It's not easy being a single mom. As a single parent, you have to take on double the parenting duty. Other issues can make this even more complex. For example, some young moms write about what to do if my boyfriend is an alcoholic. Please share your experience and wisdom. As you will see, these problems require a great support system, time management skills and top-notch parenting techniques. If you have tips to share with other single moms or just want to help other single mothers and single parents out there, then tell us your story.
It's not so easy now
When I was just 15 years old I found out I was pregnant. I was pretty much scared considering my boyfriend and I had recently split up. But, I'm a strong person, so I figured that it would be easy to get by on my own, with the help and guidance of my parents that is. I was getting by the pregnancy quite fine.
When I was 8 months pregnant, the baby's father told me he really wanted to be with me and help me out with the baby. Well, stupid as I may be, I turned down the offer. I told him I had already made it that far, so I could make it even farther...without his help. That was probably one of the biggest mistakes I have ever made. I didn't really realize that I was going to need him AFTER the baby was born.
About 2 and a half weeks later I went into labor. It was actually the scariest part of my whole pregnancy. But 8 and a half hard hours later, I gave birth to my daughter, April Elizabeth. Her father and I still talk and he is very much in her life, but I live with my sister, Karleigh, and still do much of the work on my own. It's really not as easy as I thought it would be. But, it's been one year already and I've made it this far, and I'm going to make it all the way. Thank you for reading this.
Erinn & April♥
Mixed feelingsAfter reading these stories I felt the urge to write my story, I don't know maybe to help those who are having the same feelings I am having right now... I'm 2 months pregnant and I don't know how to tell my parents. My boyfriend of 5 months is very well supportive and will be working on a ship just to support this baby... to think everything will be alright.
The only problem is my PARENTS! They have been planning my future and if I tell them for sure they would be devastated knowing my father, he would probably kick me out of the house or throw me with a plate... I just don't know... the only source of strength I'm getting is the strength given to me by God... to all young pregnant women out there, be strong because after all these, when the baby is out all we can do is smile and celebrate. God will never abandon us!
17, pregnant and mom won't talk to me.I'm 17 years old and pregnant (18weeks) when I found I was scared didn't know what to do. My boyfriend was happy his mother and sister 2. But on my behalf my mother didn't talk to me and she still isn't until this day. I told my grandmother 1st and she asked me what I wanted to do at the time I wanted an abortion. Now that I think about it I don't want an abotion. I'm going to be 18 in 2 months and I have a part time job. With the support of the father's family and my father's side of the family and my friends I will get though this and raise my baby.
Too Much, Too SoonI found out I was pregnant when I was 13 years old and the first thing that went through my head was oh shit, I decided that I was going to have an abortion but the doctor told me she would wouldn't allow it unless I had my parent's consent. I knew that I couldn't tell my parents because they would kill me but I really didn't want to become a mum so young, the first time I had sex we used protection but unfortunately that didn't help.
When I finally told my mum that I was going to have a baby she didn't take it as bad as I thought, she supported me through my decision to have an abortion and I had an appointment arranged fairly quickly. When I arrived at the clinic to talk about it I realized that this was not what I wanted, I didn't know what I wanted, I was so young I couldn't be a mum, but on the other hand I was 17 weeks gone, and that was a baby growing inside me now. I decided that I was going to keep the baby after all and my mum and dad fully accepted my decision and told me they would do all they could to help unlike the baby's dad, he left me when I informed him I was going to keep it.
I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl at just 7 months pregnant, and she weighed only 4 lb 6oz, I named her aleesha and she had to stay in hospital for a couple of weeks because she was so small. When aleesha was 6 months old I started going out with a lad called Jason, he was fully aware that I had a baby but that didn't change anything, he told me he like me and I liked him, obviously we agreed to take things slow...very slow to be honest.
Now, 5 years later i am 19 and aleesha is nearly 6, i have 12 GCSE's at A - C and i am studying for national diploma in animal management as i hope to bcome a vet nurse, i am still with jason and we are hoping to get married next year, everything turned out well but i didn't expect it too, all i am saying is, follow your instinct and have faith in yourself and good luck to all young mums oput there!
