Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
In June 2004 after trying for a few months my husband and I found out that I was pregnant. It was right on our honeymoon period (just married) and we were so excited and happy. After the end of our holidays I visited my doctor and although I was supposed to be at my 7th week the foetus was really small. We were said to wait for one more week so as to see at next ultrasound examination that there was actual growth.
As soon as I returned home I saw blood spotting. I got rest for a week but at next visit doc confirmed that it was a miscarriage. Painful experience but me and my husband were soon full of hope that next time will come soon and we willl make it!
Next time did not come but two years later! On 2 of July 2006, after 15 months of systematic efforts to conceive, we were once again in front of a positive pregnancy test. My husband was excited but I was not. I was so stressed that things will go wrong again. The doc scanned heartbeat at 6th week and that made me feel a little better. Two weeks later I saw brown blood spotting and I immediately called doc who reported me after ultrasound examination that no heartbeat was detected and the foetus was not growing anymore. Unbelievable!
When it happens twice, feelings are very strange. I start to worry if there is some kind of serious problem and I will never experience a baby-birth! 'm really sad and I cry every night. I asked for three weeks vacation because I need not to work for a while and calm down. My husband is still stronger than me and encourages me for the next try! I love him so much and I try to hide my sadness from him but it is very difficult.
I think that at next pregnancy I'll only feel happy after the end of six months! Till then I'll try to enjoy making love with my husband and hoping!
Good luck to all of you girls!
2nd miscarriageI miscarried in March for the first time. I was devastated. By May my dr. said I should try again.
July I was pregnant for the second time. I was so scared...every minute I would go to the bathroom checking for blood. At six weeks, I had some cramping and when I went to the bathroom I was bleeding. I had a second d&c...
Now my dr. is running all tests to see if there is a reason why this is happening. I am surrounded by pregnant women and can't help but feel sad..............
Little Boy LostWe found out we where pregnant 4 days before I turned 35.We where so happy as we where trying for a boy after having 4 girls.I went for my regular neucal scan for downs thinking I was 12 weeks pregnant.My husband showed up for the scan even though I said not to worry as after 4 healthy babies I was an old pro but he showed up any way.We went in and she said that she would do the scan and then talk us through it.
I noticed as she was doing the scan that I was unable to see a heartbeat but did not worry as I thought that maybe the scans where different now (my youngest is 2). It was not until she finished the scan and said to us that it was bad news and that I had suffered a missed miscarrige which I had never heard of. I told her that I had not lost anything, my stomach was huge, morning sickness and all other symptoms.
She said the scan showed that he had actually died at 6 weeks and 3 days and the sac grew until 8 weeks and 3 days and my body denied what had happened. My husband and I were devestated, never did we think that something like this would happen to us. I had never suffered any sort of miscarrige before this. We went to our doctor who sent us to the hospital where they then told me I needed another blood test in 2 days to confirm the miscarriage,so we left to wait and were given the 2% chance that he was fine.
Saturday came and so did the confirmation that we had lost our baby which we wanted badly. Sunday morning I was given my D & C which was 4 days after we found out about our loss.They where the longest days that we have ever experienced. Now I feel like I would love to lock all doors and close the blinds and take all phones off the hook so I never have to face the world again. I realize that this is not the right way to go about it and I am going back to work tomorrow since it all happened, but now I go back not with a pregnant belly or my cravings and try and face the world.
I do not know if we will try again even though we would love another baby I just do not know if I am strong enough to go thru this again. I am lucky that I have my girls but this baby would have had the world at his feet.
WHAT!My Fiance and I were busy planning our wedding, I was at the end of the nursing program and things were going smooth. When my fiance said he thought i was pregnant I was in denial and said no no give it a couple more days. Well a couple more days came and went and I gave in to buying a pregnancy test. Sure enough the positive sign appeared as soon as I took the test.
I walked around shocked for a couple days and became excited with the idea of bringing a little one into our family, even if his due date was a week after our planned wedding date. We moved our wedding date up. 2 weeks before our wedding we went in for our 4 month check up. Things had been going smooth, but I had gotten this strange feeling inside that something was wrong. Since it was my first pregnancy I didn't really know what to expect.
But as soon as the doctor got the puzzled look on his face when trying to find the baby's heartbeat I knew something was wrong and started crying. He did an ultrasound and decided to send me to the hospital for more tests. As my worst fears were coming true I was absolutely ship wrecked. The next morning I went in to have a dilator put in to soften my cervix and was told to go home. How could I function knowing the baby inside me was dead?
I went back to the hospital the next morning to have a D&C! As it turns out I ended up failing out of my nursing program by 2 tenths of a percentage point. But who wouldn't having all this happen to them a week before finals? As it turns out the baby had Triploidy which if he would have gone to term would have had severe problems and probably wouldn't have lived past a couple months.
It has now been 9 months and I still have such a hard time being happy for pregnant people. Not that I want something to happen to their baby but I fear I'll never get to feel that joy again. Not something a 21 year old newlywed wants to have to think about every minute of everyday. I still have this incredible empty spot inside. I feel that it is coming between me and my husband because he doesn't know how to help me deal with this.
life is so crueli had tried for 19 years for a baby and then my sister donated her eggs for me to try and concieve through egg donation. I did and me and my partner were over the moon, as this was our first pregnancy. we told every one but in hind-sight i wish we waited, as i only had four good days of my pregnancy and then it all went downhill. i started bleeding and bled for two weeks, then i went to the toilet and miscarried.
i suppose i knew this was going to happen but didn't want to believe it, as the day i started to bleed i wiped myself to have the embroy in my hand. i wept that day as i knew what this meant. i couldn't even tell my partner as i felt this was for me to deal with. this baby would have meant the world to us, but it wasn't meant to be. i will never now if it was a boy or a girl, but only that we love it.
i hope one day to have a baby but my time is running out. i'm on antidepressants cause i can't get this picture out of my head. more support is needed to people who miscarry, i was only six weeks, why did god put me through such joy and then such pain, not a day goes by i don't think about it.
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