Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Always Love You Makayla
My pregnancy went by smoothly with no problems. It was a huge surprise when we found out that our baby had died. I was 37 weeks and 5 days along in my pregnancy, when we found out that something was seriously wrong. It was a Friday morning May 16 08. I went to my doctors appointment as usual. I wasn't really that concerned that there hadn't been much movement from the baby the night before. I just thought she must have been sleeping or something.
The doctor was having a hard time trying to find the heartbeat. She sent me to the hospital right away for an ultrasound. They told me "We are so sorry to tell you this, but there is not even a faint heartbeat, she's gone."
I felt like I was in a dream I couldn't believe what they were telling me. I curled up in a ball and sobbed my heart out.
A little later they took me back to the maternity ward. The Nurses and Doctors where going through all the different scenarios as to what could have happened with the baby. They also gave me different choices as to what we wanted to do. I decided to go home for the night and to come back the next day to induce labor.
I had our sweet little girl May 17 2008, she was beautiful. We named her Makayla Joy Gray she was 6lbs 5oz. Makayla had such dainty little hands. We knew right away what the problem had been. Her umbilical cord had a knot in it and it had tightened enough to block of the blood and oxygen flow. We took pictures of her and a clipping of her hair the nurses made hand a feet stamps for us too.
We stayed at the hospital with her til the next day which was Sunday.
It broke our hearts to leave her behind at the hospital, and go home without her. We where so close to the end of the pregnancy.
We want another baby soon but I don't know if I am ready. I have had a miscarriage since the stillbirth, this all makes me wonder what will happen next. We do have a 5 year old son, he needs a little brother or sister some day soon.
We will always miss you and love you Makayla.
feel so alonei was 8weeks pregnant when i went for the scan which then we found out are baby had no heartbeat and the sack was caving in.so i went in 2 have tablets to help me miscarry which was very painful,i have been bleeding for about 5weeks since it happen.ive had test and bloods dunwhich came back that my iron was low,i havent felt very well since it happened.i dont want 2 go out and c people.i have 3children which need there mum,when i talk abt how i feel my family and partner dont understand its my third miscariage and we want 2 try for another baby but im worryed it will happen again,i no im very lucky 2 hv my 3 girls dont get me wrong but i just cant forget whats happened.when you talk 2 some people they say that it was only 8weeks and it wasnt even a baby.
The Miracle behind the Lost!My miscarriage was both sad and a blessing at the same time! First, after visits to a great many of doctors to pin point a cause to our fertility, we were eventually given the diagnoses of unexplained infertility! Anyway, for seventeen months I never gave up hope and practiced fertility awareness like clockwork. Imagine seventeen months of basal body temps, checking cervical position and mucus, and spending countless dollars on ovulation test kits and pregnancy tests. I prayed to God to grant me a Christmas miracle, and he did just that! On Christmas day 12/25/2008 I had a beta hcg of 39, after the disbelief of two different pregnancy test very faint positives on 12/24/2008. I was through the roof with excitment! Because of my troubles with trying to conceive for so long, my doctor ordered hcgs daily to track my pregnancy. Not only did my hormone double in some cases it tripled! After a week of excellent above average betas comes the reality check. On Jan. 3rd,2009 I began to bleed, nothing heavy but it was enough to have to wear a sanitary napkin! In the panic I rushed to my doctor for a stat ultrasound. The ultrasound revealed that everything was as it should be, but I was given the diagnoses of a treatening miscarriage and placed on bed rest! By Jan8th, my bleeding became so profuse that I was barely able to stand and was extremely faint and weak! Again, darted to my doctor for a stat ultrasound and a beta! Despite all of the bleeding, my beta was a nice 5582 which is excellent for five weeks gestation. The problem was the ultrasound didn't reveal a fetus, heartbeat, sac, nothing! I was rushed to the ER to be preped for surgery, because of a potential etopic! I was bleeding so bad to my blood count had dropped to low to have the surgery and I had to have a transfusion! My doctor then ordered a high dose of methotrexate to help expel the baby! By the next evening, Jan 9th I was stable