1 AND A HALF ANGELS IN MY LIFEI had my first angel at the age of 23. This is my story. At my job at the time most of my co-workers would hang out time to time. We did this a lot. One of the guys I worked with connected with me a lot more than everyone else. We became best friends over time. We hung out almost everywhere together all day long. We talked about any and everything. He was married with 2 kids, but was in the process of a divorce. (So I thought). The divorce was taking a little long I thought, and a couple of times I tried to explain to him that we needed to chill and just be friends until after the divorce goes thru, because I didn't think he was going anywhere. But each and every time he would sweat talk and say things like "What about my feelings", "How are you going to do this to me", etc. To make a long story short the last time I told him it was over until he handled his business (which he finally understood) a week later took a pregnancy test to find out I was pregnant. Now all of a sudden him and his wife are back together trying to work things out. At this point I had no idea what I was going to do. 23 years old, pregnant by a lying sorry for nothing married "MAN".
( And I use the term man very sarcastically) I didn't see myself having an abortion or having a baby or giving my baby up for adoption, I didn't see anything. Then on mother's day I decided to keep my angel. I realized how much I love my mother and told myself I can do it. My angel was born on 12-07-2005. My sonís father came around once or twice a week. But never told his family about my son. And because of a promise to him that I would not tell them, I would allow him to tell them because it was his place to tell them, I didn't tell them either. His wife didn't find out until September of 9/2006, my son was already 9 months old. And the only reason she found out was because she messaged me on myspace asking me if my son was her husbandís child. Being a woman I then told her.
After that, my sonís father took off, no word from him until he got served with the child support papers in 02/2007, 6 months later. Never called to see how our son was, if he needed anything, not even on my sonís 1st birthday did he bring a present. All because he could not be a man and take responsibility. Can you believe he tried to get custody so he didn't have to pay child support? What was he thinking? Finally 10/2007 everything was finally coming together. I am going to finally get financial support and they set up visitation days when he can see our son. Thank GOD. During all this I never put my son in the middle like most women do. I allowed him to see our son because it was in our sonís best interest, but he then was getting ridiculous and I had to put my foot down and speak up for the one who doesn't speak yet! But I am so happy this chapter has finally ended and yet another has opened. During all this I didn't date anyone for about a year after having my first angel, because I didn't have the time, was having problems trusting things that came out of peoples mouths, etc.
I am 25 years old now. Ran into a guy I knew in high school at a local bar and we started talking about everything and finally I felt like I connected with someone again. Someone that has grown and matured like I have. Well things happened and about 2 1/2 weeks ago found out I was pregnant with my second angel. When I told him, (beat this) all he could say was that "It was not going to phase him at the end of the day" and when I asked what that was supposed to mean he says, "He pulled out". (BOY DO I KNOW HOW TO PICK THEM!!!) He told me, "To go and be happy and have my little baby, but it's not his". I was furious! I told him "To grow up! We needed to speak like 2 adults about this because I shouldn't have to make this decision on my own". He hung up on me. Well long story short, I called him the next day left him a message asking him to call me so we can talk. Till this day 10/18/2007 I still have not heard from him. I know it's going to be a struggle but I am strong and itís all worth it in the end!!!! I would never change the decision of being a mother.
My son Jaydn is the best thing that has ever happened to me. My son is my life and this child I am caring inside me will soon join us. No matter the situation you are in, don't feel like there is no hope. Because there is! Maybe your family will get upset in the beginning if it's not a planned pregnancy or your not married or you are really young, but most of the time it's only because they are scared and care about you. And they will get over it. You'll loose friends for dumb reasons but they were not really friends if they don't stick around and understand. If your family never gets over it, it's not the end of the world. It's their loss. Children are blessings and the LORD will help you. If you have your family there but have immature little minded "men" as the father. Which has decided not to take responsibility, it's not the end of the world. You just need to handle your business. It's going to be hard, I'm not going to lie. But everything will eventually work out. TRUST ME I KNOW!!!! My family and a couple of my friends have been a great support group for me. Without them I don't know what I would have done. You just need to believe in yourself when you are in doubt. Keep your head up and have faith in the LORD. I hope my story will help one of you out there.
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