Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
I recently had a classical c section about four month ago due to the fact that five month of being pregant, my water broke so i was admitted into the hospital where they kept me until the baby was viable where they can give that shot to help with the baby lungs. it so happen that i made it to the 26wks, meanwhile the baby heart beat was dropping so without delay i was told their have to performed the classical c section,because the baby was breach fear for myself and child' s life i agreed. so they did what they thought they had to do and my daughter was born, she lived for 10 hours and died,sad. now for some raeason i kept blaming myself for her death and swear to get pregant again to make things right, four months after now today i am pregant again and i am very sceard that it will happen again, so i know am at risk, but want i want to how serious is the risk of being pregant so soon. waiting for a honest reply.............wanet
21 weeksone day i was having really bad cramps so i called my doctor and they just told me to take tylonal and take a bath i knew something was wrong but i just listened.. then probably less then an hour later my water broke.. so i went to the hospial and they told me i could wait it out and there is a one percent chance the water bag refilling and the baby could make it but i might get a infection..but i wanted anyways..but i got a high fever so they had to induse the labor they told me the baby wasnt going to make it because the babys lungs werent developed at all because it was too early in the pregnancy.. they tested the plecenta and the baby had got an infection they said there was nothing i could have done.. but when i went to all my apts they never found anything wrong everything was going perfect... we named him xavier nathaniel
My baby ColinAll I wanted to do was give my son a little brother or sister. I always wanted 2 kids or maybe even more as long as we could afford them. My second pregnancy was uneventful meaning no problems. Nothing was ever wrong with our little boy. I felt him moving all the time. He seemed to always have the hiccups. My son who was 4 at the time, used to love putting his hands on my belly to feel the baby move. My due date was November 3rd which was also my dad's birthday. What a treat that would have been to have the baby on the same day. On Oct 29th I went into labor it was about 2 in the morning. I had contractions and everything was moving along. My husband and I went to the hospital and checked in. The first nurse to come in did an ultrasound. And he was not moving. She thought it was the machine so she got another ultrasound machine and still nothing. Of course at this time my heart is racing and i am preparing myself for the worst. A doctor comes in and confirms that my baby has died. Total devastation. Why us? My first question was what do i tell my son at home? We told him during the whole pregnancy that he was getting a little brother. And now here I was heartbroken. The hardest part is that we have no idea what happened. I had a doctor's appointment that week and everything was fine. We heard the heartbeat. We never got a reason. The reason for death is unknown. What the heck is that? I beat myself up still. It will be 2 years on 10/29/08. How could I not have known that something was wrong with my baby? How stupid could I be? I still think like that. We decided to try to get pregnant again. We waited about 6 months and then we started to try. It took us 11 months to get pregnant again. This pregnancy ended at 6 weeks. I had some blood and went to the hospital right away. And yes my baby was gone again. Maybe we are only meant to have 1 son here on earth and another son in heaven. Maybe that was it. I don't know. I know I am just rambling but my thinking is all over the place because it's October and this by far is not favorite month. Do I try again? Who knows. Not me that's for sure.
How do you title this...I was seven weeks pregnant exactly. I was only four weeks along when I found out I was pregnant. I was happy even though the pregnancy wasn't exactly planned. I was starting to get used to the idea that we were going to be parents. We told all of our family and many of our friends. We even picked out a name if it was a boy. A few days ago I had mild cramping and they pushed up my ultrasound date so that they could make sure there were no problems. The baby was fine. I could even see the littel heartbeat on the ultrasound. Friday my fiance and I went shopping and when we came home I went to the bathroom. I wiped and saw blood and freaked out. We went straight to the hospital. They did an internal exam and told me my cervix was still closed and that the bleeding could have come from other sources. We were just waiting for the test results. I felt wet down below and asked my mom to give me a tissue to wipe up the ky jelly they had used to do the exam. When I wiped there was a large clot and the gestational sac on the tissue. I was devastated. Now it's just the aftermath. The cramping and bleeding haven't stopped and I feel terrible. I am so upset. I feel so empty and I feel like I failed in some way. I keep wondering if I were closer to a healthy weight would things have been different. I wonder if I had worked less, took more naps, listened to my body more when I was tired if things would have been different. I saw my fiance cry like I had never seen him cry before. I will never forget his face. He is being so supportive. Part of me wants to try again right away, but part of me is afraid. He wants to try again, but is afraid that if the same thing happens again I won't be able to handle it emotionally. I don't know if I will be able to either to be honest. I just want to be pregnant again. I want my baby back. They told me I have a fibroid on my uterus and I am hoping that doesn't mean that I won't be able to have children. I don't find out about that until tomorrow. Right now I am hating life and I am just so hurt and so heartbroken. I wonder why I would be given such a beautiful gift just to have it snatched back away from me. I am just so depressed. I hope that will pass because I am normally such a happy person. I would appreciate any of your stories to help me through this. It does help to know that you're not alone. It also helps to know that other women have gotten through this to have healthy babies afterward. Thank you in advance. - Takia
19 weeks along and lost the baby...My husband and I lost our baby nearly one month ago. We were 19 weeks along and I was finally at a stage of enjoying the pregnancy. We were so excited, it was to be our first baby. We had been to the doctor at 17 weeks. The heartrate was perfect, my uterus was right where it was supposed to be, all was well. The weekend before our miscarriage I noticed a little bit of a brownish discharge. It wasn't significant, but I called the on-call doctor anyway. He said it was nothing to worry about unless the blood was bright red and increased. The weekend went on without any changes. I didn't feel all that great the entire weekend. After reading some stories I realized I was feeling like I was no longer pregnant. It was a disturbing feeling to be feeling negatively when I knew I needed to stay positive. Around 11pm Sunday night I started having some cramping. I thought it was gas originally, but by 1am I could barely hobble to the bathroom...I was bent over in extreme pain. I yelled for my husband. It happened all too quickly to react after that. We miscarried around 230 am. I was initially inconsolable and went in to the "I'm so sorry" mode. It took some time to relieve myself of blame. We do not know the cause of our miscarriage, our doctor tells us it was most likely a case of bad luck. The first week following the miscarriage I had the distinct feeling of emptiness. I missed being pregnant, I missed the butterflies I got when thinking about our baby and wondering what she was going to look like. There was nothing left to look forward to. Now that I've had some time to grieve I realize there was something wrong and we were not meant to have that little one. We will try again and hope for a healthy baby the next go round. There is plenty to look forward to and I cannot wait to feel that sense of completeness that I felt when I was pregnant! Keep a strong mind, stay healthy and take care of yourself first and foremost. If it's meant to be, it will happen!
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