Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
My fiance and I have been trying to concieve for 4 months now and finally it happened our first child! We were all excited getting ready to prepare for this wonderful baby and to my dismay I starting spotting at 5 and 1/2 weeks. I went to the ER and the dr. couldn't see anything on the ultrasound but everything else was looking up so he told me to schedule an appt. w/my OB in 2 days and get my blood drawn again to check my levels... So today was the day and my levels barely increased from 16 to 18 so the dr. did an exam and felt a swell on my left side he proceeded then to do an ultrasound.. Of course my worst fear came true, my baby wasnt developing and the dr. found a cyst on my ovary. So it's only a matter of time the dr. said before I miscarry, he wanted to do a D&C but I want to wait a couple days to see if anythings progressed if not I will go in on Monday to have it done... I never expected this loss to be so difficult and I'm sure in time things will heal... I pray for all of those who have lost and wish all of them best of luck...
While there is life, there is HOPEI suffered immensely a year ago after I discovered that I had miscarried. This was to be my first child, and at age 32, I definately thought that I would have no complications. I was devastated and my OB reassured me that I would still be able to conceive and give birth to a healthy baby. I agreed and decided to wait for 6 months before trying again. Sure enough 6 months later I got pregnant for the second time, only to discover after 7 weeks of pregnancy that there was just an empty sac. My OB told me that maybe I miscalculated and Told me to return in two weeks for another ultrasound when the fetus had grown a little more. My problem is that I feel so deceived. I believe that I had a BLIGHTED OVUM, and any day now I might miscarry. At present, I have no pregnancy symptoms (nil). I have done lots of research via the web and I know of a surety that this is another loss. "My fellow coleagues please read for yourselves and do not solely depend on your OB for all the answers." Sometimes they hold back on us, and this wait causes us to be terrified. But not to worry, WHERE THERE IS LIFE,THERE IS HOPE~~GOD BLESS~~
I miss youI found out we were pregnant in February. We weren't trying, and weren't not trying, so it was a bit of a surprise to us both. Everything went well until I started spotting at 12 weeks. An ultrasound confirmed what I think I knew in my heart already. The pregnancy had ended a few weeks before. I went home in tears to tell my poor husband. The following Tuesday I had a D&C, then suffered with migraine like symptoms for a week. Thanks to my wonderful doctor, it seems like those are in check and I'm working on the emotional healing, which is just beginning.
I just need to say it somewhere tangible and this seems like as good a place as any. I love my little baby Brooke more than the entire world and I always will. She will always be the first little life I helped create and nurture. Even though I miss her terribly, I feel really good knowing that I gave her a healthy and warm place to live and grow, even though she wasn't able to stay for long. The experience of being a mom just for a little while was worth every single second. I might be feeling a lot of pain right now, but the bond we had will last forever.
You are my morning star and my sunshine, Brooke. I love you.
My lossBelieve it or not, reading about other people in the same situation does makes me feel a lot better. Lately I've been feeling alone and I thought no one understood.
I lost my baby at 8 weeks. I had some spotting which turned to bleeding for two to three weeks. I went to Emergency and spent the day there wondering if I would be leaving there alone or with my baby. I had an ultrasound the same day and there was a heart beat. I was told that if there is a heart beat, it increases your chances by 90%.
I guess I fell in the other 10% because a couple of days later, I miscarried at home while I was resting. Now I donít blame myself anymore. I was put on bed rest and I did just that. Stayed in bed or on the couch and I did nothing. So to lose something that me and my husband both wanted hurt so much.
Thank God I already have a daughter so I looked at her and how much she has grown and that does help. Now I am ready so start again and hopefully the next pregnancy will be a success.
PoemAfter being married for two years, my husband and I decided we were ready to start trying to have a baby. We were ecstatic when we got pregnant the first month! We told everybody -- friends, family, coworkers. At 10 weeks, I woke up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. I was completely terrified when I realized I was bleeding.
I woke up my husband, called my mom, called the dr. and went to the ER. The dr gave me hope, saying some bleeding is normal and from the physical exam everything looked normal. However, during the ultrasound the dr asked again how far along I was. She kept calling it the 'gestational sac' and never baby and said it measuring at 6 weeks. I knew right then we had lost our baby.
It was very hard to cope with, especially since so many friends and family were pregnant or just had a baby. It was especially hard to watch those of you who were not married or had unplanned pregnancies that went perfectly normal. Many women give their baby a name to help them greive. I wrote a poem:
From the moment that we learned,
You were on the way,
You filled our thoughts and prayers,
Each and every day.
Our plans for our new family,
Were in constant bloom.
Only to be shattered,
On that day of doom.
Now we can only wonder,
What you could have been.
Just know we loved you dearly,
And that will never end.
When ever I have down times, I read my poem for my baby. It really helps.
I just found out I'm pregnant again - 5 weeks. And as excited as I want to be, I'm very nervous. I've framed my poem and plan to hang it in our nursery because even though we never met our first baby, she was still ours and will never be forgetten.
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