Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
On June 2, 2006 I was 11 weeks pregnant and I started to spot so I called my doctor. Upon arrival, they did an ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. I thought my life had ended. What kept me strong was my husband and the fact that I have a 2 year old healthy little boy who is my life. I work at a huge baby store, so it was very hard for me to get back into work. After talking to many women who have had miscarriages, I never realized how common this is in America. I am waiting for my period to come so I will be healthy again to start trying. For anyone who has ever had a miscarriage: life does go on and don't for one minute think that you will not have a baby.
dont know what to do1st of all I wanna say sorry everyone. I feel your pain. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years now. With no luck at ALL. Not even a missed period. The 24th I started hurting really bad. My husband went got a preagnacy test and it was positive. I took 3 just to be sure. We went to the hospital they said get rest. So thats what I did. The pain slacked off and I never cloted. For some reason I felt empty and lonley last night as I was trying to go to sleep and I was getting little cramps. I woke up this morning to clots but no pain. Should I be nervous. I don't know what to do. It feels like we will never have a baby.To top it off, my 16 year old little sister lives here with her 2 month old and everyone is pregnant. I'm so jelous and hurt
Our little AngelMy now husband and I decided that 7 months before our wedding we wanted to start trying to get pregnant. After a very long 5 months of trying we finally found out in Feb of 2006 that I was 3 weeks pregnant. We were so happy it was unbelievable that we could love someone like that. Being young (I was 19 and he was 18) and living on our own was hard with the pregnancy and planning the wedding. I suffered through 4 months of literally every day non-stop nausea and vomiting. At the time I didn't have insurance, so I had to go to the ER room to get medicine of any kind. After 3 different visits to the ER, everything was going ok with the baby until I was 3 months pregnant on April 1, 2006 when I had some spotting. We freaked out and immediatly went to the ER since my insurance hadn't gone through yet.
I had a vaginal ultrasound and my baby was fine. She even waved her little hand at us. Her heartbeat was good, I was told to not stress (I was managing a fast food restaurant at the time so I had a lot of stress put on me) and to stay off my feet. After that I got insurance, quit my job, and had 2 normal dr. visits at 3 months and 4 months. Babys hearbeat was fine both times. At about 17 weeks I thought I started to feel the baby move but this being my first time I wasn't sure. But by the time I went to my appt for 5 months I hadn't really felt what I was feeling at first but I wasn't worried at all.
That day my dr. couldnt find a heartbeat and I was so scared. I was sent to get an ultrasound and I called my husband to come from work to be with me and my mom. All the nurses kept saying it would be ok that everything would be fine so I was scared but very hopefull that she would be ok. After the ultrasound we found out there was no heartbeat. We immediatly went to the ER to double check and after waiting up all night from 9:00 pm until 8:00 am the next day, that dr. found no heartbeat either. So that was June 12, 2006 and I had my beautiful baby girl on June 16 at 2:00 pm. At 19 weeks and 6 days, she was 12 ounces and 10 inches long. We got to hold her and take pictures as long as we wanted. She looked perfect. The only thing was her skin was clear but she looked just perfect. We could already tell she looked like me and was going to be tall like her daddy.
Today is June 26 and her funeral will be July 3. It didnt really hit me until after I let the nurse take my baby away. I felt so guilty for not holding her longer and for letting the nurse take her away. I just felt like I should have lived in the moment more but it was hard since for 45 mins after I deliverd I was waiting for the placenta and I didn't have medication so it was very hard to concentrate on her for that time but I cherish the time I did have with her so much.
For the next 3 days I was a wreck. My husband was a wreck from when we first found out but now hes my rock through this. I never knew how common this was for a baby's heart to stop around week 20 and for no real reason. This baby was so wanted. The dr.s say I was so sick because she was a strong baby and it hurts me to think she was probably fighting hard for her little life. The sadness, loneliness, and emptiness is impossible to describe. What was once my pregnant belly is now nothing but extra fat. I was so proud of it and now its my source of pain. We want to start trying again after my next normal period in August. Thats my birthday and I pray to God to send me a baby for my b-day. No matter what, we will never forget our baby for I truly believe she was sent here to teach my husband and I. I am not mad at God, I think everything happens for a reason. She is now our little angel watching out for us in heaven. We can not wait to see her again there.
In Loving Memory of
Annabella Baley Lael Pelayo
"Grace and Beauty of God"
devastedIt has not even been 24 hours and I don't know what to do. I have two beautiful children and already feel so blessed, yet devasted at our loss. I was dagnosed with melanoma in February of this year. I had surgery at Moffitt Cancer Center and thankfully the cancer had not spread. We are very close to our families and decided that after everything we went through, we wanted another baby. Our daughter is almost 6 and our son just turned 4. I could not wait to see them with a baby brother or sister. I got pregant on the first try with all three pregnancies - and I never had any prblems.
We were at a wedding yesterday afternoon and I went to the bathroom, I almost passed out when I saw blood. We went home and called my OB - he eventually had me come in to the hospital for an ultrasoud. I lost the baby in the bathroom of the hospital. It is one of the worst days of my life. I had just seen the tiny peanut with its heartbeat the day before. I can't quit crying and I feel very guilty. I am a Christian and know this happened for a reason - but it still hurts. It helps to know there are so many out there and that this is a common occurance - we want to try again as soon as we can. My prayers are with everyone else who has there own devastating stroy.
Grief StrikenOh my god! All of these stories sound so surreal is the word I like to use in this situation. I am 99% sure I just finished miscarrying our 1st child. We too got pregnant on the first try and I had no bleeding or spotting until 2 days ago. It started off brown and then slowly started turning red. The whole situation is soooo stressful, hellish, and dissappointing to say the least. We just heard the heart beat for the first time 3 days ago and it was 74. The doc said it was slow but to come in in one week. Well, I didn't make it. I also prayed like many of you to God and told him to do what he thought was right. I didn't think I was strong enough to make it through a m/c and may not be for awhile but I trust he will bring me through it and someday, when all is right, my husband and I will have a healthy child. Good luck to all - I know I will need it in the next few days.
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