Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
It's hard to believe that so many of us are and were experiencing the same pain and grief at the same time. I have one healthy boy who will be two in a few months. Everything was so easy with him. Trying to get pregnant, the pregnancy, the c-section, and the recovery. I will be 38 yrs. old soon and I was 11 weeks pregnant when I lost my baby.
All along I was nervous and just kept telling the few people who knew that we just wanted to hear that heartbeat and then we would share our joy with our families this Christmas. On 12/14, with my husband by my side, we did not hear a heartbeat at the 11-week visit. We too had the internal sonogram and were told the baby had stopped growing at around 6 weeks. We scheduled the D&C for early next week since we were hosting a holiday party. God works in funny ways because he allowed us to enjoy our party and for a short time forget the sadness.
Only a few people knew what had happened. The morning after our party, I started bleeding and we rushed to the hospital. They performed the D&C and now just a few days later, I am trying to recover and get ready for Christmas. The emotional pain is like nothing I have ever experienced. I just feel like fast-forwarding life so we can begin to conceive again. The good thing is, like we all hear, is that most people get pregnant very soon after.
I have 3 sister-in-laws who are all expecting around the same time as I was. I can't bear to see them and realize that's the way I would have - should have - looked. All along, I thought something might happen. My husband kept telling me to be positive. I think somehow deep down we have the intuition inside of us when we just know and can't put it into words. We will try again in 6 weeks and hope for the best. This pregnancy took a little while and I feel like I need to catch-up for all this lost time now.
I also feel like I lost the little baby girl that I have long desired. I do hope that I will meet her in heaven. Her name would have been Emily. I feel like that name has been taken now and could never use it again. I hope I do get blessed again with a healthy baby. My prayers are with all of you and our little angels that we have lost.
I don't understandThis was my first pregnancy and I was so excited, but also scared. Everything seemed to be going according to plan. I was 6 weeks when I found out and the thought of being a mom was so wonderful. I went to 2 appointments and everything seemed perfect. The baby had a heartbeat of 160 both times. I had no worries. My last visit was on Monday and that evening I started to bleed.
I called my doctor and she said not to worry that everything seemed normal. I tried to stay positive throughout the week, but in the back of my mind I knew something wasn't right. I went back to the doctor on Friday for a sonogram and there was no heartbeat. I've never been so devastated. They scheduled me for a D&C on Monday, but I ended up in the emergency room on Saturday and that was the end of it. My husband is being so supportive, but I can tell he is hurting inside too. I'm scared to try again, but I don't want to give up.
Our first little miracleWe had been trying for 3 months to get pregnant, but it seemed like so much longer. I was late with my cycle, so I took a test and it came back negative. More time passed and no cycle still-it had been 9 days and I had all the signs. We had not shared our thoughts on actually being pregnant with anyone yet; we wanted to make sure first. We were both getting excited, but at the same time scared. My fiancée was so caring and loving, I just knew that this was going to be our first miracle.
We got up on the morning of the 9th day and got ready to go get pictures taken for Christmas presents for our families. We were both thinking that this would be our first and last picture of just the two of us. We both were so excited about the Christmas surprise we would tell both our families soon. I was not feeling good at all and something seemed wrong. I went to the bathroom to take a test to confirm our suspicions, and I was bleeding.
I had spotted earlier, but that was normal for an early pregnancy I was told. We waited, but the bleeding got heavier. We went to the Dr and sure enough we had lost the baby. I could do nothing but cry and he was upset to see me in such pain, but he never said anything. I felt like such a failure and still do. Later that day my fiancée called my Mom and as we lay on the bed together in each other’s arms we told her what had happened. I felt like I was losing all control of my emotions. He really has never let go of his emotions, but we have talked and I know he is hurting to. We will try to get pregnant again and I hope that next time my worst fears are not confirmed. Even though we were only 3 weeks along, I will never forget our first little Christmas miracle.
Only God knows whyI have 2 beautiful girls, 15 and 9. My husband and I decided we wanted to try for a boy almost 10 years later. On Dec 13th I started having some light bleeding and cramping, and so I went to the Emergency room with my husband. The doctor told us 5 hours later that they found the fetus had no heart beat. I was 6 and half weeks along. We named the baby William James and said goodbye. I know he is in heaven and we will keep trying!
4th pregnancyWhen I found out I was pregnant it was the best news ever (it would have been my fourth child but it felt like my first). All those exciting feelings again, then within a week of finding out I started bleeding. The doctor sent me for a scan and we saw that I had like a blood clot on the wall of my uterus but it wasn't near the baby so they said it was ok to come back when I would be 7 weeks.
I went back for a scan and saw the baby's heart beat which was so nice and reassuring. They put my dates back to 6 weeks 4 days but I wasn't too bothered as I knew everything was good. I still carried on bleeding after and the doc wouldn't let me go back to work because I work in a school kitchen. He told me to wait till I had a 12 week scan. Last Wednesday evening I started to bleed really heavily like a period. On the Thursday I phoned the midwife and she said that because I was only 11 weeks that they wouldn't be able to hear the baby's heartbeat so to phone the gyno ward.
They then told me to come in Friday morning for a scan. Thursday night I was up all night with mild contractions coming every four mins (I timed it on the clock on the early morning news). I went to the toilet about 9 o'clock on the Friday morning and I lost a big clot so I knew that I had lost the baby but it was still a shock when I had the scan and they said the baby was at the top of my cervix and it was going to happen that day.
They also told me that the baby had died at 7 and a half weeks so that was sad as the baby had been dead in me for 4 weeks and I had seen the babies heart beat a week previous to that . I wanted to lose the baby naturally as I felt at the time it was the right thing to do and for me I think it was, but that feeling of losing the baby will stay with me for the rest of my life. I really wanted that baby and I don't know if I can mentally go through all that again but it is still the early days.
At the moment it's only been 3 days since I lost my baby, I've always wanted 4 children. I suppose never say never and fingers crossed.
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