Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
What Happens in Vegas Can Stay in Vegas
Traveling for work is one of my least favorite career tasks. Iíve enjoyed good work trips, like when I ran into Brad Pitt in New Orleans. But, Iíve also suffered through awful ones like the time I started miscarrying in Las Vegas.
I was ten-weeks pregnant and two-days into a weeklong stay in Vegas for a work conference. Several of my male colleagues and I were enjoying a late dinner when I noticed that I had started spotting. After dinner, they headed out to play on the Vegas strip and win big money. I headed toward my hotel room to hit the sack and convince myself that the small specks of brownish red blood were nothing to worry about.
By the next morning, the spotting had become worse. Before heading out to meet the rest of my work crew, I called my uncle, an OB-GYN, who instructed me to take a cab to the nearest ER.
After waiting for more than an hour in the small, dismal, and poorly managed Las Vegas emergency room, I was able to get my OBís office on the phone. They recommended that I come home as soon as possible. I called the airline and discovered that I had just enough time to leave the Vegas ER (without being seen by any of their physicians), pack my bags, and catch a cab to the airport. If I left right away, I could make a four-hour flight that evening and be in my OBís office the very next morning.
I remember standing in line at the airport to check my bags and thinking, ďMaybe Iím not miscarrying, maybe itís just abnormal spotting.Ē But when I stepped up to the baggage check, I dropped my purse and all of my business cards fell to the floor face down. Their glossy, bright red-colored backsides formed what looked like a puddle of blood right at me feet. I knew it was a miscarriage.
The next morning my OB confirmed that I was miscarrying and left it up to me to receive a D&C procedure. Not knowing that the worst was still to come, I opted to wait it out.
I ended up at my local hospitalís ER two days later bent in half with horrific cramps and bleeding all over their freshly mopped floors. I was hooked up to a morphine drip just before receiving my emergency D&C.
My anesthesiologist was a guy who had graduated with me. The only thing I could remember about him was a party heíd had while his parents were out of town when we were juniors in high school. I remembered that I had kissed somebody who wasnít my boyfriend at that party. When I saw him in the hospital wearing his scrubs, Iíd already been given plenty of morphine to curb the pain and was feeling a bit loopier than usual. Before going completely under, I was waxing poetically about the boy I had kissed at his parentís house. Iím sure the nurses were rightfully amused.
Things happen the way they are supposed to happen. And that pregnancy was not meant to go full term. I am fortunate to work where I doĖmy CEO was extremely supportive and gave me all the time and space I needed to grieve after the fateful work trip.
Iíve been back to Vegas since, but always for work. Sin city isnít the type of town I can enjoyówhat happened to me there, can stay there.
BrokenMe And My Bf Of 3 Years Began Trying March Of 2008 To Become Pregnant May Of 2009 We Where Very Happy To Find Out We Where Expecting , I Was 7 Weeks And 6 Days Along And Begone Spotting So I Made A Trip To The Hospital Right Away And After Only A Few Minuets Of Waiting The Doctor Came In And Ask me A Few ?s And Then Told Me He Would Like To Do An Emergency Ultrasound With In The Next 24 Hours And Then Sent Me Home And Said It All Sounder Normal But He Would Like To Be 100% Sure So An Ultrasound Was In Order. The Next Day I Got The Call To Come In And Get The Ultrasound . In The Ultrasound They Seen An Empty Sack Witch Was Not A Good Thing Then They Informed Me That I Had Lost The Baby :-( Those Words Struck My Ears Like A Tune Of Bricks I Was In Such Shock And Sadness I Could Not Believe This Was Happening To Me It Hurt So Much In My Mind And Hart I Did Not Know What To Do Or Say I Forgot How To Move Me And My Mother Sat In The Room And Cried As We Walked Down the Halls To Go Home All I Wanted To Do Was Scream And Wake Up From The Night Mare My Life Had Just become . I Then Had To Wait For A Week At Home For Something To Start Happening For My Body To Do This On Its Own Witch Did Not Work So I Had To Go See A Doctor About Getting Pills That Help Flush You Out. And This Doctor Who Was Very Rude With Me Due To My Age ( I Am 21 By The Way )Made Me Cry The WHole Viste Due To Her Addatude With Was The Last Thing I Needed But Yeah She Gave Me The Pills And I Hesitated On Taking Them
