Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
2 losses in 4 months
I lost my first baby due to a blighted ovum at 6 weeks. I had a D&E and got pregnant 2 months later.
I was 8 weeks pregnant when we went to the E.R. due to bleeding Turns out I just had a slight tear in my cervix. We went to the Dr. the next day, and we heard that beautiful sound that we all dream off, that strong heartbeat. That eased our pain and dried our tears.
Well as time passed, I kept bleeding and everyone assured me that everything was fine, but this time I felt like something bad was happening to me. On tuesday I was bleeding a lot more and I was also passing small clots that were gradually getting bigger. I called my Dr. and he said to come in first thing tomorrow morning.
When we got there he was very optimistic. But when we saw the picture of our baby, there was no movement nor was there that flicker of the heartbeat. This was a shock to all of us. When I looked at my Dr. He turned to me with tear-filled eyes and said "I am so sorry." The baby only measured 8 weeks and it should have measured 11 weeks.
We scheduled a D&E for the next morning. When we got home I noticed that I was cramping so much more than before. I was really afraid that this would happen at home so we decided to go through with this procedure asap. We went to the hospital around 11:30. I answered many questions and got poked with an I.V. When I was in the operating room waiting for all the nurses so many things were going through my head. The next thing I knew I felt someone hold my hand and when I looked up it was my Dr. The nurse said they were going to make me fall asleep. I then felt a warm tingling sensation going up my arm and then to my neck. The next thing I knew I was waking up in recovery. The surgery went great (given the circumstances).
The next plan is to have the specialists test my blood. They also sent the placenta and the fetus to the UNMC. We should know in a few weeks what is going on with me. We are just praying that it is something that can be fixed. Jason and I want to be parents more than anything. And we are waiting patiently for God to answer our prayers.
God Bless you all
lossi got married later in life. i married my husband in december 2006. we were both 33. in june 2007 i concieved our first child everything was goin great until we went for our first scan i was told that my baby was dead. i had felt nothing at all not even a twinge.
they told me i needed a d&c but they couldnt do it until two days later so i went home with my dad baby still inside me. my husband is a quite emotional man and was very cut up over it.
we went back two days later and had a d&c, we decided that we didnt want to see the baby or know the sex.
in nov 2007 i was shocked to discover that i was pregnant again i decided that i wouldnt tell anyone as i did the first time. i went for my first scan last week and everyting is going ok this time so far so good. im 17weeks and 4 days. we are so excited.
the reason im writing this is because today i was on my way to work when i lost conrtrol of my car and crashed into a hedge i went straight through the hedge and got stck in the car i was starting to panic. i rang my brother who had to get me out through the sunroof it was terrifying.
today i came close to losing my baby again and i couldnt bebar it.
please god i will carry this baby to term
Pregnant at 13When i was 12 i started going out with this guy and he was 13. Its hard to believe but we were in love even though we were so young.
When i was 13 i fell pregnant which wasn't surprising since we never used protection. He broke up with me a week after i fell pregnant and i was devastated and somehow i knew i was pregnant at 1 week.
i continued to beleive i was and then i missed a period and it was all too much for me so i tried to ignore it. i was still desperately in love with the father and i had to see him everyday at school. i eventually told him and he acted as though he didn't care (maybe he didn't beleive me?). i remember feeling so alone and all i had was this baby.
I did a test at about 10 weeks and then i knew i couldn't ignore it. i remember getting up before everyone else so that i could throw up without anyone else knowing and belly was getting bigger and my boobs were to and my mum was even commenting. i eventually had to tell my mum. It was the hardest thing i have ever had to do.
She ran up to me in shock and hugged me then she went into a panic and asked how far along i was cause she knew we hadn't been together for months. SHe called the doctors then she cancelled that apointment then she called the abortion place. That was it, i had no choice in the decision. i had to get an abortion.
i hadn't really thought much about what i was going to do with the baby but i just assumed i would definitely be having it so i was really close to the baby. the abortion was in 2 days time so i cried like ive never cried for the whole day leading up to it.
my mum calmed down and we talked about it heaps (it must have been really hard for her) and she said to me "it's ok to have an abortion because the little soul inside inside you Knows you are too young and it will wait until you are ready.
