Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
don't give up
I am 30 yrs old. My family, husband co workers have been driving me crazy about having a child. I was on the depo shot for 5 years and finally decided that I was ready to get pregnant. I stopped the depo shot and after 6 months started to worry about infertility due to the shot. After reading hundreds of horror stories about it and deep ending because I didn't know if I could get pregnant, I called the doctor to see if there was anything else I could do. She just said to keep trying and try not to think about it. When your ready, you are ready! Two months later I was pregnant. I went in for first sonagram was 5 weeks 5 days, we heard the heartbeat. I had some bleeding but no cramping at that time. They told me that the yolk sac around the baby was as big as the gestational sac and that was a concern. I was instructed to take it easy. They scheduled a second sonagram for a week later and told me they had seen this before and that things could be normal in a week. The next day the cramps started and after 3 long and painful days I miscarried. Upon ultrasound after, the doctor glimpsed what is known as a septate uterus. This is the cause of my loss and usualy not detected until several miscarriages. I will be having the surgery to correct this in a couple of months. I am sorry for everyones loss. Don't give up. Good luck.
Maternal IntutionOn the 7th may 2008 I suffered my first miscarriage at 6 weeks, which I suppose is practically nothing to most people, but it still effected me in ways I couldn't imagine.
Around mid April I began to feel different - seemingly constant indigestion, extreme sensitivity to smells (even ones no one else could apparantly sense), unbearable nausea and tiredness. All being early signs of pregnancy. I was convinced that I was in the early stages of pregancy. I know my body better than anyone else and I knew that something was wrong (or infact very right).
In the run up, and following, 3 negative pregnancy tests I was told by my family and partner that I was perhaps exagerating my symptoms, and by my GP that the likely hood of me being pregnant were very slim.
So imagine my pride when following a forth pregnancy test and a blood test I was proven right. Finding out that I was pregnant was probably the best day of my life, and I really can't explain the feeling. What added to my happiness was that I was seemingly so in tune with my body and knew my body so well to actually stay convinced through failed tests and negative attitudes.
Unfortuantly, this happiness was short lived.
I had gone to bed the previous night with cramps, which I assumed to be a normal sign of pregnancy as they weren't painful.
When I woke in the morning I had heavily bled throughout the night and this bleeding continued for the best part of a week. Needless to say a blood test to check my HCG levels confirmed my worst fears.
I can't compare a miscarriage to the experience of losing some one you've known for a long time, or even the loss felt by parents of stillborn children or deceased children, but the grief and loss is still there. After a lot of crying, soul searching and trying to find an explaination as to why this happened, I realised that there was nothing I could have done. I think this realisation is very important because I spent a lot of time blaming myself, as I've learnt many other women do.
My advice to others is to grieve in your own way, but not to blame yourself. Allow others to help you and offer a shoulder to cry on, because I don't know how I would have coped on my own.
The love of my life, My AngelIt's sad because I am now lost, even though I have two other children to live for. I remeber everything like it was yesterday. I first had some brown spotting and cramps that would run throug my stomach non stop.At this time I was dumbfounded b/c I knew that it was abnormal. So I called the OB nurse explained everything to her and once she told me that it could be life threating I ran out of work. I made it to the hospital and the first steps they took was to draw some blood , after that the Doctor had to give me a full body exam. Right from there I knew something was wrong b/c the Doctor could not hear a fetal heart beat. The Doctor told me not to worry because everything was going to be alright. That put a big smile on my face. After the exam the Doctor sent me to get an ultrasound. At this time I am nervous, praying to GOD thinking that it would make a difference and I knew my baby was gone(went to Heaven). I read the Doctors face expression. The Ultrasound Tech told me that my ANGEL was only measuring at 6 weeks and there was no fetal heartbeat. My ANGEL should of been 10 weeks at the time. My heart is broken. Having a miscarriage took so much away from me. I am now anemic, I heard from two different Doctors that I could have died. I am taking different medications. I am physically, emotionally, mentally damaged for life. It was a very long process for me after taking two different doses of misoprostol and getting a D&C. I can now remember that I have two healthy and beautiful children at home and they need me, just as much as I need them. Now I know that everything happens for a reason. I blame myself, at one point a time I was blaming GOD. It's so many women out there who get abortions for many different reasons. Then you have those women out there who would love to be great mothers and can not even have children. Then you have mothers like me, who hopes get all high ready to be a mother of three and it does not work out that way. Peace and Love for all the women who expierenced everything that I went through and even worst. Just pray and everything will be alright. GOD BLESS
Rest in Peace Angel
I hope that you will come to me in my dreams.
bicornuate utruscan someone please help me....i been married for 6 yrs now..i had a laparoscopic surgery to remove my cyst. my doctor told me that was the reason for me not getting pregnant .im still not pregnant ...its been a yr know ,,help..help//
Is there hope?Im 17 and i found out i was pregnant at 4 weeks. I was so happy from the second i found out along with the father. I am about to graduate and now have baby as well! well at 13 weeks I we went to hear the heart beat but we found out there was no longer a heart beat to hear... we cried and cried and that night my water broke. it was just me and him, we were both scared but he did so good and helped me so much. I ended up having it in my tub, i didnt want to have a D&C because of the pictures i had seen. so i had it at home the blood was horrifying but we did it. i had to then put my baby into a cup...yes a cup, and take it to the hospital for them to test to see why this happened. this was the hardest part. i just held it and looked at it for a while then my b/f told me we had to go i was bleeding way to much. the DR was great and i'm feeling a little better now but seeing other people pregnamt gets me upset and jealous. Now my only concern is can i get pregnant again? will this happen every time? are there people who had a miscarge the 1st time and then a healthy baby the next? if u can ancer my questions pleace right to me ASAP. Will i ever carry a baby that is heathy to full term and how long to i need to wait. we would love to have one as soon as we can..... I know i'm young and i should wait and i would have but after feeling that way and seeing that baby we want another. we will be great parents so please someone give me hope..
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