Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
i lost my baby on 31.o8 ,06
i lost a baby on thursday. i was 7 weeks pregnant it was the last thing i expected as i have 4 other children by a previous marriage. ive been with my new partner for 18 months he has no other children we didnt think that i could have anymore but i was so wrong. we really wanted a baby i thought every thing was going 2 be fine.
my partner was over the moon. my heart sank when we seen the first scan there was no heart beat i knew wot was comming. the staff at the hospital said that i must go back the next week. my partner was shocked i myself was i thought it was 2 early 2 see the heart beat but when we went back a week later there was no change.
our hearts sank i just need some one 2 talk 2 about it. i had a d and c also the day after now my world is falling apart please help me
just sadI found out August 10th that I was pregnant. Funny thing is I thought I had the flu. My husband and I had been trying for close to a year and with my periods being unpredictable I really didn't think I was pregnant. I didn't believe it so in total I took 3 tests to be sure. I got so darn excited I told everyone. people at work friends family and yes even the folks I have met on the internet. August 22 I went to the ob just to make sure all was well with me. I was told most of the time they won't even see you till your 8 weeks but I was excited so I went to a doctor my best friend has been going to and he let me have an appointment the same day as her.
At this point my friend finds out she is having a boy and that I am about 5 weeks 6 days. All is wonderful we are excited and I go home. I am home about an hour when I start to feel very exhausted. I go to the bathroom and to my surprise I am bleeding. All that I have read until this point has been blood is bad and never tell people you are pregnant until you start showing. these thoughts, as well as every other thought went racing through my head.
I freaked and yelled for my husband. We went to the ER. I was there short of 6 hours and was diagnosed with threatened misscarriage. They pretty much told me that you just may have a beautiful baby and to take it easy. I started to let things go and stopped worrying so much about everything. I started to really focus on positive thinking and making sure that I didn't think about the misscarriage because I didn't want to believe that it could possibly happen.
August 30th I went to the ob again for a check up. My ultrasound showed that there was no heart beat and the baby did not grow any from the last ultrasound. how are you supposed to feel being told this? I felt like someone kicked the crap out of my heart. Then I was told you can either go home and wait it out or we will take care of it for you. I requested the dnc for the next morning. I just wish there was something to tell us what we can do different or if there is a way to prevent this. But there isn't.
I have seen most of you write "it just happens" NOT good enough. Its all we have but that's just not good enough!!
The worst day of my lifeI was very happy when I first found out I was pregnant. I hadn't been trying to get pregnant so it was a pleasant surprise. Right away, I was overwhelmed with worry that something could be wrong with my baby and I wanted to hear the heartbeat badly to assure me nothing was. I called frantically to schedule an appointment having no insurance at the time. I hurried and applied for medicaid and begain prenatal vitamins, drinking plenty of water and doing everything I could.
I was finally reassured when I went in for my second checkup and the heart beat was there and healthy on my ultrasound. I was seven weeks along at that point. I had one daughter already almost 3 and seeing that heartbeat brought back all my feelings of love, maternity and embracing a life inside of me. I scheduled my next checkup for 11 wks and was excited because this time my husband was coming as well to hear our baby's heartbeat, which is today.
I called him in the room so they could do the ultrasound and when the screen showed no heartbeat, my heart sunk into the floor. My husband didn't know what to expect or what to look for so he didn't know what he wasn't seeing. I felt helpless, small and all alone. The dr. came in and told me my baby wasn't developed to the point that it should be and there was no heartbeat and that it was confirmed that my baby was dead and I was going to miscarry.
After having a successful pregnancy I truly know every aspect of what I am missing out on. I am truly devastated. My husband and daughter are too. She was going to be a big sister and now she's not. That's the hardest part is seeing how she deals with it. I wanted this baby. I really wanted this baby. And I can't have this baby. It went back to heaven to reborn at a later date and maybe to someone else.
I have some guilty feelings that perhaps it could be my fault, even though I have been reassured it's not. I want to get pregnant as soon as I heal from this. After reading all the information about miscarriage and why it happens, I should consider myself lucky that my body did what it had to, because had my baby been born, it would have had severe health issues. I want my next baby to be healthy so all I can do is do everything humanly possible to make sure I do everything right next time and pray to God that this baby is healthy.
