can do May 24,2008 At 758pm Angel Love went with the Lord she was 16weeks And 6 Days Mommy loves u Angel Love.
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