For A Few Days Then I Took Them And With In An Hour I Was In full Blown Labor ( Witch Is What The Pills Do They Are Used To Indus Women When They Are Over Due And Also To Help Flush Out The Miscarriage )As I Was Waiting To Deliver A Empty Sack That Was My One Chance At Being The Mom Ive Always Wanted To Be :-( All I Could Do Was Cry From The Pain Of The Cramps And The Pain My Hart Felt I Am Still Going Threw The Pain Of This Not Only In My Hart But In My Body I Took Those Pills 4 Days Ago I Wish This Would All Be Over! I Know The Memory Of This Will Never Be forgotten But I just Want My Body Back I Hurt So Much And I Just Don't Know What To Do Anymore In Between The Night Mars Wile I Sleep And the Stars From Everyone Around Me I Just Feel So Lost In This World Right now And My Cuzin Who Me And Her Have Always Been Alike Found Out She Was Expecting At The Same Time I Did She Was A Week Behind Me And She Is Doing Great And My Best Friend From School Also Found Out She Was Expecting She Was 2 Weeks Behind Me She is Great As Well I Am So Happy For Them Both But At The Same Time It Is So Hard To Watch Knowing That This January When All 3 Of Our Little ones Where Due Only 2 Will Be Coming :-( I Hate Feeling Like I Am Pitying My Self Ive Never Been One To Put My Self First But I Just Cant Seem to Think Of Anything But My Lost Sence The Day I Found Out . I Feel So Lost And Just No Me Anymore Some day's I Feel Are Easy er Then Others When I Have My Bf Around And Family But Even Wile Sleeping Beside My Bf I Still Feel Alone I Know It Will In A Way Get Better In Time But I Just Have A Hard Time Seeing That Right Now . Me And My Bf Have Talked A Little About Trying Again But We Have De sided To Wait A Year Cause I Am Ready For A Baby But I Am Not Ready For The Chance Of This Happening Again I Do Believe In My Hart That I Will Be A Mom Someday And I Will Make My Wonderful Bf The Father He Wants To Be <3 But For Right Now I Know I Just Need To Heel My Body And My Mind . For All You Women Who Have Been Threw This I Am very Sorry For Your Lost And I Hope The Best For You All <3 And I Pary You Will All Have Your Day Some Time In The Futcher <3
I Hope I Will To <3
qOne but never fOrgOttenmost women were reallly blessed witht thier beautiful children unfortunetly i lossed my baby.
iwas 16 when ihad gott pregnant i was in my juniOr year in highschool by the boy ithought i truely loved. we were together for about 2 years happy as could be. yes we were sexually activee bt he was my first<3
the 1st to meet my family
1st to take my virginity
&1st to ever love me
well onee month had came & no period?.
then onee turned into 2 months.'
&before iknew it it had been three
my mother took me to the doctor to have a pregnancy test ididnt tell my boyfriend because ididnt want him to worry.
well test results came in & iwas pregnant.'
me & my mom cried our eyes out
&iwas schedule for an ultrasound.
iwent homee &called my boyfriend &told him
he was worried of course bt he said "its okay everything is going to be okay baby"
well iwent for my ultrasound &seen my precious gift.
btt after a few days istarted bleeding.
so iwent to the emergency & they had told mee
im sorry to have to tell you this but its because your having a miscarrage):
icried for days & so did my boyfriend
that same night ihad a call from my grandmother telling me my father had passed away.
it was so hard to get through bt ialways say gone bt never forgotten.
women who have had thier children no matter wha age you were blessed.'
iknow its not easy bt who ever said life was going to be easy.
women all over the world stay strong and take care of your children because they are the future.'
