Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
i've had 2 miscarriage's
hay i just wanted to share some things of how i have coped with having 2 miscarriage's. it has been a hard 2 years for me because i have wanted to have a baby for so long..and when i finally got pregnant i was so delighted just like anyone else would be. i was only 2 weeks when i found out i was pregnant and i couldn't wait to tell every 1 but when i was due in for my first scan i was getting so nervous. i arrived at the hospital and was broughted in to see my baby on the screen but then i was told my baby died at just 13 weeks. i was devistated and couldn't understand why me?
so i got pregnant this year and the samething. i was delighted but fell very sick so i was brought into hospital. i was dehydrated i had protien in my urine and i had high blood pressure so i was kept for monitering because i was only 11 weeks and i shouldnt have high blood pressure this early.
it was too early and then on thursday i was getting period cramps and some spotting so i told the nurse. she tried to reasure me everything was going to be ok but as the evening went by the pains got stronger and the blood got heavier and it was happening all over again. i went into toilet and passed it. it has been 5 weeks since i lost it and i'm longing for another so bad. i was told i had fibroids on my uthrus about 2mm, that could have been the cause who knows... it is just very common now when i had my 1st misscarriage i heard of loads of people having them. its so sad and i lie thinking what i could have done to prevent it, but there is no point in beating yourself up about it. it is just a way of god saying now isn't the right time..
i hope my story has been help full to some people love catherinexx
Believing for another miracleI am 36. I have three boys ages 14, 12 and 7. I was pretty wild when I was younger, and all three of my boys were conceived out of wed lock. I had never had a miscarriage and I guess I thought it wouldn't happen to me. I changed my life around, gave my life to The Lord and became a member of a local church where I met my husband. We were married two years ago. He didn't have any biological children and we couldn't wait to have children of our own under the covenant of marriage.
We tried for two years to get pregnant. Then on March 25th, I found out I was pregnant. This pregnancy was NOT like my other three, as I barely felt pregnant. I only took a test because I was late and I am never late. I just figured that this one was different, and my husband and I rejoiced at our much awaited miracle. We told EVERYONE and were sooo excited. Last Saturday, when I was 6 weeks along, I began to spot. I was soooo afraid! I hadn't had any spotting with my other pregnancies and I was terrified. I couldn't fathom losing this baby...not after two years of trying. But as much as I didn't want that to happen, that is what happened. I bled heavier and heavier and by the next day I knew our miracle was gone. The Dr.s office said I didn't need to come in, since we had no insurance, unless I was showing signs of infection, etc.
This has been one of the longest, hardest weeks of my life. I do not understand WHY? I keep asking God WHY did this happen? I believe there was something wrong with the baby from the beginning, as I barely had symptoms and just didn't feel pregnant like I did with my other three, but I don't understand why this had to happen to us?
I want to try again right away, but then I don't. I am soo afraid now. I don't think I could live through this again yet I cannot allow myself to live in fear.
The devil stole my baby but I refuse to let him steal my hope. I will continue to believe there is a healthy baby waiting for us in the future.
My heart goes out to each and every one of you that has experienced a loss. The pain cannot be described. You are in my prayers.
We will keep trying until our dream comes to pass.
Love to you all.
Spontaneous MiscarriageI tested positive when using home pregnancy test on 30/3 and happily shared this news to my hubby. He/she is our first child and we wait eagerly to have our OB visit.
we scheduled our visit for 10/4 but on 9/4, i started to have slight red bleeding in the afternoon. I called my hubby and we went straight to another OB clinic. I had some scanning and i did see the sac, abt 6mm according to the doc. The doc gave me an injection and oral medication which was suppose to stop the bleeding. Unfortunately, i'm bleeding more heavily, period-like with some clots-tissues thingy passed out everytime i went to toilet.
Slight cramping at night and we crossed our fingers that the worst had not happened. Next morning, the bleeding didn't subside, and we made another visit to the OB. Another scanning done and this time we didn't see the sac anymore. I can't believe it and Doc confirmed i'd had miscarriage.
He said i shld go for D&C and arrange the necessary procedures to get me admitted. I called my cousin who's a doc also and he asked me to get 2nd opinion.
We went back to the OB clinic where my initial appointment should have been held and the Doc gave me a full check-up and confirmed she can't see anything inside my womb. She prescribed some oral medicine which can help to clean the remaining pregnacy tissues out from my body.
This they called spontaneous miscarriage which happens naturally and I do not necessary need to go for D&C as our body will automatically expelled the remaining. It's like having a heavier period.
Nothing much can be done to prevent this as this is the natural process of our body rejecting defect embryo.
