Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
A sad Loss..
Well I just lost my baby about a week ago almost... I had a miscarriage. I had bad, bad cramps and I was already late on my period about four or five days. So I just went to use the Bathroom and there it was. My baby. I was so depressed and when I told my boyfriend he was very sad as well.
So I'm 14 years old I have an 18 almost 19-year-old boyfriend and we didnít have the baby we wanted. But when I get older I told him we could just try again later on... For now Iím getting put on the shot. But Iím still very sad...I do wish I would of been pregnant... I believe we just got over excited for something that just had to leave us. I was pregnant now very sad.
My life isnít getting better in anyway. I lost my baby, my friend Brett Degarmo passed away on June 3, 2007, and Iím stressed about finals and my parents wonít leave me alone for one minute. I donít know what to do. Iím sooo tired of this happening to me...
Good Luck other Mothers...
Depressed About MiscarriageAfer my two year old son started sleeping through the night, my husband and I decided to start trying for a second baby. We became pregnant quite fast in January 2007. However, at the same time I was experiencing some health problems, namely joint pain. So I started to investigate. Fingers started pointing to Antiphospholipid Syndrome and Lupus, which both can cause problems during pregnancy such as miscarriages.
My doctors told me not to worry that everything would be fine, but deep down I knew it wasn't going well, for I did not feel pregnant at all. On March 5th 2007, I went for my first sonogram and there was no heartbeat. It was the worst day of my life. The doctor thought my dates were wrong so we waited another week to confirm and sure enough there was no heartbeat again. The whole time I had no warning of a miscarriage, no bleeding or cramping. On March 16th, I had my D&C and physically, the pregnancy was over.
Emotionally, it has been a roller coaster ride. Dealing with all sorts of feelings, mainly with the possibility that I will not carry a baby to term of if I do it might be a stillbirth. Very scared and depressed at how I will deal with all the possible outcomes. My husband has been my angel through all this, but sometimes I think he doesn't want to listen to me talk about it anymore. I have been to so many specialists who have downplayed my fears by telling my I had one healthy pregnancy and should not have any problems. I still long for my lost baby (6.5 weeks) and wish it ended up so differently. There are some days I am completely fine and think it was not meant to be and there are other times when I say why me? why now?
As soon as I had the miscarriage I wanted to try to conceive right away and now I find myself not wanting to. Biological clock is ticking, I turn 34 in June, and feel like I am pressured into trying, while still dealing with all this.
bad luck!!I have been married for about 4 years and I have a 4-year-old son. My husband is constantly telling me he wants to have our second baby but I'm studying at this moment and my plans are to graduate from college. I've been telling him that we should wait at least until next year.
About a couple of days ago, I woke up at 3 a.m and went to the bathroom, and by my surprise, when I got there I was bleeding. I never thought I could be pregnant because I have Mirena (for birth control) so I didn't pay much attention. Next day I went to work and started bleeding again, so I decided to go to the doctor who told me I was pregnant and that I had had a miscarriage.
I didn't even have time to tell my husband I was pregnant. He got really sad and since then I can't stop thinking about it. I really love kids, and now I'm afraid to get pregnant again.
My love for my babyI lost my precious baby at 7 weeks 6 days!!! I have wanted a child for so long that when the test came back positive on April 28 2007 I was more than excited!! I started taking prenatal vitamins. I started walking more to help maintain a healthy weight. I started reading pregnancy books. My husband was so excited!!!
Then on May 22, 2007 the end of my dream came. I woke up in so much pain and blood was everywhere. I went to the ER and was told I was loosing the pregnancy!!! I was devastated!!!! My life as I knew it was over!!!! Itís only been a few weeks since the loss but I still feel sad and empty. I am also angry!!! I want to scream at everyone!!! Friends and family keep throwing out the line, your young you will have other babies!!! I wanted this baby!!!!!
I still in a way blame myself, thinking if I had done this or that.....I am so angry right now that I just want to walk up to people and start screaming at them!!!! I want to know why God allowed me to get pregnant then took it from me so soon!!!! I had dreams for this child already!!!!! I know God knows what is best but it still hurts me so much!!!!!!!
Our Guradian AngelWhen I found out that I was pregnant, I was scared and excited at the same time. This was going to be our second baby and we were only 18. We were supposed to get married soon and continuing our family just didn't seem to fit with where we were at that point in time. As the shock wore off, we began to get very excited. The hard part was telling our families but once we did, we were ready to have this baby.
At about 9 and half weeks, I began to have very light spotting. I didn't really think much of it until I had the dream. I had a dream that we lost our baby. I couldn't sleep the rest of the night so the next day I made an appointment. I went to the doctor and I specifically remember having a conversation with my now husband about how the doctor said that everything was probably fine but for me to go in anyways. When I got there (alone for the first time) I remember feeling very different when I walked in the office.
My doctor tried to check for a heartbeat, but couldn't find one. He sent me for an ultrasound and I remember lying there, praying, hoping for the heartbeat to show. Then I saw the flat line and I knew that my worst fears had come true. I remember lying there trying so hard not to cry (which was stupid because it was expected) but when the radiologist said, "I'm sorry," I lost it. I still don't know how I drove myself home.
Two days later, I went in for a D&C. I remember lying there with my husband, thinking, "I am here to have them take my baby away." When it was all over, I went home and all I could feel was empty. I wore my hospital bracelet from the surgery for a week. Before I took it off, I remember saying a prayer to Jessie Lee (our baby) just telling him/her that I loved them very much but it was time for me to let go. That was one of the hardest parts I think... letting go. A week later, we got married. It was so hard to be happy knowing that the baby was gone.
Here I am eight months later, and it still hurts. The whole time I was writing this, I was crying. Every time that I try to talk about that time in my life, I can't. So this was very hard for me. It was good though. It was some closure for me I guess. I know that my story is kind of petty compared to some of the other people, but it was I think, just as hard for me. My two year old was never ok with the idea of us having another baby judging by how he acted when I was pregnant, but when the baby was gone, he finally understood and rubbed my belly, said baby, and kissed it. How do you look into a two year old's eyes and explain something like that to them?
In a way, I think that Jessie helped us in so many ways. He/She showed us that no matter what, family will understand and not to be afraid. He/She also taught us that we are not invincible and that this kind of thing can happen to anyone.
In closing, I would like to send out a message to our baby. "Mommy, Daddy, and James love and miss you very much. Thank you for being our guardian angel."
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