So we went to the abortion place and i got an ultrasound and i saw my baby on the screen and i had to fight back the tears. I was told i was about 18 weeks pregnant but she made it look younger on the screen so that it was allowed to be aborted. i never found out what sex it was but i felt it was a boy.
I then had to go into a counseling room and they asked me are you sure you want to do this and i looked at my mum and she was mouthing the words yes please, so i said yes even though i realy didn't want to. then i had to lay on the table while the doctor held my arm and i screemed at them and begged my mum not to let them and i was crying and i remember them putting the needle in my arm and i thought , oh no its over there is nothing i can do now, as i fell asleep.
i woke up still crying. it was all pretty much forgotten about straight away. i shut of to the pain of it and rebelled badly as i got older. i am now 19 and i have a 2 year old son (i had him when i was 16, a much happier story).
i have always regretted having the abortion but after being a mum for 2 years now, i can see i wouldn't have been able to do it at the very young age of 13.
Recurrent MiscarriagesI am wondering if there is anybody else out there who has had a simillar problem such as mine?
We recently just experienced our 5th miscarriage. I saw a specialist after the 3rd, they all seem to end at about 8 1/2 weeks. Each one with a strong heartbeat that disapears. I have tested positive for both MTHFR genes. I also have lupus anticoagulant (autoimmune disorder). To treat these the dr. put me on a baby asprin daily and heparin injections.
The 4th pregnancy ended much differently than the others, it never developed properly leading them to believe it was simply chromosonal and not a good pregnancy. More than likely they said it was not related to my blood clotting disorders.
The 5th one was going very well, strong heartbeat at 5 weeks 5 days, then checked at 7 weeks 4 days and yesterday at 9 weeks no heartbeat. It was measuring 9 weeks and 1 or 2 days so the heart just stopped. I will have a d&c on Thursday.
They first were telling me that it seems most likely that the autoimmune disorder is why I am miscarrying but now I am wondering if the MTHFR is more of a contributing factor? Any advice from anyone who has a simillar situation.
This is a story of an AngelThis is a story of an Angel........
On March 4, 2008, I gave birth to my son Josiah, he was 34w 1d. It wasn't a common delivery since I found out the day before that he had passed while still inside me. I know that at this point I should be happy and ready to give birth to a strong and healthy newborn, but god had other plans for my baby Josiah.
This is so extremley hard to sit and write about this and I know like for me that you are probably in shock! The doctors have yet to give me an explanation and I will not find out any news until I get an autopsy report back which will be in a few weeks.
You know, the morning Josiah passed, I felt something was wrong I think I was in denial. I felt Josiah move about 2:45am and that was the last time. I woke up in the morning and ate with my 3 year old and then went to target. I went and bought more Diapers and things for Josiah, ate lunch and went home. When I got home he still wasn't moving. That's when I called the doctor an d was told to go to L and D.
I knew deep down something was wrong but I didn't want to face the truth. I got to the hospital at 4pm and by 4:40, after hearing no heartbeat on the fetal monitor or seeing one on the ultrasound machine the DR looked at me and said "I'm sorry but your baby has passed."
Those are words that I hear when I wake up and when I go to sleep at night. My Josiah is truly an Angel now and no matter how many times I ask god "why me" or "why did you take my baby from me" I know I will never have an answer.
I left all the things I bought for Josiah that day on my bed that morning hoping I was going to come home with a healthy baby.
I just want to say to everyone Good Luck with your new bundles of joy and I wish all of you happy healthy babies!!
Don't take for granted one minute of this joyous occasion and make sure you are truly intuned with your body and you do all your kick counts. For all I wish is that I still had my baby:(
Josiah Pedro Pires
March 4, 2008 @ 9:15pm
5lbs 12.4 ounces,
"Truly an Angel"
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