Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
miscarriage at 91/2 weeks
Iím 15 and suffered a miscarriage 3 weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend had been together for 7 months and were going really well. It was my first proper relationship.
We didnít plan to get pregnant but it happened. We were really scared and didnít no what to do or how we were going to cope. I was scared about telling my parents but they understood and said it was up to me and my boyfriend. We spoke about it and decided to keep it.
Everything was fine. Then one morning I woke up having cramps; then when I stood up blood went everywhere. I was so scared didnít no what to do. We went to the hospital and they did an u/s and there was nothing.
Its been 3 weeks and I'm still finding it hard to get over.
Pregnancy right after miscarriage?Well although I wasn't preventing pregnancy I wasn't planning it. I thought if it happens then it happens, and Wow!.. Wouldnít that be amazing? Suddenly after my Feb/07 AF I was experiencing symptoms- fatigue, swollen/sore breasts, moodiness, bloating... I thought for sure I was and proof positive on Mar/5/07.
I was really surprised to see a "PREGNANT" reading on the CBE digital test, although I had strongly expected it to say so. The exact next day I noticed that I was spotting, so I thought it was odd, and knew it was normal since that was the day of my expected period anyways. A few hours later after I was cramping really bad I noticed that the blood flow had increased verrry significantly.
I was panicked and rushed to the ER. Having a m/c was the furthest thing from my mind since I am relatively healthy, and never really considered the possibility. After that my period was full on for about 6 days. Once again shortly after my period I am noticing the exact same symptoms= mainly my swollen/sore breasts.
I haven't yet fully recovered from my fatigue since the m/c so I donít know if it is a recurring symptom or if it just never went away at all. I am not trying to get my hopes up in fear of another heartbreaking m/c. I couldn't handle being put thru that again.
Thank you for listening!
Hope after lossI have just found out that I am pregnant again! It's all I've dreamt of since I lost my baby at 15 wks last summer. At 11 wks I was just settling into my pregnancy when I felt a gush and when I checked it was brown blood. The shock sent me to the doc's.
I had a scan a few days later and the baby was fine and there was no explanation for the brown spotting that was still happening. The next four weeks were a worry with bleeding on and off and then one night the blood began to flow very heavily and I had to go to the A&E.
The next morning a scan showed the baby still ok but there were two blood clots on either side of the placenta, so I was told to take it easy and that I would be given weekly scans to monitor the situation. I couldn't believe the baby was still alive! A couple of days later I started to get cramps that I thought were a water infection.
I waited all weekend and called into the antenatal on the Monday morning as I still was having the cramps. They scanned me again and the baby had no heartbeat. I was so shocked and couldn't believe it was all over. The whole stage of events is soul destroying. I then had to walk through the antenatal clinic past all the other mothers to be and onto the ward. With the help of inducing drugs I finally miscarried on Thursday 28th July.
After my hormones settled down I could only think about getting pregnant but month after month nothing. After 8 months of trying I find myself pregnant again which is what I wanted, but now I'm so worried and anxious that the same thing will happen again; and what if it happens later in the pregnancy?
I know fate has a lot to do with it and I'll get through whatever, but it's when you don't really know why these things happen it's hard to move on and know that this time will be better!
It's good to know I'm not alone and I am so sorry for all of your losses. We live in hope!
Tiny Eva, my Angel BabyMy husband and I have two beautiful children already, a boy and a girl. In October of 2006, we learned that we were pregnant, about 6 weeks. We were a bit freaked out at first, because we only planned for two. We were protected this time around. I'm more freaked out, because it means another c-section.
A week passes, and I'm getting not just used to the idea of another baby, but excited. We start planning how to rework the budget, when to buy the few baby things we need, etc. At my 10-week appointment, all seems well, we can't hear the heartbeat with the little in-office Doppler, but that's normal for 10 weeks. We wait.
At 14 weeks, we still can't hear the heartbeat via Doppler, but my doctor says it's fairly normal still, as I have a little big of pudge on my tummy where he's using the Doppler. Come back in two weeks. At 16 weeks, we hear the heartbeat, 142 beats-per-minute, strong and wonderful. He sets up my appointment for my ultrasound, at 21 weeks, and my next appointment for the day before the ultrasound.
At 21 weeks, I go for my check up, and once again we can't find the heartbeat with the Doppler. He tells me not to worry, and calls over to the hospital to move my ultrasound up to that same day. We go over to the hospital for the ultrasound. I have an inkling that it's a girl, have had for about 2 weeks. I lie on the table and the tech moves the wand around on my stomach, not talking. He doesn't turn on the sound, nor does he turn the monitor to face me. My worries increase about tenfold.
He finally looks up at me and says, "I'm sorry, I'm finding no heartbeat, no movement". He calls my nurse and notifies her, and I'm sent back to my doctorís office. My doctor hugs me and apologizes over and over, while the tears course down my face. He seems almost as devastated as I am; he delivered both my son and daughter. We agree that I'll go into the hospital 2 hours from then and be induced.
I was induced at 6 pm on January 8, 2007, and around noon on January 9th, Eva was out. She was 6 inches, crown-to-rump, and weighed 1.6 ounces. She was perfectly formed; fingers and toes, facial features, ears, even her little girl parts...she was just so tiny. She was termed a stillbirth.
Two weeks later we got the results of all the tests ordered done on her. She stopped growing about 15 weeks, but continued developing. Her heart finally stopped at right about 20 weeks, it had gotten too large for her tiny chest. They could not find any genetic, chromosomal, or other reason this happened. I did everything I was supposed to, and nothing I wasn't.
We fully intend to try again, when the pain from losing Eva isn't quite so new. I'm just so afraid to tell anyone about being pregnant in the future, I don't want to have to break the tragic news to everyone I know all over again.
Empty FeelingWhen I read the other stories I felt that I could totally identify with the other women that had gone through what I had.
Not only do you feel the physical pain but the emotional pain of loosing your baby! And that emotional pain is a pain that just doesn't go away; it haunts you! You feel as though you're in this dark cloud... that this really can't be happening to you!
I was so angry and I felt like it was my fault. It wasn't! I had a natural miscarriage at 12 weeks. I was like every other woman who holds her breath until after the first trimester. We didn't know we lost our baby until almost 3 weeks after he stopped growing. We named him Ben.
I keep wondering how I could love him so much and I never even knew him but I do! It's so important to stick close to your friends and family! My relationship with God wasn't so great before this happened but during I really had to ask Him for strength and help to let Ben go.
It was hard and I still think about Ben but I have Hope for the future! God wants to give us healthy and happy Babies!
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