Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Feel like a complete failure
Found out I was pregnant and I was chuffed to bits - although me and my partner had just split up, we had been trying for a baby for almost a year.
When I told him, he was over the moon.
I was only a little bit pregnant, I had missed my period on Friday the 16th June and did a pregnancy test on Monday the 19th June,and subsequently started bleeding on Sunday 25th June when I went into hospital. I only knew I was pregnant for 6 days and yet I had planned the next 10 years of my baby's life.
I know people go through worse stuff than I do, but I seem to be totally inadequate at dealing with this, I feel so alone and I am wallowing in self pity, although I know it was my fault. I killed my baby because I was trying to teach my partner a lesson in my own pathetic way, my logic was that he was still allowed to go and get drunk, I'd show him how it felt, so by me trying to be clever, right and smug, I killed my baby that I have wanted so, so much.
I had told everyone, and I know you aren't supposed to start celebrating until 12 weeks, but I was just so excited, and I just couldn't possibly see that my baby would die, not when I had so many plans for him...I even told my 4 year old daughter, and she was just as excited as me... how stupid and selfish and shortsighted was I/am I for doing that? It's all very well letting myself down and everyone else, but not my daughter, she means everything to me, I wouldn't be here without her and it seems like I'm not content with messing my life up, I also have to mess up the most important person in my life...
I know I am just talking rubbish and waffling on, but I just can't shake this feeling. I killed my baby
just to prove a point
I hate myself
I know it sounds melodramatic, but if I didn't have my daughter already, I would just end it all
I've had enough of this, and I can't even take the easy way out
I'm doing my own head in now!
At the end of the day, I deserved this, the simple fact of the matter is why did I think it was a good idea to have a few drinks while I knew I was pregnant with a much wanted and planned for baby? Because I am selfish and shortsighted.
I'm sure if anyone bothers to read this, they will be willing me to shutup now, so I will.
Just one last apology to my unborn baby. I didn't deserve you. But I did want you so very badly
missed miscarriageMy pregnancy last year ended in an ectopic pregnancy. So this year when I got pregnant again around the same time I was a little scared. I thought everything was going along fine. I had my first visit last week, saw the baby, the hearbeat. And then went back yesterday and they couldn't find one.
our lost!We lost our baby at the weekend. I was 11 wks pregnant and had bleeding on and off throughout the pregnancy. I had very bad morning sickness and all the other stuff you get when your pregnant. We even had a ultrascan at 6& half wks with a heart beat!! (We were told this was a good sign at such an early stage and had a 95% chance of survival). I knew all along that something was just not right but no-one would take me seriously and I just got told 'rest, put your feet up and don't go to work'. But nothing prepared us for what happened in the early hours of sunday morning... We rang our midwife,nhs centre because my pains had become worse and the bleeding became heavy so when we visited a doctor at the nhs centre he examind me and said it looked like I would miscarry within the next 2 days so there was 'no point sending me to hospital where I'd be left for 24hrs on a bed'. So we were sent home with no pain killers and told to put a pad on and rest! then go to hospital for a scan in the morning.
My partner was a god send he held my hand as I miscarried our baby at home in the bathroom, the pain was unbearable and I had to pull out this blood clot which I could see was my baby in it's egg sac!! I've never felt pain like it in my life!! We spent 3 hrs or more watching our baby slip away from us then I cleared the mess up (so as not to upset my partner). We went for a scan in the morning and spoke to some nurses who said I had, had a complete miscarriage and were so shocked that we we're sent home to deal with this our selves when we should have been in hospital with trainned nurses to help us!! They said we had been so brave. We're hurt and angry that we could have had help but instead were sent home to deal with it!! I'm seeing my doctor on tues and we have decided to complain about this. We don't want compenstation for our loss nothing can replace that but I don't want another poor woman to face what I went through or for their partner to see the person they lov suffer like I did and feel so hopeless!!
Nikki and mark
I can't do thisTomorrow I am scheduled for a D&C. I feel like I am in a nightmare. I am 12 weeks along and no heartbeat. THey told me that yesterday. I couldn't believe it so I had another untrasound today. I am usually in control and keep my emotions on an even keel. Not today. I can't stop crying and my emotions are all over the place. I am religious, and from the time I remember have always known there is a "reason", "God's will be done",etc... Not last night, and not today. Three miscarriages are enough,
Honeymoon babyOur baby was conceived on our honeymoon in London, England. It could not have been more perfect! We were excited & immediately told our family members.
My husband is an awesome stepfather to my 2 daughters & we were looking forward to extending our family. I recently miscarried at 12 weeks. I spent the day in the Emergency room & had heavy blood loss. I was fortunate to not have to get a D & C. I was given an oral medication "Mythergine" to help my uterus contract. We saw my OBGYN 2 days later & were told everything was out & I should expect a period in 4-8 weeks.
This has been the worst experience of my life. I feel overwhelmingly sad....Hearing other stories helps. I felt so alone at first .
My husband has been my rock & so supportive through this experiece.
Good luck & god bless...may we have healthy babies in our new attempts!!!
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