Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
lost baby at 16 weeks no heartbeat
I am heartbroken
I have a 2 and 4 year old precious little boys concieved with the use of Clomid and Metformin
Both born prematurely at 32 weeks for 1st one
We were desperately trying for a new baby for the past year and a half and were over the moon to find out we were pregnant in August of this year 2006
Had a 7 week ultrasound baby had a strong heart and I was in love with him already
About a week ago sadly I noticed some back pain and a slight pink discharge
Went to my doctor who examined me because of the preterm labors I had previously
I feared I was in labor again
Cervix wasnt dilated Uterus was showing 16 week for dates
Which was where I was
But when he checked baby
The heart had stopped - for 30 minutes we found no heartbeat
I still thought for some crazy reason that things would turn out fine and I would look silly when we went for
As did my doctor
I was over the danger zone surely
My 20 week ultrasound was just a few weeks away
Ultrasound that day was horrible experience
We arrived and a cold ultrasound tech announced non =shalantly
Baby is small for dates too bad
There doesnt seem to be a heartbeat
I started to scream and I lost memory from there till the hospital delivery
I was still asking them to check for a heartbeat
How could this happen
6 hours of steady labour and pain I gave birth silently to a little boy we named Kristopher Owen Randolph
I am so devastated I cant breath
I havent been eating and the thought of going through treatments again makes me sick
It is amazing how you can love someone so much you never got to know
I held him in my arms for about 2 hours and handed him to the nurse still thinking I would be able to get him back when I rested
We were given a memory box with his tiny footprints and the blanket he was wrapped in
Pictures were taken of him by the nurses
I walked out of the hospital 2 days later not with the baby I had so desperately wanted
But a box full of memories
I still ask God how this could happen
How could he have let me feel him move and bond with him and then take him away from me with no warning
The pathology report said his heart had stopped beating at 15-16 weeks
No problems were evident
So I blame myself never to know the truth of what happened
ANd wondering how many women actually get their innocence taken when finding out how cruel nature can be to tease you with a healthy pregnancy
Let you bond and then in a matter of a day
Your world is altered
Kristopher may not be in our arms
But he is forever in my heart
He was loved and will never be lost in mommys memory
Goodbye for nowThis was our fourth baby. We have 3 beautiful healthy children, ages 6, 3, and 9 months. I was 10 weeks and began bleeding. I have had spotting before with my other pregnancies, so I didn't worry until it turned red and I was seeing small clots. We went for an ultrasound, and our baby was measuring 6-8 weeks, and had no heartbeat. I am so very sad, and I haven't allowed myself to cry. I still feel like it can't be real, but reminders are all around me.
I had most of the miscarriage at home, but began bleeding so badly that we went to the ER. I went through 3 changes of clothes in an hour, and then felt like I was going to pass out. I began to vomit, and my husband and I decided to go seek medical care. They did another ultrasound, and decided that I did not need a D & C. I was dehydrated, and had low blood pressure, though. I feel guilty feeling sad because I do have 3 children, and there are so many other women that have had multiple miscarriages and have no children. People have said that I should be glad that I have the kids I do, and I am, but I feel like I was selfish in wanting this baby, too. I just keep leaning on the knowledge that I will meet him/her someday in Heaven. I really haven't lost it and really cried yet, but I don't know if that's good or bad. Is it because I'm strong, or am I in denial?
I think that was probably the worst day of my life, because my baby died, and I was very afraid that I was going to die, too. I know that it lived for at least a short time, though, because on one ultrasound early in my pregnancy, we did see its heartbeat. We don't know if it was a girl or a boy- we didn't see it during the miscarriage. I think we're going to name it something like Alex, Sam or Peyton that would work for either a girl or a boy. It has been almost 2 weeks since we found out our baby has died. It was hard to explain it to our kids. We told them that our baby went to Heaven, and my 3 year old said that we needed to go and get him! Our 6 year old has been very sweet about it, concerned for me and for her dad and brothers. I hope that my story helps you in your grief. You are not alone.
Devastating Loss, My AngelicaAfter having the wedding of my dreams in June 2006; my husband and I hoped for a honeymoon baby. Close enough - I conceived in July.
I was put on bed-rest Nov 3rd at 18 weeks 5 days, due to an incompetent cervix (wanted the cerclage, but my doc wanted to wait to see if my cervix changed.) On Nov 8th I was 19 weeks 3 days pregnant when my husband & I went to the ER after my water broke while sleeping that night. I was also told by the ER doc that they'll probably send me home. Some how, by the grace of God the doc upstairs in Labor/Delivery said no and
advised him to send me upstairs. I soon learned from the nurse that I could get an infection.
