Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
I should have had my baby this month...
I'm 19 weeks pregnant and last August I lost my baby at 12 weeks... This month I should have had my baby.... A baby who was not meant to be... It's been a very difficult time.... I thought I was going to lose my mind.... Nothing I was doing was helping....
I kept on thinking about my little angel gone forever.... I just couldn't cope with the pain.... it was never leaving me... it had become like my shadow... Things at home were not easy: every little thing was a good excuse to have a fight with my husband.... why wasn't he talking about our baby with me?
Then I finally got to a stage I couldn't go on like that anymore.... everyone was suffering but mainly my two children.... I had to stop crying for what I couldn't have back... I had to turn the page... Things started to improve and then one day I felt strange.... I felt different.... my period pain started and faded suddenly and then nothing...
I did a test.... and I was pregnant again.... I couldn't believe it.... I was happy but so scared at the same time.... The weeks before my first scan have been a nightmare.... but finally the scan day arrived.... there I was on the bed waiting for the scan... but I couldn't relax or look properly at the screen... the memory of what had happened the previous time (when I was told there was no heart beating) was stuck in my mind...
But this baby's heart was beating !!!!!! And he looked perfectly healthy... I'm now waiting for my second scan.... and It's the time I should have given birth to my little angel... strange life, isnít it? I've been thinking about him a lot these days... I will always remember that life that was not meant to be.... the memory will always be with me but I've got to keep on looking forward now... I owe it to this new life I have inside me....
I can't be sad anymore.... I love this baby as much as I loved the one I lost.... but I have to look ahead of me.... and try to be a strong person for this new miracle Jesus has given me again.
my little angelThis would have been my second baby. My husband and I found out we were pregnant October of 2006. Everything was going well and we even told my 3-year-old daughter that she would be having a sibling. She was very excited.
Everything was going well up until 11 weeks. I started spotting. We went to the Hospital and we saw the baby. He/she had all her limbs, fingers toes. I was told that it's normal to spot a little and we were sent home. At 13 weeks, I went for my first ultrasound and I was told that I could have 10 babies like this one. I explained that I was still spotting and my Gyno told me to stay off my feet, hence I had to stop working.
After 3 days, I was seeing more blood and started cramping. I lost the fetus in the toilet. I was rushed to the hospital. It was so devastating. The worst is the way I was treated at the hospital. They had to do a D&C and it was my first time. I was told that either they would put me to sleep or will be given local anesthetic. Guess what? I was given neither.
It was so traumatizing for me that I decided I will not have any more babies. I couldn't grieve for my loss because I was having nightmares of that night at the hospital. 3 months later, I am starting to feel empty and afraid of getting pregnant and the same thing happens.
My husband and I feel very lost. Maybe one day we'll get the courage to try again but for now, we are not ready.
little hopeMy Partner has 2 children, and we decided we wanted 1 of our own. We tried for a couple of years before we got anywhere. After a little patience we were over the moon to find out that finally it has happened...a few weeks later I was devastated to find out I was having a miscarriage.
I fell pregnant a few months later but the same thing happened again...7 months after that I fell pregnant. This time I knew it would be right; it would not happen again. But a couple of weeks later I started bleeding again only to find out I had an ectopic pregnancy
I ended up getting my right tube removed. This was really hard to get over and I found it very difficult to get pregnant again...12 months later I started on clomid and fell pregnant straight away, only to have a another miscarriage. Most of these miscarriages have happened around about 6 weeks.
I gave my self a break from clomid and decided to try again naturally. I fell pregnant and the doctor said he thought I had what is called a chemical pregnancy (this can be looked up on the internet.) So this was a failed pregnancy also Ė I could not believe it. All I wanted was a baby. I wanted to have a normal pregnancy.
I started clomid again and fell pregnant. I was so excited and thought this has to be it, and for once everything was going well. I really did feel pregnant. I was even more ecstatic to find out my best friend was pregnant also; it was the best feeling. I was now almost 7 weeks and my partner started to feel more confident too, and was getting excited now.
Then just yesterday I felt a sharp pain and went to the toilet to find I had started bleeding. I went to the doctor and had the routine with blood tests an ultra sound and I was told I was having a miscarriage. I feel so depressed; more then I have ever felt. How could this happen again?
I have lost hope now and starting to think that I am never going to become a mum. Iím even finding it hard to want to see my best friend. Iím feeling so useless.
HopeI discovered I was pregnant in Jan 2006. It was my 4th pregnancy but my 1st with my new husband. We were so excited.
I went for a routine us at 12 weeks where the dr told me there was no heartbeat; the baby had stopped developing at 9 weeks. We were devastated. I decided to let the miscarriage happen naturally. It was pure agony and the bleeding lasted about 4 weeks.
After a few months we felt ready to try again, I discovered I was pregnant in Jan 2007 almost a year to the day! To say I was nervous is an understatement. I took it easy and kept my fingers crossed. On Fri. (16th mar) we went for a scan as I had lost all my pregnancy symptoms. We were completely devastated when the dr told us that the baby had stopped developing at 7 weeks (I was 10 weeks).
I booked in for a D&C straight away, as I couldn't bear the thought of going through the same agony again. After looking on the internet I have discovered that scans can be wrong, and decided to wait before having the D&C, I want to give this little 1 every chance!
That was 4 days ago, so far no bleeding or pain, my husband and I are praying for a miracle (although the drs think there is no chance). I won't give up till I know for sure.
My LossJust this January I have had a sad experience.
At 4 days after my due date I had finally gone into labor at 2pm in the afternoon, my labor came and went for weeks and was so inconsistent. I did not believe it was for real this time. Contractions were 20-25 minutes apart all day until the evening.
I was talking with a friend on the phone at dinnertime questioning, "Don't babies usually calm down when you're in labor?" As my little girl just would not be still although she was always so active in my pregnancy I thought it was so peculiar in labor. I couldn't believe it, we were laughing about it. After a couple of minutes I thought my water broke so I ran to the bathroom and was very surprised to see blood. We called the hospital and they did not seem to be too worried casually told us to come in.
It took us about 20 minutes to get there and when they hooked us up to the monitor is was too late. They told us she was gone and had no heartbeat for too long; they could not save her. They said this was very sudden in this case, and nothing could have been dectected, which was so odd to me considering I had an ultrasound 3 days earlier and what, they didn't see anything? I cannot express the sadness, anger, and pain. But now we had no choice but to go through with the delivery naturally.
That was the most inhumane most horrible thing I have ever had to endure and do not know, nor could imagine someone else feeling like I did. It took me with all of my might, heart and soul to bring her into this world 6 hours later and I hated every minute of it. If I did not have a 14-year-old boy at home waiting for me, whom I love with all of my life, I would have died with her.
I am so lost, I do not know anyone who has gone through this sort of circumstance, and counseling with friends is not working as well as I would appreciate.
It's been almost 2 months and I am still not doing well....
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