Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
A.L.L.: A Life Lost
Wow...reading all of these stories really had me in tears, and for all the women that experienced the painful loss of a child is devastating...
My fiance and I had been engaged for a year..still planning for a wedding this year to come, and all of a sudden, we learn (after missing my period 10 days late) we're having a baby!!
Just like the rest of the women here, we told everyone..family across the states, colleagues, friends..you name it...just to find out that I noticed "something familiar" on a late Saturday evening..I was just 6 weeks pregnant. I was spotting a bit for 2 days, however come Monday morning, I noticed I had soaked overnight:(
I also went to the ER to express my concern, and the doctors there were doing all sorts of ultrasounds (abdominal and vaginal), and even indicated to me, that some bleeding in women do occur and can be normal..however to my demise, I experienced more and even more bleeding than ever, and was advised not to worry about it. (Ummm, how can you not worry about it when there is a new life being lost???)
Two days later, I was told that the HCG level had dropped from 613 to 157...IMMEDIATELY, I broke down in tears and knew I was miscarrying.
All of these wonderful women who had the time to express their pain in words...I feel your pain, and my heart goes to each and every one of you. Maybe it wasn't our time, and the next will be the right time..but we must leave that in GODs hands.
I do have a 4 1/2 year old son, and I will cherish him and the child we lost forever and ever in my heart.
am I too old?I must start by saying I am blessed with a four year old healthy son. I would like to have another baby but I just lost one today. I was five weeks. I am afraid to think about trying again. I feel like I waited too late to try again and maybe I am too old to have a healthy pregnancy. After my son was born my husband and I had alot of problems adjusting to the new life style and we weren't sure we would stay together but we have worked that out and we both always knew we wanted another child but we needed to get our "stuff" straight before adding to the family. Now I feel like we took too long and it is too late. Maybe I will feel better tomorrow. I have not told ANYONE. I am normally a very open person especially with my friends but I haven't even told my best friend. I just don't want to share this... I feel guilty like I caused it.
Conceived in LoveMy husband and I were married early in April. It was so wonderful and we are so in love! Married life was wonderful. Then to add to the awe and happiness of it I found out that I was pregnant! It was a very unexpected but wonderful surprise! We had talked of children and couldn't wait for the day to happen! We didn't think we'd be blessed so soon! But what a wonderful surprise! I took two tests to confirm it and then made an appointment at the Dr to check everything out and make sure I wasn't wrong. Then horribly it happened!
I woke up the Friday before I was to go to the Dr and things were fine. I was taking a day off from work to go with my family to celebrate my brother's high school graduation. While on the road we stopped at a rest stop and to my horror I was spotting! At that moment I knew the inevitable was to happen! My heart broke right then and there! I kept a close eye on it all day but I was so scared and felt so alone. We weren't going to tell our family till we'd confirmed it the next Tues. So there I was losing my precious child with no one tell. My husband was back in our home state working!
Most of the day I spotted off and on till in a bathroom in Wendy's I believe I lost my precious baby for good! Needless to say it was a torturous ride home! As soon as I got home I broke down sobbing! My heart hurt so bad, I so desperately wanted my beautiful baby, I had already fallen in love with this tiny being conceived of myself and my husband's great love! He held me and rocked me telling me how our precious baby was in heaven and that he loved me. I will never forget my beautiful first baby, and I know its happy somewhere, sometimes I can imagine what it would have looked like. The pain in my heart continues but life must go on. Tomorrow I go to the Dr to make sure everything is ok and in a few months we are going to try again.
But to my beautiful child, your momma will always love you! It's like my favorite little poem "I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living my baby you'll be".
The worst pregnancyI was 18 years old and found out I was pregnant. Experienced the normal pregnancy stuff through the first 6 months. The one day I woke up in a puddle of blood.
Crying my eyes out dialed 911. I then fould out later that day that the placenta had a tear. They put me on bed rest and watched me very closely for the next two months. Everything was looking better no more problems I was very hopeful.
My last ultrasound came. I was 7 1/2 months along. They then told me otherwise. My baby had something they call Dandy Walker Syndrom. For those of us that had no clue what this meant, it is where part of the brain does not develope specifically the motor skills part. How they function.
They then reffered me to a specialist in Milwa. who had told me that this spacific altercation could cause the baby to have no function in life what so ever and would be bound to a wheel chair up until the age of 12, if he lived that long. He also had discovered that my baby had disfigurments caused by the brain disfunction. My first thought that I ever had was why..... why me.
I was 18 scared, young, how would I raise a baby that could die that day... I didnt know what to do.
I discussed my options with my family and my doctor. Then decided to medically terminate the pregnancy. I went through full labor and my baby was born dead.
I will never forget what he looked like something that will be implanted in my brain all my life.
I feel that I had made the right choice.
I am now 22 and engaged. There is a possiblity that I am pregnant but won't find out results untill tomorrow. It has been 4 yrs and I am scared to death.
I pray that everything will be alright.
I hope that everyone who has experienced a loss will one day have the joy of a little one of their own.
I wish the best for you.
After the thunderstorm calm beginsWell I am 20 years old and I found out I was pregnant. I wasn't even married I was with my 22 yr old boyfriend. When I told him I was pregnant we didn't know what to do, we were in a fight so I didn't want to be with him and I even was thinking of getting rid of the baby. But he begged for me to keep the baby and said he would support me in every way and that he would be with me so we decided to keep on with our lives. He bought a house and we started to live together like a couple and everything went out great. I was six months and very excited about the fact that i was going to become a mom....
But I had a car accident and lost my baby. Both of our lives were at risk and I lost my baby. My boyfriend and I were so sad, I wanted to die. I just felt... horrible..... but now thank God I am with my boyfriend and I'm pregnant again :) I just wanted to share this.
Page: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60, 61, 62, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 77, 78, 79, 80, 81, 82, 83, 84, 85, 86, 87, 88, 89, 90, 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96, 97, 98, 99, 100, 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107, 108, 109, 110, 111, 112, 113, 114, 115, 116, 117, 118, 119, 120, 121, 122, 123, 124, 125, 126, 127, 128, 129, 130, 131, 132, 133, 134, 135, 136, 137, 138, 139, 140, 141, 142, 143, 144, 145, 146, 147, 148, 149, 150, 151, 152, 153, 154, 155, 156, 157, 158, 159, 160, 161, 162, 163, 164, 165, 166, 167, 168, 169, 170, 171, 172, 173, 174, 175, 176, 177, 178, 179, 180, 181, 182, 183, 184, 185, 186, 187, 188, 189, 190, 191, 192, 193, 194, 195, 196, 197, 198, 199, 200, 201, 202, 203, 204, 205, 206, 207, 208, 209, 210, 211, 212, 213, 214, 215, 216, 217, 218, 219, 220, 221, 222, 223, 224, 225, 226, 227, 228, 229, 230, 231, 232, 233, 234, 235, 236, 237, 238, 239, 240, 241, 242, 243, 244, 245, 246, 247, 248, 249, 250, 251, 252, 253, 254, 255, 256, 257, 258, 259, 260, 261, 262, 263, 264, 265, 266