Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
I have four children, three girls 9, 5,and 2. And then there's Billy, my sweet baby boy in heaven. We had never planned any of our pregnancies before him, they just happened and we were happy. But we thought-hey, let's try to plan a baby! So we started trying, and five months in got a positive result.
Billy was such a strong active baby, but when we went in for our 20 week ultrasound the news was devastating. I begged our doctor to make his heart start again. We went into the hospital that afternoon to start an induction. Five days later I had to have a D&E which is different than a D&C because the baby cannot be delivered whole. They wouldn't let us see our sweet baby Billy, and I regret that every day.
Now we are 5 weeks along with another pregnancy and scared to death. But we have put it all in God's hands because we believe everything happens for a reason, even if we don't know or like the reason. This doesn't take the pain away.
We cremated our Billy and I kiss his ashes every night and still talk to him and know that someday I will be able to hold, kiss, hug, and love my Billy the way I want to. We will be together again, and that is what is getting me through.
I'm An Awful Mother Because...About nine years ago now, when I had the blessing of a son still nursing at six months, I was taking depoProvera shots to not get pregnant. My dr and I decided not take a pregnancy test before starting the shots because I had severe endometriosis for years and years and it was wondrous I got pregnant in the first place.
Anyways, I was in the shower one day and felt "something" when washing and picked it up and it was looking like my next child to be but at the time I freaked/panicked, not knowing but of course KNOWING what it was. But how could it be and not knowing what to do and being this horrible person, didn't even flush it down the toilet but crushed it down the shower. I literally heard the crunch and THEN called the dr.
The nurse told me I should have saved it and that I could have been pregnant because of the shots. But we all knew I could have been because of how irregular my periods were.
I never told anyone and I never grieved and I found pictures in books to verify what I saw. It was definitely a developing baby but my dr would never validate my feelings, probably because he was afraid to get sued. So years later I am still left with these unexpressed feelings of loss and failure and feeling I am the ONLY woman in the world to do such an awful thing.
3 Miscarriages in 12 monthsWe started trying for a baby April 2005.
When we came back from holiday, my period was 1 week late ( my cycles are 6 weeks long). We tested and it was positive, we phoned our parents and siblings. It was so exciting, but then 7 days later I started to miscarry, this was a scary experience. At first I thought it could be implantation bleeding but as it got heavier I realised that I was m/carrying. We contacted NHS 24 for advice. 3 hours lated a Dr phoned back to send us to Out of hours GP unit, then referrred to local hospital waternity ward. I was examined by a Doctor there, who was far from sympathetic the internal examination was so painful, but the Dr. was very rough and was told to grin and bear it. We had to attend early pregnancy unit next morning when we were told there was no baby and the pregnancy test they did night before was negative, we had not been told this night before and not informed they'd done a test, I was so upset and angry.
We have had 2 subsequent m/carriages at 7 weeks and have now been referred to an infertility clinic, but it is so hard to understand why these have happened. I have a large number (14) friends who are pregnant or just given birth. So to see them is very difficult as none of them had problems. Am asking myself why me? I will be 30 in 6 months but have been told this is not the reason for the m/carriages.
Our Due date for our first pregnancy was 9th March 2006. It was a difficult day, but we got through it. We planted a rose bush in the garden called Junior which is thriving well!!
There is always hope and I have been told that pregnancy is possible. It's a case of hanging in there and trying to be positive.
our lossi was so excited when i found out i was expecting.
i was 8 weeks when had my first scan with my partner by my side. they said everything was fine but had to go back a week later to check for a heartbeat. they then said i was'nt 8 weeks. i looked about 6. then later had the heart breaking news that my baby had died at 6 weeks so i carried on thinking everthing was ok then had 2 go through the worst part of any women's life having my baby removed by having a dnc.
i called our child charlie. i will bury my baby near home. the love i feel for my baby will never fade when i recover. hopefully we will try again and have a sucsesful pregnancy so my special charlie will have a brother or sister to look down on.
just want to let the world know that i love my baby more than anything in this world and i will never forget my special special baby.
we love you forever charlie,
mummy and daddy
always in our dreams and thoughts xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
HopefulI am a mother of 3. I had 3 easy uneventful pregnancies. So when I lost my 4th Feb of 2006 at 10 weeks, i was devastated and to this day feel very numb over the whole deal. I didn't feel pregnant the last 3 weeks. everyone said I am just too busy to feel pregnant. I just couldn't believe that. So when I started to bleed I knew.
I ended up with an D/C. the baby had died at 7 weeks. I got my cycle back 29 days later. Had another cycle 31 days later and now am 5 weeks pregnant. I am verrrry nervous, and am afraid. My 5 year old daughter last time said a week before I lost the baby "Mom did God tell you that he was giving us a new baby yet because your tummy is getting bigger?"
So this time I am going to be very careful not to tell her anything until I have had an ultrasound with heartbeat, legs and arms. She still misses the baby. It is almost hard to be excited even though I am. I can hardly sleep. But I am believing that there is a reason for everything.
I know God is with me no matter what and someday I will see my 4th baby in Heaven.
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