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Not so bad

I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant March of 2006. I knew because my boyfriend told me. Serves us right for not using condoms and I had just got a car, so I would leave school to see him all the time.

Anyways after I told him, he was like, "man this is gone be tough" but I want us to be a family. I was the one asking him what he wanted. His family was happy. Nov, 28, 2006 I gave birth to our daughter, and now we’re planning to get married and move into together at the end of the year.

I also plan to attend a local college for nursing in a month.

All in all, boys are not all bad.


kendra

he's just not worth it

I was 1 month and 6 days pregnant when I found out. I was out of the country and there was no way for me to get a hold of the baby’s daddy. My family kept on trying to talk me into giving the baby up for adoption or getting an abortion but I just couldn’t do it. The baby was my little angel... she is my hero. If it weren’t for her I would still be using drugs- if not dead.

I got a hold of my baby daddy’s friend and I told him about the baby.

I came back to the States and looked for him but I just couldn’t find him. All his friends are hiding him.

He's a gang member, a drug dealer, and a druggie himself- even if he wanted to be in my daughter’s life I wouldn’t let him. I still wish there was a way for me to at least talk to him because you never know... she can also change his life around like she changed mine.

I'm not in school right now because its just too hard and I’m going to start working 3 jobs. But I’m getting back in school sometime this week.

I don’t need a man in my life to get through raising my daughter- I just need to be strong and keep my head up.

And the day he decides to show his face- who knows- many I will give him a chance to see her- but only if he’s changed.

My daughter doesn’t deserve to live the gangster life.


lala

stop and think

I found out I was pregnant on the first day of my junior year in high school. I asked the daddy how much he really loved me before I would tell him what was going on. He told me he loved me and wouldn't leave me over this. He was on some hard drugs for the first month I was pregnant and I felt like he was going down a path I couldn't follow, so we broke up.

We got back together when I was 5 months along because we wanted her to have a real family. He told me we would stay together no matter what for our daughter. I'm due in a month and half and he broke up with me 3 weeks ago. 8 days later he had a new girlfriend. I've cried every day for 3 weeks.

Don't let anyone lie to you; the pain doesn't go away with time. He left me when I needed him the most. I have the support of my friends and family, but I’ve never felt so alone. I get scared sometimes because I wonder if I will be able to love her knowing that she is a part of him. I don't know how I could've been so stupid.

But you can't punish your baby for anything that happens before she gets here. She is the one person I know who will love me no matter what.

Kat

What to do next?

I am 17 years old and just found out I could be pregnant. I told the baby’s father, what good would it have been, since I live with him, not to tell him he could have a child on the way?

I told him, and his first reaction was “I’M NOT GOING TO BE A DADDY! I want nothing to do with this kid, you should get an abortion.”

I am totally against abortions so I refused. He kept saying the same thing even though his friends and sister tried to tell him to "man up". A few days after that he told me, “Baby, if you want this to work out, we can make it work, it will be hard, but we can do it!” That’s all I was waiting to hear from him. I cried of joy.

We told his mother, she said abortion or adoption. Once again I’m against abortion and adoption I would MUCH rather do. I mean I don’t think I should do that either, it was his and my mistake; you can’t just toss mistakes to the side like they are nothing! A baby is a different story.

After talking to his mother, he changed his ways again, “you should get an abortion, put it up for adoption, I’m 19, I can’t do this, I'm NOT going to be a daddy.”

I cannot force it upon him, it is his decision, all I know is I WILL raise this kid to the best of my ability, it was my wrongdoing, I will do it myself, it will be HARD but I know with God by my side, it’s possible.

I’m writing this for motivation for all you teen parents out there who are alone. YOU’RE NOT!!! God is right with you and he will be the one to NEVER leave. I don’t have my parents around me anymore since 16, no family, no friends but I’m determined to prove to everyone, I can do this and not mess my life up. Things WILL get better, not over night with time and patients, but in the end you can be the one saying “I raised this beautiful child alone, I’M DAMN PROUD!”


Khrystin

Little One

I first found out I was pregnant April 22, 2005. I was a sophomore. I went to the doctor and was told I was six and a half months pregnant. I was so confused. I didn’t know what to do. I couldn't believe I was pregnant. How was I going to tell my mom, and my boyfriend?

When I told my boyfriend he said he knew and that he was happy. I found out I was having a boy a week later. When I came back to school my friend had told another girl that was pregnant that I was pregnant. I didn’t like the fact that I had people in my business. Although I was showing a little, I didn’t want people in my business. We were to leave school June 16, 2005, but I left a week before because it was almost time for me to have my baby.

I had my baby June 30th 2005. He weighed 5 pounds and 7 ounces. I love my baby so much. When I was a junior a lot of people, like my friend, kept asking, "where's the baby? Where’s the baby?" and I didn’t tell them anything. I'm now a senior and I'm pregnant again. I'm not sure how many weeks or months I may be I just hope I'm not too far along.

To all the young mothers out there like me: don’t give up. I know some of you are single mothers, but that don’t mean it’s not going to be hard, all you got to do is keep your head up and God will have your back the rest of the way on.


MeMa