enough to sustain the surgery. My doctor decided to perform a D&C and a laporotomy! On the 10th, my doctor told me that he had removed all of my uterine contents and that the laporotomy showed nothing and that I could be discharged later that day! Everything was smooth sailing, until the evening og Jan 11th, when my profuse bleeding returned and I felt even more horrible than the first time! I called my dr. who told me to go to the ER where he exam me! To our surprise and amazement my beta was 6982, which should have decreased since the D&C and the methotrexate shot! Anyway, I was admitted again! By this time, all of the contents that were extracted from my uterus at the time of the D&C had been examined by a Pathologist and the report was ready! Here comes the miracle of my miscarriage! I believe that everything happens for a reason and here is proof! Well remember my bleeding started on Jan 3rd, and on that day I passed a huge clot! In my heart, I believed that I had lost my baby that day and turns out I was prorbably right. Anyway, when the baby (clot) had passed, it's placenta remained intact. The placenta is responsible for the pregnancy hormone. So although the baby was no longer present in my body because of it's placenta, ,y poor little body kept producing it! Anyway, come to find out that the Pathologist reports showed that I had a massive cancerous tumor that was wrapped with a large blood clot! Since my uterus is so tilited, no ultrasound could pick it up! Well my profuse bleeding was from the ruptured blood clot. Anyway the point being, had it not being for my short pregnancy and miscarriage I would probably be in advance stages of cancer. My doctor had removed this poison from my body without even knowing that it was there in the first place! I am deeply sorry for the lost of my baby and know that he or she is in heaven watching me right now! Had it not been for he or her leaving behind it's placenta which happened to be attached to my tumor, which caused my body to produce hcg, which in turn caused my doctor to diagnose me with an etopic and promptly removed everyhing (D&C). Who knows how this story would have ended! I decided to share this long and intriguing story to encourage those of you who have a lost to believe that all things happen for a reason and God has a purpose for everything! I know that nothing can replace your baby as it cannnot replace mine! I hope by sharing my story that you will cry, mourn and rejoice at my miracle!
my lossi found out i was pregnant with my second child in august 07 we were so happy we soon found out that we were having another boy and decided to call him Sebastian my whole pregnancy was good i had all my regular check ups everything was good he kicked all the time. i went to the hospital to book in for a c-section at 37 and a half weeks the doc was very busy hed just had to do 2 emergancy c-sections so i didnt wasnt to take up to much ofhis time and didnt get him to check sebastian. The next day wednesday i hadnt felt him move so i went to the emergancy room were i was given an ultrasound they couldnt find a heart beat. i was crushed they did 2 more ultrasounds but he was gone next they told me id have to giive birth to him i was so numb i was induced and was in labour all day my baby was born at 10:50pm he looked just like he was sleeping we kept waiting for him to cry but of course he never did. this happened in april 08 it is now jan 09 and i am pregnant with twins the doctors are being very good and doing everything they can to prevent it from happening again. I will never forget my baby boy but life can go on.
Miscarriage after failed tubal ligationI wanted to tell my story so that others like me know they are not alone. I recently went through a miscarriage that was not ever supposed to happen, because I had a tubal ligation almost 6 years ago after my second child. The strange thing is that I feel terrible for a lost baby that I never knew I wanted. Everyone seems to think I should be relieved that I miscarried because I obviously did not want anymore children but that is not the case. I can only think that maybe it will happen again and everything will work out this time. I would love to know if anyone has ever carried a baby to term after a miscarriage and a failed tubal ligation. The doctor seems to think I should find a new form of birth control to prevent further chances of ectopic pregnancies but this pregnancy was never diagnosed ectopic. From the first moment I realized I was pregnant (right after the third positive hpt) I thought this was a miracle but then the miscarriage happened and I can only think about the next. I would love to hear any comments or similar experiences.
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