Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Missing my angel
On June 2, I gave birth to my son, Gabriel. This should have been a beautiful thing, but I was only 30 weeks pregnant and we had found out two days earlier that Gabriel had died.
I was under high risk care because I had hypertension before I got pregnant. I was secretly happy to know that I would get to have all the extra care and ultrasounds. And the care I received was amazing.
But on that day I went for a scheduled ultrasound and I knew right away there was a problem. They couldn't find a heartbeat. I hadn't had any real symptoms - no cramps, no bleeding, nothing. I was keeping a journal and when I looked back I realize that for a few days previous I was concerned about the lack of baby movement, but I wasn't sure if it was that the baby had shifted and I just didn't recognize the movements.
We don't know why this happened. We are iin limbo right now - they have done an autopsy and all kinds of tests both on me and the baby, but we don't have any results yet. I know there is a chance that we will never have an answer, but waiting is stiill really difficult.
We have had great support from our friends and family. It seems like everyone we talk with has either been through a stillbirth or know someone who has. On one hand this is comforting. It makes me feel less alone. But on the other hand, it scares me. If it happens this often, what if it happens again?
This was my first pregnancy. I want to have a family. We were very excited about being parents. And I want to try again. But I am fighting the fears.
My heart goes out to anyone that is going through the same situation.
Trying to CopeMy name is Valerie Garcia and I just wanted to share my story. I am the mother of 2 girls. But the road has been very difficult for me. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage in 2002. One month later I became pregnant with my now 6 year old. I also have a 4 year old. This year my husband and I decided to try for another baby. I became pregnant and on June 9, 2010, I was 11 weeks along and when I went to my doctors appt, my doctor did not find my babys heartbeat anymore. I was devasted. I couldnt even cry, i was so in shock. The next day I opted for a D & C procedure which was done. Right now I just feel so alone and sad. After 2 miscarriages I cant help but feel scared to try again. I am sure though that I would like another baby. I just hope I can gather enough courage try again. I need to realize that its nothing I did wrong. I also feel alone because this have never happened to my sisters or my mom. They have been there for me through all this pain. If I can offer some encouragment to someone it would help me. Like I mentioned before, I did go on to have 2 girls after my first miscarriage. Thank you for listening.
miscarriagehi, I had a miscarriage at 22 week, when i did not feel any pains or signs. the first two weeks weeks were devastating for me but now i coming alright because i decided to go back to work to relieve myself from stress. the calming way for me, I bought clothes that I was hoping to buy for my baby for my friend who has a six months old baby. you could feel the relieve I had in my heart. It really helped me. Now I feel better and motivated to try again.
Waited too longI've been married to my husband for eight years and have a child that is 8 years old. it was in march that i noticed the same symptoms of pregnancy when i took the pregnancy test, it came out positive. three weeks in to it, i started having crampings and lower back pain, and called my ob and he told me that that was normal all i had to do was take a bed rest and if i started spotting than go to the office or E.R., everything was fine untill the next day was when i started having spotting that led to a flow that i had to use 10 pads every hour, since im a manager i couldn't miss work, so i thought probably it wasn't nothing, untill two weeks later, i started feeling sick, that's when my husband and mom insisted for me to go to the doctor's office, and when i went there my ob did a check on me and said that the baby was still there, and did an ultrasound and there was no heart beat. he later told me that the week that i had my spotting was when i misscarried, and he gave me two options d&c or take a pill that would help me pass it, i took the pill, two hours later in the office i passed what looked like a sac, and the doctor confirmed it, i was shocked because i thought, why did i took so long to come here and wait, now we are trying again,hopefully everything goes ok.
My 3 losses -my angelsI have two beautiful healthy boys that are 10 and 7. When my youngest was around 2 I got pregnant again-unplanned. When I was suppose to be 19 weeks pregnant I went to a baby store to find out what I was having there I found out the baby didn't have a heartbeat they told me to go to the Er. I went to the ER and they told me the baby only measured 15 weeks and 4 days- it was a girl ! I was told I needed a D & E and they couldn't test the fetal tissue-? Later I found out they should have and could have now all I have are unanswered questions. Around two years later we had another unplanned pregnancy and I was excited. At 13 weeks I started going into labor and delivered the baby at home at 15 weeks. By the time I made it to the hospital everything was gone. Now 2 years later I found myself pregnant again and scared to death. At my 11 week appt I found out that the babys heartbeat stopped. I was so devastated - I couldn't decide what to do I had a D & E and did it naturally and I didn't know what to do. A week later I went into labor at home and it was terribly painful so I went to the ER where I was in so much pain and nothing would help with the pain not even 2 vicodins so they gave me morphine I was in labor from 6 till 2 when I finally delivered the baby and they were able to test the child. Today I found out it was another girl and she had down syndrome. I feel some what relieved I wasn't put in the position to choose but I am so sad ! I can't believe after 3 miscarriages I finally found out why I lost my last one. The other two I will never know. The Doctor said that he really feels that it was highly unlikely that the other two were the same . I am 38 years old and I feel like my time has past to try again and I am scared to death to try again. I know I am blessed that I have two healthy wonderful boys but I can't seem to long for one more. Never let a doctor tell you they can't test your child after a miscarriage-the pain of not knowing is so hard to bear . I feel some comfort knowing that I am not alone. I have realized that a healthy pregnancy is not a given and if god blesses you with one you are doubly blessed. I hope happy and healthy pregnancy for everybody out there but I also hope for peace for the ones that have gone through the same pain I have been through 3 different times.
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