Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
After 11 months of trying we finally did it. We got pregnant. We were so excited. It would be our fourth and last child. I went in for my 8week 4 day check up and there was a heartbeat. The baby looked smaller then it should but everything was looking good. My doctor wanted me back in 3 weeks to make sure everything was still going OK. Last Tuesday I went in for my f/u appointment. I was 11 weeks 2 days. My labs were good. No signs of miscarring. I had my ultrasound.....no heartbeat. I was devastated. I had to abort the pregnancy. That night I took Cytotec (medication to induce labor). Well guess what my luck didn't get any better. It didn't abort everything. So two days later I had to do it again. I have my f/u appointment tomorrow. I'm still bleeding and cramping a little. I pray that it worked this time. I had a D&C with a miscarriage before and I didn't get a period for a year. I do not want to go through that again. To all of you who have lost a precious angel my heart goes out to you. I am a nurse on a maternity ward and I see a lot. I am so glad I found out early in my pregnancy. We plan on trying again in September or October. Wish us luck. I'll be 35 by then and my risks will be higher.
Full termI was scheduled to be induced on October 18th. Monday October 10th my liitle baby girl was moving a lot as that was quite normal for her she kept me awake till 2am that night with her wiggles. Tuesday I went about my day, buying some extra diapers as she was due to arrive at any time. I had a regualarly scheduled NST apointment that afternoon so I buzzed off the hospital for my apointment hoping it would go quickly because I had a playdate to go to afterwards.
I waited in line to pick up my paperwork and I noticed I felt funny, but shrugged it off because when you are 9 months pregnant you feel funny all the time. I sat down in the chair to get the NST, as I had done several times before, and the woman asked me if my baby had been moving and I said I thought so but I had been so busy this morning she was likely sleeping. She got the ultrasound machiene out and saw that her head was down, then next she always showed me her heartbeat. She kept searching around, I got nervous, she turned the ultrasound screen away from me and I said to her "you can't find the heartbeat can you?" she proceeded to tell me that she was no sonographer and she was going to go and get one. I started to pray that my little girl would move. She was often quiet in the morning and as soon as I would rest she would start kicking. A min or so went by and she hadn't moved. Then nurse came by and escorted me quickly into an ultrasound room. I was in complete shock I saw as she moved the ultrasound wand accross my huge belly that there was her heart and it wasn't moving. I said "so her heart has stopped?" the woman said "Yes, I'm sorry" I continued with "So my baby is dead!?!" and she said "yes" I just lost it. I remember crying a lot and asking to call my husband, I made the call but he couldn't understand me because I was crying too hard. A few min later my Dr came in and gave me a hug. We chatted for a min and he lead me into a delivery room where they started my labor and I gave birth to my darling baby girl later that night. She weighed 7 lbs 11 ozs and was 21 inches long. She was beautiful and perfect, I just kept wishing she would wake up as I held her. I miss her so much and I wonder if I will ever be able to heal. After all the autopsy and tests they did they don't know why she died, their best guess is a 'cord accident'
Feeling BlueI was pregnant with my first child. I was teaching school and had gone to the restroom. I noticed I was spotting. I immediately ran to my closest coworker and friend. She took me and threw me in her car and took me to the doctor. Anyway, I thought I was passing a kidney stone but I was having a miscarriage. If I would not have had an ultrasound or a due date, I might would be okay. But I wanted that baby more than anything. Especially since my best friend is eight months pregnant. I am feeling angry and depressed. I was hoping to become immediately pregnant but I have not. I am not only hurting myself but I am hurting my family. I am having a hard time dealing with the loss of my first pregnancy.
My StoryWe got pregnant the first time we tried.. I tested positive at 4 plus weeks .. and repeated the test at 5 weeks to confirm it .. At 6 weeks I had some brownish spotting . Went to the doctor and did a scan. Doc said it looked good but no heartbeat could be expected at 6 weeks so to come back in 10 days ..We went for another scan at 8 plus weeks and there was no heart beat .. it was devastating .. the sac according to doc looked 6 weeks .. I was really confused because I was still feeling the nausea .. not as intensely but nonetheless..
I called my brother who is a doctor .. not an ob-gyn and he called a few other doctor friends and they said to hold out till we know for sure ... what if ithe calculation was off because we don't know when conception took place and the fetus is indeed 6 weeks ... we cannot expect a heartbeat then ..
We waited a day and got a second opnion ... based on our history .. doc said it was a miscarriage .. we needed the closure and decided on a d and c .. it was the toughest decision and experience .. I will never know if I did the right thing ..
My heart goes out to all of you !
Nikita - My little peanutFirstly, to all the Mom's out there that have lost their precious angels, I feel your pain. I lost my little girl two weeks before her due date. I went in for my second last scan and they could not detect a heart beat. The doctors said I could wait for a natural birth, but it was too much to cope with all at once, so I had an emergency c-section. The staff from the hospital were fantastic, and luckily I had a very supportive and precious Husband and family by my side. It still pains a year later, her birthday would have been 21st June, the day before her dad. It does get easier if you know that somethings in this world we are never meant to understand, no matter how tough they are. I only pray that I will be able to fall pregnant again, it will never replace the hole in my heart left by my little daugther, but I think that it will make it easier to deal with. Strength and God speed to you all.
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