Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Hi I just had second miscarriage. 1st one was on Nov 2006 & 2nd on nov2007. Both at 8 weeks. We are (husband & I) feeling very scared. We got married 3 years ago. Now I am 34 my husband is 47. Why it has happened? Because of age? Can we try again? I am totally depressed. I don't know what to do.
Our lossMy husband and I have been married for a little over 1 year. Shortly after we got married, I stopped taking my birth control. We weren't trying to get pregnant but we were definitely not preventing it. On August 18 I was talking to my husband telling him I had not gotten my period yet. I haven't exactly had perfect regular periods so I wasn't surprised. He told me I should take a home pregnancy test. I told him I wasn't pregnant. Well, on August 19 I decided maybe I should just take a test. I did and it was positive. I took another one just to be sure. Again, it was positive. I called him (because he had already left for work). He was so excited. We were both so excited. We told our families and they were so thrilled for us.
I had gone to the doctor two days later and everything was fine. The next week I had another appointment and everything was going fine. I had an ultrasound to confirm my due date. I saw my baby's heartbeat. At my next appointment when I was about 10 weeks the doctor couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler. He sent me for a stat ultrasound. I again saw my baby's heartbeat. They changed my due date but they said that was okay because the first ultrasound was very early. My husband and I were getting the baby's room ready. Then, on October 25th I had the tiniest bit of spotting. I called the doctor and they said to just wait there was nothing they could do. I had an appointment on Saturday and I should just keep that. That afternoon the spotting stopped.
Friday morning I had a little bit more spotting so my husband and I decided to go to the emergency room. The doctor did a pelvic exam and said that my cervix was closed so that was good. I had another ultrasound where we found out there was no heartbeat. I couldn't stop crying. My husband is so supportive but it hurt so much. I had a D&C that afternoon and came home without my baby. It was the saddest day of my life. I was 14 weeks pregnant but the baby had only developed to 10 weeks. I have found that so many more people have had miscarriages than I ever knew. That just makes me mad. I just hope that next time I am able to bring my healthy baby home from the hospital. Peace be with everyone who reads my story and who shares their story.
Pre-eclampsia and my Angel's lossI was on my 20th week and still was having lots of nausea, when I noticed my ankles, face, hands were swollen, I thought this was a normal part of pregnancy and was also working in a stressed software job, so I hadn't taken the time to read many books about complications of pregnancy. I had no idea that pre-eclampsia or toxemia even existed, let alone the symptoms. 4-5 days I took rest and the next day, I just had one thought to see the doctor as I wanted to resume my job after 5 days and for the safer side I met a doctor.
They advised me to hospitalize immediately as my blood pressure was 190/110, they also monitored my urine-protein level and fetal heart beats. There was a problem in the urine protein that was 4+ and my baby was stressed too. And she told me I was suffering from severe pre-eclampsia. For being in a hospital 3 weeks my blood pressure was little normal 140/90. I was so happy and immediately wanted to go to work to take a 6 months full leave.
Doctor gave me discharge and asked me to follow every 2 day-- blood pressure checkups, asked to take 24 hrs bed rest, I did not rest all the time. But I strictly followed diet and tablets timing strictly. I was so confident that nothing would happen to my baby. I felt all next 10 days… headed and nauseated. Regularly was going to doctor for BP checkups and urine sample to trigger protein level. At 26th week and a day I caught a killer headache, so doctor asked me to come to hospital and asked to do a color doppler sonography. In this sonography fetal blood resistance came to be known.
That morning my Bp was 140/90 and fetal heartbeats were 140. But sonography report was bad; my little angel was in a high resistance with risk. I was so sad the whole day. I was also on a toxypherine inj for angel's liver and lungs development. Doctor advised us both that we would have to take the baby out within 8 days. But never told us that there could be possibility of fetal death if single mistakes happens in 8 days.
We went home, and were trying to be happy that my little angel was gonna be out of stress, but unfortunately next morning I realized there was no movements of my little angel. Nobody was with me for 8hrs. I was just waiting for my fetal movement all the day and come to know something was wrong, my husband was at work and by coming home it took him hrs, when he reached we immediately went to the doctor and then with sonography result… we came to know that we lost our beautiful baby.
I felt really faint. I found all happiness being a mother has stopped, I cried a lot. Doctor induced me but with High BP. Dr asked to get baby out with C-section. Right away, I sat down, we both were terrified and felt very helpless! We both cried a lot and never have thought of this bad day for us.
Actually I prayed to god for my pregnancy and this miracle, happened after 7 years of our marriage. To be having an emergency c-section in a matter of a couple hours. SCARY! I was almost 27th week. When it was done and little angel was 900gm almost 2lb. My daughter was so pretty and beautiful.
God blessed my pregnancy but not my little angel. I have totally lost from that day and lots of fear in mind because of the pregnancy.
And I cannot spend a single second without my little angel. My husband and me are collapsed and are not coming out of the fact. Now we are recollecting the things what went wrong with us and what was our fault. Still I have high blood pressure and strictly following diets and reducing wt. but without angel… I cannot live without her. I could not explain that how much we were happy when I was pg.
So those went from this stage of pre-eclampsia but having baby with them are need not to worry they are not unlucky like me. We are forever changed by the death of a baby. It's up to us to make that change positive in some way.
So be happy and enjoy your happiness with your little angel and angel's each moment. God bless you and your child. Don't be scared of second pregnancy that you will get BP in second pg. There are 50 % chances of blood pressure but be positive there will not be blood pressure in second pg.
Try to reduce wt and intake of salt. Stricly be under observations of dr. and strictly follow instructions of dr. don't hesitant to get pregnant again. Best of luck.
ICP still birthI begged my Drs to take my baby at 37 weeks and they kept putting me off and finally after 6 days my baby could not hang on any more. They knew my levels were high and still would not listen to me, that all I wanted was my baby alive. Now I am living with the pain of my little rain not being here.
My AngelMy story is a somewhat familiar story. It took 2 yrs to conceive my first born son, Ethan. What a joy he was, and how thankful I was for him! Two years later, my precious daughter, Ellie, was born. She was a "surprise" but such an unexpected gift. They are 10 and 8 now. We wanted to have more children and never got on birth control. But life was busy and I never conceived even w/o birth control. Until now...two perfect pregnancies and I was ready for another. We only knew for a week, but it seemed like forever to me. I started having bleeding and horrible pain (like birthing pains) and I knew at once it was over. I just keep wondering what if. We will probably try again soon, but I never would wish this on my worst enemy. My only hope is in the Lord, and I know He will sustain me through this rough experience. My prayers go out to you all!
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