For all women on the same boat with me, i understand your feeling, just be tough as the baby will come back to us one day..maybe with a few brothers and sisters together.
pregnancy lossI am or was 22 weeks pregnant. My first baby. I was so excited I quit smoking, drinking, ate healthy I followed all my books, advice and took folic acid. I found out at 20weeks that I was pregnant so it had come as a shock but a nice suprise. Me and my partner were over the moon. I started my baby diary and I had planned the names. We told everybody our news- at 22weeks I thought it was pretty safe to tell everybody- even strangers in the que at asda (I've had no bleeding or anything). My bump was noticble and my body changed, I was so happy. It was our scan day when I found out. Our first scan, thats when they told me the fetus had come away and I was to expect a miscarrige. I couldn't believe it. I just thought I was to have a photo and see him/her waving on the screen. I just couldnt believe what they told me. It made sense because a few days before the midwife couldn't find the heart beat which you should be able to easy at 22weeks! She just said he was hiding. Now they've sent me home and I have to wait for nature to take over- either that or I can have a pill to start the contractions or a medical termination. I am so confused. My partner is just taking drugs, fighting, drinking, hes not here for me. he says I'm selfish and that I'm attention seeking. I just dont think I can cope. I keep wondering if I'm being punished for things in the past. I'm 19 and I didn't expect to be going through something like this. its one of those things that so bad you think it'd never happen to you. Danielle
A Missing PieceI had been about 4 days late for my period. I went to buy a home pregnancy test on a whim. I was shocked to see that it was positiive. I called my boyfriends office, but they said he left for a moment. I grabbed my keys and drove there. I showed him the test and he was stunned. We had no money saved, we weren't living together and our relationship wasn't solid. We were not ready for a baby. He expressed that feeling and said he wanted to "do it the right way." I made the decision to have the baby and started doing all the right things. I took my vitamins, got plenty of rest, even started wearing my seatbelt. While I was doing all this, my boyfriend and I were fighting. He did not want this baby. Although, at certain points, he would talk about names or skin tone (he is black, I am white). I started to think he was coming around, but just when that happened, I was let down. I started coming to grips with the fact that I would be a single mom. I did know he would be there for the baby, but didn't know where we would end up. I went for an ultrasound on March 24th. That was the day my life was torn apart. As I was looking at the monitor and saw my baby's little legs and arms, the doctor told me there was no heartbeat. I started sobbing uncontrollably. I asked if there was anyway they could be wrong. They told me no. I imediately called my boyfriend, he didn't believe me. i could sense the worry and the loss in his voice. He comforted me when we got together. He was the only one I wanted around me. I had my D&C on March 28, 2008. I woke up saying "they took my baby." I was devastated. My boyfriend was going to come and spend the night with me, but never showed. I felt rejected by my baby and my man. I was completely overwhelmed. I was angry, sad, disappointed. Those were just some of the emotions I was feeling. I felt abandonned. I was angry with the world. My boyfirend explained that he was too upset to be near me. He couldn't handle it. He was so hurt because, he too had lost his child, even though it wasn't the right time. He also felt guilty, like because he stressed me out, that was the reason I lost the baby. I assured him it wasn't, but at the same time, I thought maybe he did. That was my anger. Everyone told me "everything happens for a reason," or "there will be other children" or even "at least you know your body works". None of these things helped me, they made me angrier. I felt like all my friends were walking around in their perfect little worlds and mine was shattered. Today, I would have been 11 weeks. I broke down to my friend and she held me. The image of the ultrasound keeps popping up in my mind and makes me cry everytime. My boyfriend and I are fighting. He hasn't been able to open up and talk about his feelings and its tearing us furthur apart. I feel alone. I know I'm not the only one who has gone through this, but this is the most awful experience of my life. I feel like a piece of me, that I never knew was there, was taken from me. I feel empty inside. I know time will heal, but right now, I'm dealing with so much. I lost my baby, am losing my boyfriend, trying to balance work and Graduate school, and dealing with some financial issues. I am mad with God. I have always tried to do good and I just wonder why this is happening to me. What did I do to deserve this? I just hope that one day, I will find comfort. I know this has been a long story and if you have made it this far, thank you. I have actually found comfort in strangers more than friends/family. I know that seems strange, but thats how I'm dealing. I looked online for any article or something similiar, but I found nothing. No one had written about their boyfriend not being sure about the pregnancy and then not being there emotionally after the miscarriage because he couldn't deal with his own feeling and couldn't express them to his girl. Maybe this will find someone with a similiar situation to mine. Thank you for reading and I pray that this emptiness inside diminishes someday soon.
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