I love the baby I lost today and I will never stop loving this baby that is now still inside my womb, dead. It's hard to consider yourself lucky after something this traumatic occuring. If you have read my story and been inspired or it has made dealing with your miscarriage a little more bearable than I am greatful. Don't give up. Live is a precious gift and this just wasn't the right time for you.
Incompetent CervixI have lost 2 babies now due to an incompetent cervix, My first baby was on september 16, 2005. I didnt even know anything was wrong until one night i thought i was having cramps so i ignored it at first then all of a sudden i was lying in bed when my water broke. I rushed to the hospital they told me there was nothing they could do because i was only 21 1/2 weeks and there was nothing they could do for the baby. I went through about an hour of labor and delivered a baby boy at 2:06 a.m.
I was devastated, nobody could tell me why it had happened only that there was nothing wrong with the baby, they told me it was a one in a million thing and would most likely never happen again, they were wrong.
I got pregnant again that next february, i was so happy and excited because it had taken me almost 3 years to get pregnant the first time. Once again everythnig was going fine at first except for me being paranoid and very cautious. Then i hit 5 months and things started getting bad, i went to the emergency room at least 5 times, everytime they told me i had a u.t.i. which i never had.
Then one day i was having a lot of watery discharge, i was scared so i went to the emergency room again they did some tests and then finally checked me and told me that i was dialated to 2, i was devastated i couldnt believe it i broke down i couldnt believe what was happening. They kept me there over night on an iv drip and some medicine to stop contractions even though i wasnt having any. The next morning i finally seen the doctor, he told me that since i wasnt having any contractions he was gonna send me home. But i asked for a sonogram just to make me feel better. When i got there i asked the woman doing the sono if she couldnt see if i was dialated, she checked and then all of a sudden sent me back up stairs.
When i got back to the ob the nurse told me that i was dialated to a 4or5, i freaked out i started screaming at everyone i couldnt believe how incompetent they were, they were actually goona send me home. They rushed me to springfield hospital where i seen a high risk baby doctor. He proceeded to tell me that what i had was called an incompeten cervix, i was then checked out to see if they could do a procedure called a "cerclage", but there was only one problem my placenta bag was half way out of my cervix.
After hearing all of the risks and complications, and the percentages and the hopes, there was just too much of a risk to me and the baby because my placenta bad was already exposed which meant that i would already have an infection. All of the doctors told me that they didnt even think i would make it past 24 weeks, which meant i had 2 weeks to go, and a baby born that little would have lots of problems that would most likely be wrong. We finally decided to just let nature take its course and see what would happen. After sitting in the hospital for a week hoping for the best the doctor came back in and told me that there was to much of a risk for me and the baby now, so we had to induce.
I spent 18 hours on patosin, and harsh contractions, i finally delivered at 9:42 a.m. my baby died almost 4 hours later. Im finding it hard to go on with seeing babies every where, tv, stores, streets, its getting hard to even leave the house. All i can keep thinking is... why me, why both of them. both of my babies were beatiful baby boys, i will never forget their faces, i will never forget the time that i did have them, i will never forget them.
In loving memory, Conner Lee Miller
Isaiah James Maguire
Is it Happening Again?My husband and I discussed having children only after two weeks of dating. We even decided on names that week! By then, we knew that the other was 'the one' and we were on our way.
We got pregnant in April, 2006 - no nausea, just tender breasts. About 6-7 weeks in, we miscarried. I went to the doctor and was told that my HCG levels were really low and that if the miscarriage hadn't have happened then, she would have prepared us. Well, it was hard. I cried in the car on the way home and then called my hubby at work. We both took it quite hard, especially when a friend was ready to give birth any day, when we found out that relatives were expecting, when I saw pregnant women out and about...
We decided to try again in July and lo and behold, we are pregnant again...My hormone levels are high, and I'm feeling the fatigue, breast tenderness and waves of nausea...However, as I was undergoing my physical exam, my doctor noticed blood on the swab. Is it just early pregnancy spotting or are we going to have to grieve again? I can't stand the thought of losing another one. I'm consumed with worry and am on edge. I know that in the end, it's for the 'best', but that doesn't make the pain any less. I'm trying to keep optimistic, but it's so difficult to not think the worst....
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