Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Silas Joe in Heaven
Monday July 9th is the day that has changed my life forever. When I woke up at 4:00 am with contractions at just 36 weeks I was so excited because I thought that by the end of the day we would have a beautiful perfect baby boy to bring home.
We got to the hospital and checked in. They put us on the monitor only to find my heartbeat. We weren't so worried because he was always running from everyone that would try to find his little heartbeat. Then they called in the doctor to do an ultrasound and when he couldn't find it either. I felt like a ton of bricks fell on top of me.
Then they told me I would have to deliver Silas Joe and all I could think is why? WHY? Why would I have to go through the labor and delivery if I couldn't take him home with me?
It just didn't seem right. It was so perfect. The whole pregnancy never was sick, didn't have any problems. And when he was born on Tuesday July 10th. He weighted 4 pounds and was 18 inches long. I always told everyone he was going to be a long baby. But what broke our hearts is that he had my nose and his dadís hands, feet and hair. And he looked so much like both of us.
The only reason they could give us is that the placenta detached it self from the uterus.
It just doesn't seem fair. But we know that God knows what he is doing and it just wasn't the right time.
We have decided to try again soon after I graduate from College.
May God Bless all!
Miscarriage-xI was thirteen years old when I lost my virginity. I was with my boyfriend at the time for 10 months on and off.
It was about 2 months before my 14th birthday that I realized that I hadnít had a period for 2 months so I took a test and it came back positive. I told my boyfriend and it took us a month to decide to tell our parents.
It was on a Saturday that I started bleeding really badly. I sorted myself out and went round to my boyfriendís and we realized I must of lost the baby.
I am 15 years old now and I sometimes think that if I hadnít of lost that baby then I wouldnít be doing what I am doing now. Also I think that a baby would have changed my whole life.
I am now with my boyfriend of 7 months and we have been speaking about our future together and we have decided that we want to have a baby together but I told him to wait until I have done my GCSE's and he respects that.
I personally think that we should do our GCSE's and maintain a good job before having a baby, because how else are you going to provide for the family you are going to be starting?
Angel called back to heavenOn Tuesday, July 18th 2007 I was worried because I didn't feel my baby moving inside me at all. I was 39 weeks pregnant and she is usually so active. I thought I was being just paranoid because the pregnancy has been perfect so far. But we went to the hospital anyway to get what I thought would be just a check up to settle my nerves.
When the nurses tried repeatedly to find her heartbeat, my heart just sank already thinking the worst has happened. We waited for the doctor to come to perform an ultrasound only to confirm our deepest fears. There was no longer any sign of life.
I was told to return to the hospital Wednesday morning so they can induce labor. How was I supposed to give birth to a baby girl that I knew would not come home with me? It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. All the pain of the contractions and the pushing for what? Was it a wasted effort? I would say no. Though she was not living, when I saw our little angel I knew it was all worth it. She weighs 6 lbs 13 oz and is the most beautiful girl we have ever seen. She looked perfect in every way with the most delicate hands and feet. She even has my husband's nose. He has a big nose and we joke about our baby getting his nose.
By looking at our baby Mia and the delivery, the doctors have no idea what could have gone wrong. We had almost a flawless pregnancy. An autopsy will be performed to see if they can find out how this tragedy could have had happened.
My husband and I have accepted that it was not meant to be at this time and our baby girl was called back to heaven. With much love and support from our families and friends we will survive through this.
We will not be discouraged and will try soon to have another baby. This time our baby will come home with us. :)
God bless everyone who has ever lost their baby and may they find strength from our story.
MY 2 LOSSESI have a lovely boy who is nearly 5. When he was 3 and a half we decided we wanted another. Everything seemed to be going fine, although I was feeling a few more cramps this time. DR said tummy felt fine and not to worry.
Went for a12-week scan. Sonographer looked very concerned. Asked my hubby and me "Do you know why you're here". I knew something was wrong. She said there was a high risk of downs or a bad heart. My happiness of 20 mins earlier was shattered. I felt as if I was in a bad nightmare.
I was offered a CVS a week later; my baby's heart had stopped! I just felt numb, I decided to bring the miscarriage along, so took the tablets and went home. Saturday morning I went into the shower. Just felt a big lump near my vagina. Gushes of blood started to pour out of me. So, my hubby took me to the hospital - I had all the contractions. I delivered the fetus 2 hrs later (that was what I had felt in the bath). Did not need a D&C. At the ultrasound a few days later, I was hoping they had made a mistake (whatever)!
I had a post mortem done - it was a baby boy. My little Milo had a congenital heart defect. Its exactly a year ago I delivered him - not a day goes by without a thought/cry for him.
I also miscarried at 7 weeks recently, but hoping to try again soon. Want to be healthy and take pregnacare throughout. See if anything changes, have been to a nutritionist to help me. Hoping to give good news here in a few months.
Well here's hopingI have a daughter who is now 4 years old, and me and my husband would dearly love to have another, the first 2 miscarriages were bad but I could deal with them ok, they both went away at 6 weeks, to early to get attached, but my 3rd miscarriage was far worse.
I found out early that I was pregnant just over 3 weeks, I got all the normal side effects, vomiting, tiredness, mood swings, weak bladder, well I made it to 12 weeks with all the symptoms, I thought this would be a good omen!
I went for a scan, just routine to make sure all the dates added up right, and as soon as I looked at the screen, I knew. The baby was there but had died at 6 weeks and 5 days, I will never get that image out of my head.
I had suffered with a missed abortion, you still feel pregnant there is still weight gain, and all the symptoms, but the baby is gone.
I was given time to decide whether I wanted to go natural miscarriage or D&C, I chose natural and I was given a period of time for this to happen, which it did not so then I had to decide to have a D&C which in hindsight would have been the better decision as my miscarriage arrived the night that I had made up my mind, and there was a lot of blood. I mean you read about it, but you never can tell just how much there will be until it actually happens to you.
This all happened in February we are still trying for a baby even though we are on our 3rd miscarriage in 13 months. We have not given up hope. Just trying to lead a normal live for my wonderful 4 year daughter, she doesn't need to see Mummy cry all the time, grief comes in waves, one minute you are fine and then you are not, more so as my due date arrives very soon.
I am hoping that once my due date has passed, then this is another hurdle that will have gone, and maybe after that things will calm down.
Well here's hoping.
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