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seven weeks

At the age of forty-one I got pregnant for the first time. I hadn't even been sure I could get pregnant. I had never been so happy, then I went to my first doctors appointment to have an ultrasound to find out that there is no heart beat. At this point I was about seven weeks pregnant. devastation. Can I get pregnant again?

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miscarriage at 14 weeks

Hi, I had a m/c at 14 weeks. I'd had slight bleeding & spotting (pinkish & brown in colour) for nearly 2 weeks before this happened. I had a scan at the early pregnancy unit when I was 13 weeks (7 days after the bleeding started) and I was told everything was OK. The baby had a strong heartbeat and was moving around - I even got a picture. I was quite relieved. However a week later I woke up having waves of abdominal cramps every 30 seconds. I knew immediatley what was happening, I was having contractions - I was devastated. 45 mins later I gave birth to my tiny baby, still completely inside the amniotic sac. I was very distraught and very sad, more for the baby as I believe I did something to cause this. I held the baby and later decided to bury it in the garden under a newly planted miniature rose bush - this was my baby, part of me, I had to treat it with the utmost care & respect. This was now 7 weeks ago and although I will never forget & never get over what happened I am at least coping with it. There are times where I still break down and feel very sad and there is not a day that goes by when I don't think about it. I'm trying to desperately to get pregnant again but I have not been successful. I keep doing tests (the last one being today) but they have all been negative. I have not yet had a period either so I think my body must be really messed up. I hope I can get pregnant again soon and have a successful pregnancy - I know I'll be so excited when I get the positve test at last but I also know I'll be quite scared. Thank you for listening. x x

KC

Our Loss

I have a 2 year old son named Brady. All I wanted was a little sister or brother for him. I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant on the first try insince Brady took 8 months to concieve! I went for my ultrasound when I was just 5 weeks and they said they see the sac. I went for another ultrasound and they said they see the baby it's measuring normal but I'll have to come back because they were not to sure if they can see a heartbeat. The day before my next ultrsound I was spotting. then I was spotting bright red and I new something was wrong. I went for an ultrasound and we saw no baby just the fluid that was empting out. I ran to the bathroom crying and then the blood started to come. I had to get 2 d&c's beacuse they didn't get it all out the first time they said. Like one wasn't hard enough! I was told I was 9 weeks and 5 days but the baby was only about 6 weeks. I could not believe that it was happening to me! I'm 29 healthy, in shape ect. Now I know it can happen to anyone and it happens a lot! Now I am more scared than ever to have another one because I know that you can miscarry at anytime! I thought by the 14 week mark you were in the clear, but after reading these stories now I know otherwise. I have to keep up the hope that I will have a healthy pregnancy again. Good Luck to everyone out there going through a miscarriage. It's the single most hardest thing I have ever been through.

Janelle

Pain with Miscarriage

I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I had back pain a week prior to the M/C but it is continuing to get worse. I called my OB and she prescribed Tylenol with Codine which is not helping. What should I do/

Robyn

I knew something was wrong

I was so very excited when I became pregnant this month. My husband and I have waited for years to become parents. I have a genetic disorder and many doctors had scared me into not having a child. I recently saw a new ob/gyn who said that since my disorder didn't affect me then why would I worry? Just go for it! So we did. I'm 38 and was more worried about down syndrome than anything else. I got pregnant after 3 months of trying and was so excited. I went to the doctor right away to confirm. He said he normally doesn't see pregnant women until week 7 but he would see me because of my risk factors. I was assumed to be 5 weeks or so but my hcg levels were low. I felt flushed, crampy, and kind of like when your period is imminent for a week. I tried to keep positive but I was having brownish and pinkish discharge for a few days before the bleeding started. I passed a clot going to the bathroom and knew it was over. Doing research now I realize that 70-80% of all fertilized eggs are not normal and viable. I'm shocked but the more people I talk to about it the more prevalent I guess it really is. I just really hope I don't have a pattern of miscarriage, that my husband and I can have a healthy baby. We're going to try after my next cycle. Good news is that I can get pregnant I guess. You can't believe how attached you can get in a couple of weeks. I'm so sad. It is really a helpless feeling to lose the pregnancy. It's shocking when you see the clotting and the blood. It's very scary. I hope this helps someone else going through this. I feel for every woman this has ever happened to.

Jennifer