Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Loss of our Angel
Last Monday (Nov. 10) I had my regular appointment with my ob/gyn. Unfortunately she did not find a heartbeat, so she sent us to the hospital for an emergency u/s. After the u/s we had to wait about 2 hours before we received the terrible news that our baby did not have a heartbeat. We were completely devastated. We could not believe that something like this could happen when only 1 month ago I had the 20wk u/s and everything was fine. We don't understand and may never ever. On Wed. 12th at 10:52 a.m. I delivered our baby. The cramps were terrible the day before and my husband stayed up half the night with me to rub my back. He was very supportive during this whole ordeal. The baby was sooo tiny. We don't even know the gender b/c to know it would have meant an autopsy and we were against this. I did feel at peace on Fri. 14 when we had a funeral for our little Angel. It was a beautiful mild November day and a beautiful service.
My husband and I do want to try again in the future, but, I am scared that this will happen again. It was only last May that I had a miscarriage at around 1 or 2 months. In about a month or so I will go for tests to make sure that everything is alright with me and there are no problems.
This is the most difficult thing that I have ever been through. We do have a lot of support around us but sometimes it is difficult to deal with. I hope things will get easier and this will never happen again.
angel babiesThe day i found out i was pregnant was the happiest day in my life. I felt like there was finally a meaning to my life. Martin, my boyfriend was not as happy about it as me but we loved each other so i knew he would make a good dad. i loved being pregnant. at night i would lie and cuddle my belly and dream about what he/she? would look like? what would we name her? what her little personality would be like. The day of our scan was amazing, hearing her little heartbeat, seeing her little peanut shaped body. i loved her already. When i hit the 12 week mark i was sure everything was going to be fine. i let go of any worries and just looked forward to meeting my baby. when i told my family they were all so happy for us. But the day after telling them i started to bleed a little. my mum kept saying it was normal but i knew there and then that i was going to lose my baby. i forced mum to take me to hospital were i was left in a room for 2 hours. all i could do was hope and pray. But when i stood up to go to the bathroom lots of blood and tissue came away from me. i had not prayed hard enough. my baby was gone. RIP angel baby xx
preg after stillbirth, scaredIn August 2004, after safely delivering 3 children already, I was dealt a blow I was sure I could never get over. At 24 weeks of pregnancy, I discovered my daughter had passed away. I began the agonizing duty of an induced labor, but knew this was different, much different. My children were quite young, and couldn't understand that mommy wasn't bringing home the baby sister they knew was in her belly. Rose Marie was born silent on Monday, August 9th 2004 at 3:12pm. She weighed 15 ounces and was 10 1/2 inches long. She was perfect, with her daddy's dark hair. I had placenta abruption, and had no symptoms. The doctor had no real reasons behind it. Every test taken came back normal, including genetic. I was assured we could try again, in 6 months, and may never experience another stillbirth again, although I would be considered high risk. The loss affected my husband and I to the point that the marriage failed within 7 months. We could not console each other. I thought for the longest time that I would never have another child, so I poured my heart and soul into the children I had, and eventually met and married another man. We learned on Nov 10th that we are expecting a child. Although it has been 4 years since my daughter passed, and I was told the stillbirth would likely not be repeated, I am still scared and apprehensive. I find myself reserved in my thoughts and daydreams, but very excited at the same time. I can only take it one day at a time, i suppose, and wish for the best. Maybe pray for some divine intervention.
My Angel AlainaHello, my name is Amber. In June of 2008, I experienced one of the hardest things I have ever been through in my life. Placenta Abruptio. This was my third pregnancy, and my first two when perfect. I was pregnant with my third child Alaina. We was so excited...we had been waiting for her for so long....And then I was at 36 weeks, and we was so close to my due date....I woke up from a dead sleep at about 3am. I was in extreme pain....I thought I was in labor....but I got up and went to the bathroom....I felt like i needed to vomit or something...but no. I left the bathroom and as I was walking down the hallway I fainted. I thought I was just too hot or something but did think I was in labor. My husband calls his mom to bring us to the hospital....which had been the plan all along. We get to the hospital and finally I am back in the labor and delivary ward and I am having contractiions back to back....they were not easing up at all. Then they put an oxygen mask on me, and began to try and locate the heartbeat....no sign of a heartbeat. At this point I was in so much pain I didn't realize what they were trying to say.....They got my doctor....finally......He comes in to perform the ultrasound......he tells me my baby has passed........this is when I knew something is going right.....I asked why and he told me because of something called placenta abruptia.The placenta tore away prematuraly from my uterine wall. My little girl lost all the nutrients, oxygen, and blood which caused her to be stillborn. I miss her. I love her still so much and never heard her utter a sound. We held the funeral three days later. She was beautiful. I am doing better now. I am pregnant with my fourth child. I am more scared than ever....now that I know things can happen....Please pray for me. I don't want to lose another child. Thank you All ~~~Amber W.
Taya Jade/Jaden MatthewMy name is Tabitha and I am 18. My fiance, Micheal, and I have just lost our first child. It all began when my family and friends started coming to me and asking me if I was pregnant. I brushed it off because I thought that no one could know my body better than me, and I was in denial about me being pregnant. I was pregnant for a month and still in denial about the situation, when early one morning I went into severe pain and bleeding. I was a little scared, but I had to work that morning and I had a doctor's appointment that morning as well. When it came time for my appointment, the pain and bleeding got heavier and more intense. The doctor that I was supposed to see that day called me and canceled my appointment, so I immediately went to the hospital in my town and told them that I was losing vast amounts of blood and I didnt know why.
I had a miscarriage and it hit me hard. I never thought that I could feel this way about a person that I hadnt even noticed that existed. When I told Micheal, I couldnt help but cry. It was so hard. He is being very supportive and I couldnt do this with out him, I am still fighting with the guilt and greif of losing my child. I wouldnt wish this on anyone.
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