It bothered my husband and I so much that the ER doc was willing to send me home despite this RISK of infection. Many of the doctors were negative and honest that I would go into pre-term labor and my baby wouldn't make it. They suggested I opt to term the pregnancy by being induced; we said no adamantly after hearing her strong heartbeat. She held on for 9 days... My cord prolapsed on Thursday Nov 16th so they induced me and Angelica Michelle Trent was silently born on Nov 17th 2006.
I cry everyday, but have comfort knowing my daughter is in heaven.
My husband & I plan to try again as soon as possible.
Blessings to all of you!
Remembering The DaysIt was June 27th, 2003 and I was 29 weeks pregnant with twin girls that I was going to name Addison Lee and Lyric Marie. My husband was doing the right things and I was doing everything possible. My husband had a 9 and 5-year-old daughter from a previous relationship and this was my first pregnancy.
I went outside and suddenly I felt a sharp pain and I was spotting. I called the Doctor and he made an appointment but he said it was nothing urgent. When I went in he said we were going to deliver the babies. I was scared out of my mind. I lost both of the babies.
After losing both of the twins I went into severe depression. During the Christmas season my husband took me to the Bahamas to get away from the world. There we conceived. I found out February 1st, 2004 and had a positive outlook. We started decorating the twin's room. When I was about 6 months pregnant (May 7th) I found out we were having a boy that I wanted to name Nathienal Jordan. On the June 27th 2004 I honored the twins and I was feeling awesome. I knew I was soon to have a baby to hold. My due date was the 14th of August. On the 1st of the month something didnít feel right. When I called my doctor he said to come in right away with my history of miscarriage. I went into labor and was in labor for about 14 hours and excited. Nathienal died shortly after birth. What was wrong? What did I do?
This January I divorced my husband. I needed to have a new life. I had lost 3 kids and he had his 2. He didnít need me, or so I thought. In April I met Alex. In July I found out I was pregnant. 2 months pregnant to be exact. I am due in February and I am praying to God that my miracle baby will make it. Me and Alex are getting married In March with our little Girl or Boy there.
pregnancy lossI had a spontaneous miscarriage one Oct. 12, 2006. On Oct. 6 I started to bleed lightly, and it occurred to me that it was not normal because with my first child I didn't bleed at all. Anyway, I called my doctor immediately and they told me to expect a call back. I waited a devastating 2 hours until I received a phone call, not from the doctor but from her nurse. I explained to her what was going on and instead of telling me to come in, she told me that there were no openings for me to be seen today and to wait until Monday.
I had asked her to give me a referral to go to the hospital and she told me that there was nothing that the ER could do for me. I then started to raise my voice on her and explained what kind of medical insurance I had and almost immediately she replied, ďyou can see the on call doctorĒ. So I rushed in to the doctor, and instead of checking me right away, the nurse stood there and tried to check for a heartbeat.
I didn't even know how far along I was because from my first ultrasound on Sept. 27 they gave me 2 different due dates because my period was so irregular. It took them nearly 1 hour from the time I got into the clinic for them to realize they could not detect a heartbeat from a Doppler. They then performed an ultrasound and the doctor told me that he could not find a baby. 20 minutes later, he called another doctor to come and examine me and he found the baby within 10 seconds without a heartbeat. Instead of comforting me, he told me to come back on Tuesday so I could see my regular doctor.
On Tuesday Oct. 10, I went back to the doctor and she explained to me what I needed to expect. 2 days later, I felt labor pains and contractions that were unbearable. It felt like I had to urinate but instead I gave birth to a dead fetus. Itís so sad to see something like that. I never experienced that before. I actually saw the babyís eyes; it had 10 fingers and toes, and I mean it was sad. I immediately called the doctor and she said to come and bring it in to have it examined. I didnít know what this test was called, but the way I said it was "can you perform a test to detect what caused the miscarriage"? They said sure.
I waited anxiously for the next week to come without any phone calls; I called them back and asked for the results. They said, "What results?" I explained to them what I wanted done, and they said that they performed another test and it was too late. I also asked what they do with the fetus, and with a facial expression, she replied, "They burn it". I was miserable. I was left with no answers and a broken heart. If you have a miscarriage, tell them what you need or what you want to be done because those doctors that I dealt with were just horrible. I never want to go back to them when I get pregnant again.
It was weird because my first pregnancy, I went to the same place and they were great. Itís been a month and a half since the miscarriage, and I was given the ok to start trying again after my first period. I got my period exactly one month after my miscarriage and lately I've been feeling kind of bloated and really tired. Sometimes my breasts hurt and my areola are becoming kind of dark. I just hope that this time I get pregnant because its time, my daughter just turned 3 in Sept. and she really wants a brother or sister. I'll tell you she was pretty excited when I told her she was having one. Pray for me and hopefully within the next 2 weeks I hear something good.... God bless you all and Iím so sorry for your losses.
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