Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
I give birth to my second daughter who I named Rosalind two weeks before my due date, through normal labour without delay.When I gave birth in a local clinic,my baby was not breathing and there was no experience midwife or resuscitation kits to resuscitate my baby.I had to sit up and give CPR to my tiny princess but it was rather too late.The grieve I carry with me is I, really don't know if my baby was still born or just a flat baby but due to the lack of resuscitation she died.I keep baming myself every day for allowing it to happen.
Fortunately am pregnant again but am so worried that it will end like the previous one.I am considering going for cesearean two weeks before my due date but not sure if thats the solution.Am also considering waiting for it to be born naturally,just don't know what to done to make sure the baby is safe.
The Best of Things, And the Worst of ThingsAt a young age, 16, I fell in love for the first time. At the time I thought he was the man of my dreams. But now I see it was only puppy love. He was 18. We met at a gamming covention where he kissed me on the beach, we were both in our costumes and it was funny to a degree. We talked alot for about three months, then we got together. It was a long distance relationship, he lived 8 hour away from me but he made frequent visits.
On my 17th birthday he forcibly convinced me to loose my virginity to him. After that I really just figured, Im not a virgin so what the hell? We always used protection and I was on birthcontrol. He moved to my city to be with me. A week later there was a text on my phone saying 'I cant leave my mother like this' Damn mommas boy. Anyway, a month later I was starting to get over him but still hadnt had my period. It was then I found out I was pregnant.
I was so scared and I sure as hell didnt want to tell him. I went to the hospital to confirm. I was 9 weeks pregnant. I was terrified! Who would want me now? I was a teenage mom to be! No one would love me, my parents would hate me and I sure as hell couldnt tell them! Three weeks later I had been feeling some pains and had some bleeding and when I returned to the hospital I found out I had lost my child. Most likely from stress.
Everyday that weighs on my mind, I stressed so much rather than being happy about it, and killed my own child. I told the father a year and a half later. He turned into a 'fail player' acting like he got all the girls when they clearly didnt want him. He responded with 'I knew it! That day I felt like I left more than just a girlfriend behind, I was leaving a child. My child. Im a father, well would have been a father! No thanks to you now' which followed with things on how he was psychic or some other shit. I promptly blocked him on my phone.
Im currently engaged to a man I've known most of my life who accepts me for who I am. I love him so much an hes always been there for me.
I miss my child so much, I wish I would have gotten the chance to meet him or her... But I chose a gender nutreal name for him or her.. Taylor, 12 weeks, death day October 24th. I love you Taylor and I cant wait to meet you in Heaven one day. I never got to meet you but you still mean so much to me.
why meOn june 22, 2009 I had just went in to work we was about to have a morning meeting when i told my friend i felt dehydrated so i went and got some water so we get into out meeting and i start to fell dizzy and for a minute i felt weird and everything started to look dizzy the next thing i no i hear someone saying call 911 i had done fell out i was 16 weeks pregnant at the time so i get to the hospital and i tell the doctor i fell like water is running down my legs she ask me to stand and water and blood just start to rushing down my legs she tell me oh thats just some bodily fluids (wth) so that send me to the ultrasound room and check me my baby heart is still beating and he is doing well they tell me the fluid around my baby is low but everything is fine so they give me stitches in my forehead and send me home they till me to check in with my doctor in three days to follow up. so i get home and im cramping and cramping and cramping so two days later i decide to go back to the hospital after sitting in the waiting room all day they finally call me back and send me to the ultrasound room check me and send me back to the room to wait for the doctor so she come in and tell me she has some good news and some bad news well she say the good news is that my baby heart is beating good and is during fine but the bad news is that my baby fluid around him is low and ask me did my water ever broke i told her when i was at the other hospital i told that nurse that i think my water had broke and she said oh it's just some bodily fluids so she tell me no that was your water breaking and sorry but we are going to have to deliver your baby tonight and he will pass away once he come out my heat drop to the floor i felt like my world had just come to an end even though i already had one son i wanted this one to this is my baby living in me heart beating in me and they telling me that he is going to die in a few hours i felt like it was my fault because of falling out but june 25, 2009 is a day i will never forget and it's now 2011 and it still hurt so bad.
PrestonIt's been 5 years since I lost my little angel but I feel like it just happened yesterday. On September 14th, 2006 I lost my baby within the 24th week of my pregnancy. I feel so cheated. I keep trying to picture what he would've looked like, what his little voice would sound like. I'm usually able to cope with the pain of losing him and even though I now have a 2 and a half year old son somehow this year the anniversary of his passing seems to be taking over me. I feel so depressed and filled with extreme sadness. I hope one day the pain will get easier to bear.
HeartbrokenI am 29 years old and I have just lost what would have been my third child. I was 7 weeks pregnant and very excited that we would having #3. I told everyone from my family members to the cashier at the grocery store. In my family it is considered bad luck to announce your pregnacy before 12 weeks , but with 2 healthy full term pregancies behind me I did not think much of it. On Tuesday I was at the office and began to feel very weird, I didnt feel like I had before with my other 2 children and I began to have sharp pains in my side. I went downstairs to the bathroom and when I wiped I had a brown discharge. I knew this could not be good and I right away called my husband and insisted he meet me the hospital. Because I was not bleeding uncontrollably the doctors made me wait. I sat in that emergency room hallway in pain for hours and so scared. I knew something was not right. They finally came over to see me as I was hystericaly crying and told me this was nature and not to be upset. I could not believe the words that were coming from a person that was supposed to care for others. They took me for a ultrasound where they said they had not been able to see the baby and although I may think I am 7 weeks I could have miscalculated,because at 7 weeks they should be able to see something. They sent me home and told me to go see my OB GYN in 2 days to repeat my blood test to see if my BETA Quant doubled. I returned home. Only a few hours later I awoke with the urge to pee, I went into the bathroom to discover I was gushing blood. I woke my husband and we went back to the hospital, this time a different one. The entire time we were on our way to the hospital I was experiencing contractions and the need to push. I thought if I crossed my legs the baby would just stay there. By the time we had gotten to the hospital I had gone through 6 pads and could not even stand up without help. The dotors immediatley took me for a ultra sound after adminstering medication for the pain. I kept crying and telling myself there is no way the baby was okay with all this blood. After a hour or so the docotors came back with the news that I lost my baby. These words are words I will hear forever, I feel so empty and lost and I dont know what to tell my other 2 children I just keep hoping they do not ask. My husband is trying his hardest to be here and help but I can see he is hurting too. We have been trying for a while and now I am so scared to even think about another baby after this. I am not sure my heart can take this loss again. Many people can not understand what a woman goes through when they a loose a child. All I can say is that baby 4 weeks or 40 weeks was my child and a part of me and now that it is gone I feel a piece of me has gone with it. I will try to be strong but a loss is a loss big or small and I will cry for my child untill I feel my grieving is done. RIP my Angel in Heaven , I may not ever get to hold you or ever feel you kick but for this short time you were a part of me and I will love you always.
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