R.I.PWOW!! I never thought this would happen to me.
My boyfrined David and i were together about a week before we had sex.. i got pregnent after the 3 rd time.. we were bother 14..
well i just told my paretns they told me to leave they were don e with me, so davids mom let me move in..
Me and him were in love.. i cared so much for him.. soo after 7 months of long pregnency we were told we wld have a little girl.
i was so happy, i would have a little angel..
well we were on the porch and i got up, walked to the street, i was on the phone and a drunk driver hit me..
well i lost my little angel, david and i were so sad.. i cried for days.. my little Allishia Marie was dead and gone..
well after about 6 months, i fell pregnent again..
i had told my mom she hung up on me. well its been 2 years, we have a little girl name Ashley Marie..
We have Allishia's sonograms in her room, she knows thats her big sister.. she loves her even though she doesnt know her..
Ashley is growing up so fast.. shes so happy, me and david are both 16, with a 2 year old..
we r happy walking through highschool together...
Allishia baby i will always love you forever.. even though i never got to hold you i still love you baby girl.. your still my world..
Ashley i dont know how i would have gotten through this without you princess.. i love you to death..
My time will come..I found out I was pregnant on April 9th, 2009, just before Easter. Turns out I conceived the day before my 32nd birthday and we were due December 17th, 2009 It was very exciting but nerve wrecking at the same time. I had two previous miscarriages. The first one was Oct 2, 2008 at 5 1/2 weeks. The second one was January 11th, 2009 and I was 10 weeks but the fetus stopped developing at 8 weeks. This third pregnancy was going to be different . I felt different, I felt great and I was getting so excited. I passed the 10 week mark and during that weekend, I remember not feeling well. I just felt different and knew something wasn't right. I had an appt. with my midwife at 11 weeks. I had some light spotting and was worried. She said my blood work was good and everything looked good. She could even feel the top of the uterus just under my stomach. I shrugged off the spotting but the next week I began to spot again, only thing it was much darker and there was more there. I had only mild cramping and kept thinking that it was all in my head. I was so close to my 12th week and was hoping everything would be fine and then I could tell everyone our exciting news. On June 4th at 2:30 am I woke up with serious cramping and I was bleeding a lot. It was exactly like the second time I miscarried. My husband took me to ER and they did an exam and ultrasound. They couldn't see a heartbeat and the Dr. said the fetus wasn't the size it should be for 12 weeks, he said it was smaller. I had to be admitted to the hospital and was there for 18 hours. I had another ultrasound done and I was told that the fetus had a very slow heart beat and that it wasn't going to live. It was also underdeveloped. I was heartbroken and cried. I had miscarried on the 12th week. I was expecting to announce joyous news but instead I was losing a baby again. A specialist came in and met with me and my husband. He said a D&C would have to be done and then I would have to meet with him in a couple weeks to discuss what to do next as I had three miscarriages in a row. While waiting for the D&C, I went into preterm labor. I was in so much pain and was bleeding a lot. My D&C was pushed back because of other emergencies but it was finally done. I'm recovering physically but emotionally, it will take some time. Going through a miscarriage is one of the hardest things I've done. Going through three miscarriages is something I never thought would happen. It is the toughest thing ever and I would never wish this upon anyone. This will not stop me from having a family. I will have a family one day but right now, I will have to work on myself. I have to be healthy, especially mentally. I have my ups and downs and it will take time to be and feel 'normal' again. I am extremely lucky to have my husband and family by my side. My husband has been my support and he's been so understanding. I thank him everyday for being here. I didn't write this to scare people off but to give them courage to never give up. I feel things happen for a reason and that the fetus wasn't healthy. It's hard to think positive somedays but I know one day I will have a baby of my own, it's just not my time yet.
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