Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
I suffer from PCOS and frequently do not ovulate. At 33 I had essentially prepared myself for being childless. You can only imagine my shock and mixed emotions at discovering I was 6 1/2 weeks pregnant after going to the doctor for what I suspected was a bout of food poisoning.
Over time I learned to love my little bundle, she even had a name. We became close friends...often found myself talking to her. I am generally pretty healthy; don't smoke, nor drink, and cook most of my meals. Yet I made lifestyle changes to accommodate my expected baby. Things were going great. But at month 15 weeks I started feeling some unusual pain. I shared this fact with my OBGYN. She thought it was nothing to worry about.
Alas, one week later (20.03.07) at approximately 1:30 a.m. whilst having a shower, my water broke. My husband rushed me to the hospital...I prayed to God I was dreaming...that it was not what I thought it was, that despite this my baby would be ok...but sadly my worse fears were realized. At exactly 16 wks 1dy....my precious baby was gone.
She wasn't actually a girl, but I boy....labour was induced and on 21.03. I had a live birth...but I couldn't look at him...I regret having not looked yet I know I couldn't have. My husband is still tormented by the incident.
I am recovering...quicker than expected...it would seem...but I am optimistic...if it happened once...I will have get pregnant again...this time I am getting help from metformin and clomid...next time I will be bettered informed...next time I will hope that God helps me deliver a healthy baby boy/girl....next time
17 week lossI was so excited to welcome Baby #3 into our family (daughter - 5 and son - 2). My husband was not so excited, but was slowly becoming proud of his family that was about to grow even more.
I was one day away from my amnio (17 weeks) All prenatal visits had gone very well. At 13 weeks, we had a nuchal translucency scan and we were given great results. The next visit would be the amnio.
Something went terribly wrong after I went to bed on Wed. March 7th. I awoke around midnight to cramping. I was very uncomfortable and knew something was horribly wrong. Around 2am I felt a gush of fluid and ran into the bathroom to deliver my helpless 17 week old son.
Genetic testing and autopsy have given us no answers as to what happened.
I was robbed the experience of telling my son and daughter that a new little boy was coming to join our family. Instead, I had to tell my daughter that mommy is very sad because she thought there was a baby in her belly... but the doctor said there isn't.
Now, my husband doesn't want to try again and feels that we should be happy with what we have.
My love to all of the grief-stricken mommies who have endured the loss of their unborn baby.
Good things happen for good people bad things happI had my first beautiful daughter at sixteen; she was a blessed baby. I was in this terrible relationship with my ex who beat the crap out of me when I was six months pregnant. She survived than I had my second one with the same jerk. My two are 16 months apart and I raised them alone. Went back to school and raised them.
Than 2 years ago had a great job making excellent wages but could not afford daycare so allowed my ex to care for them on temp. basis. I never got my children back from him; he refused to give them back and he could do that because neither one of us had custody. Took him to court and lost because I lost everything; my job, home and hope.
I met my wonderful fiancÚ and we decided to move to Calgary, Alberta 5000 miles away. I was seeing my children every 3 months and than finally after trying to get pregnant for a year me and fiancÚ finally got pregnant. I was 5 weeks when I found out. We decided to move back home be close to family.
On the 12th week ultrasound they found a cystic looking object under the stomach lining but was nothing to worry about because it was looking like a glitch in computer. Anyway I was sicker than a dog throwing up all day could only drink water and lucky if I could keep any food down, but the doctors said I was getting enough stuff in for nutrition for the baby. So no worries.
At our 18-week ultrasound the day before we were leaving to go home we found out that there was no fetal heart beat! Our baby died 2 days prior. My fiancÚ was so excited for having our first child together. So we flew home the next day to have the induction done. He was a beautiful boy.
So now I am stuck here in my home town with a empty cradle and a broken heart. Did I loose my baby because I left my other 2; am I a bad mother? Feels like KARMA.
Someone please tell me that this gets better.
Trying to surviveThis past Thursday night, around midnight I went to the bathroom and after "finishing my business" I stood up and this gush of fluid ran out of me. I called the doctor who said there was nothing that could be done that night, to call the office in the morning. Yesterday we went to the doctor. They did an ultrasound and there was our beautiful 17 1/2 week baby, moving about and it's heart beating. My husband and I felt relived. Then, the nurse went to get the doctor and she told us the devastating news...
My water had broken and there was nothing they could do to help the baby. My husband and I are planning to go to the hospital Monday and have them induce labor.
I just don't understand...In this day and age, why is there nothing that anyone can do to save this baby? I am broken in two. I feel as if someone has ripped my soul out of me!
We gave the baby a new name, one with very special meaning. We have a friend who has agreed to perform a memorial service when all of this is said and done. It is so hard to try to plan for the death of your unborn child, when it's still moving inside you and it's tiny heart is still beating.
We hope to have a child and plan to try again when we're ready. In the meantime, I'm just trying to survive. It is helpful to know that I am not the only person going through all of this. Thank you for sharing your stories. I pray for health and healing and peace for each of you.
Trying not to give up hope!This is an update on my story titled "hope after loss"! I can't believe how unlucky I am these days!
I never mentioned in my last story that I already have two sons age 16 and 11...I had text book pregnancy and births with them. My partner and I have been together for 18 years and we have never used contraception because I always wanted another child. In my mind if it happened it happened! I can't deny as the years have gone on I thought I might of somehow become infertile...
I was so surprised and happy to realize I was pregnant last year! My happiness was short lived when I lost the baby at 15 weeks after an emotional and physical roller coaster ride!
I was thrilled to discover I was pregnant again which prompted me to write my story a few stories down. I'm not 6 weeks pregnant yet, so now I feel like it's going to be over before it's really begun as I am spotting brown and just know it won't stop until my womb has emptied again! I've read up on all the reasons for this spotting and how common it is in early pregnancy.. I haven't given up hope yet but the worse thing is the torment of not knowing which way this is going to go...
I am a mobile hairdresser and I'm due back to work in the next hour and will face my clients in my usual friendly, bubbly manner when really I just feel like curling up and having a good cry!
It breaks my heart to read all your stories but it is also a comfort to me to know I'm not alone...I'm the type to put on a brave face to the world... I wish and hope with all my heart that we all get our gift of a healthy child sometime very soon and we will be able to put all this torture behind us!!!
Best Wishes love Trina X
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