Single Moms
It's not easy being a single mom. As a single parent, you have to take on double the parenting duty. Other issues can make this even more complex. For example, some young moms write about what to do if my boyfriend is an alcoholic. Please share your experience and wisdom. As you will see, these problems require a great support system, time management skills and top-notch parenting techniques. If you have tips to share with other single moms or just want to help other single mothers and single parents out there, then tell us your story. |
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pregnant at 19i had been dating my babys dad for a few months and we were in love,i mean we had everything planned and i was going to follow him and wed get married when he joined the army.we saw eachother every sunday and it seeemed perfect,i hav two months pregnant when he said he had enough of the fighting adn left.i went threw my pregnacy alone,he never went to dr appointments,got pictures or anything...he didnt even believe it was his daughter till i was seven months and i slept over at his house.ive loved him threw all this and he held my stomach like he just knew she was his...when i was a week over due my dr.told me i had preclampsia and sent me to labor and delivery.the dad never showed for it,now did he when his daughter was ion the nicu or i was in icu(he had no ride).he saw his daughter two days before he left for the army and he fell in love.but now that we are talking he talks about his girl he likes and how he loves his daughter and wanta to be there for her......i miss what was,i feel like crap cause my daughter will never know a real family and thats how he grew up,with a single dad. aliyah Single of two.Hey there. My name is Emily. I'm Currently 18 years old. At 15 years old I fell pregnant to my ex boyfriend Caden. He of course left me. I took it pretty hard. I went to the doctor and they told me I was expecting twins!! I was overjoyed. On Feburary 22, 2009, I went into labor at 1:50 am. I was rushed to the hospital, I was immediately placed into a birthing room. I was 4cm dilated. I was 2 hours in when I finally became fully dilated. It took 1/2 hour for me to push my first baby, Kendall Morgan, out at 5lbs 4oz and 16 inches long. Then 3 minutes later, Blair Elizabeth was born at 5lbs and 15 1/2 inches long. I love my girls and I would never trade them even if Caden isn't around.Emily Jade We turned out okI started seeing my bf may 09 when i was 15 and got pregnant july 09 we actually planned to have our little girl and during my whole pregnancy i wasn't allowed to see him because he was on house arrest taken blame for what i did and my mom didn't no till i was 6months pregnant lol, she was very supportive and i was once again allowed to see the father of my child being practicly single my hole pregnancy was very hard i kept having thoughts he was going to leave me..but no he didn't he was there 100% and im glad it wasn't as hard as i thought it would be to be a young mom it was pretty easy considering i had everything i ever needed given to me by donations and i got lucky having to only pay 5$ for a box of diapers and 5$ for a tin of fomula for the first couple months, i do have bi polar though and it was a nightmare if my bf wasen't there i'd lose it i would cry and cry and cry for hours thinkin i made a mistake over nothing my daughter slept threw the night at 6wks old 12 hours and every night since it was so easy for me to do school with her sleeping all the time :) but i never ended up finishing i am now a stay at home mom till the die i pass on because of my bf's disability we get odsp and are set for life, but what i find weird is my relationship with my bf we have only had a couple minor fights and he asked me to marry him after only going out for a couple of weeks thank god we are still together doing better then ever and our little angel is almost 2 :)Tanya U Blessing from GodPeople say that being a single parent isn't the easiest job in the book, well they are correct but it isn't the hardest job either. When i was 19 i moved out of my parents house attempting to "prove them wrong" in all aspects of life that I could. That I could be responsible, I could work hard and pay my bills with llittle to no college experience. I worked as a Manager at a local Sonic Drive-In. Therefore, I didnt make minimal wage BUT I wasn't making enough to rub two pennies together either. I went months not speaking to my parents, all we did was fight and I did not want to listen to a thing they had to say. I eventually became so careless I ended up pregnant and alone. It was definatly a shock. Don't ever say it wasn't planned because to moment you have unprotected sex, it is accountable as planned. I was more afraid of being more of a disappointment to my parents than anything else. After months I finally went to them for help. Never let your pride take ahold of you, you will fail. Everyone needs help. The day I had my son, was the best day of my life. I can think back on the moment we looked into each others eyes and still tear up. Children are never a burden or a mistake, they are a blessing from God. He took a mistake made and turned it into something good. My son has changed me, my actions, my job every thing about me. He saved me.Danae Single Mom and 17I once was a single mom. I got pregnant with my twin girls when I was 18 years old. My boyfriend and I made a huge mistake one night when we were watching a movie. We did it without even realizing what we were doing until we got done. We decided we wouldn't tell anyone and that we would go on with life like nothing ever happened. But, about a month and a half later, I missed my period. I took a pregnancy test right away to rule it out. Unfortunately, it came out positive. I went to my boyfriend right away and told him the news. He was mad and said he wanted nothing to do with it and broke up with me right away. The next step was to tell my parents, they were furious with me. All they did was nag me and yell at me and told me that I threw my life away. So, I moved out into a small house about 3 miles away with all the money had been saving with my 2 jobs had been working since the age of 15. I had my own bank account with quite a large sum of money saved up, so I was well ready to be on my own. I also decided I didn't want people at school to know, so I dropped out school as well. At my 3 month appointment, I went in expecting it to be normal, but that is when I found out I was having twins. I was so mad at myself and I had know idea how I was going to handle taking care of twins by myself. Well, time went by, and 3 weeks before my due date, I went into labor at home. I called my best friend and she came and picked me up and then brought me to the hospital. I was brought strait up to my room and was hooked up to an IV and monitors so the twins' heart rates could be carefully monitored. I labored for about 6 hours before my doctor came in and told me I was fully dilated. I got comfortable sitting up in the bed with my legs open and began to push. After 7 minutes of pushing, Baby A, Brynlee Claire was born at 5 pounds and 15 !/2 inches long. She came out screaming and as healthy as can be. 8 minutes later, and I pushed out Baby B, Bria Lynn, at 4 pounds 10 ounces and 15 inches long. The whole thing was extremely painful and I was crying so hard, that I couldn't even tell anymore if I was crying because I was happy or if it was because I was in pain. Both of my girls were healthy, strong, and identical. I was overjoyed by the sight of my beautiful girls, and they have been a joy to me for the past 3 years! I raised them as single mom until only a few months ago when I got married to my amazing husband, Darwin. And now I am expecting yet another set of twins that are due March 13th, this time I am expecting twin boys. It wasn't always easy being a single mom, but my advice is to just take it one day at time and enjoy the moments you have with your precious children. I love my girls, and I love being a mom, I wouldn't change anything that happened to me even for a million dollars! I love it and can't wait to become a mom again to my twin boys when they arrive!Tori Page: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60, 61, 62, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 77, 78, 79, 80, 81, 82, 83, 84, 85, 86, 87, 88, 89, 90, 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96, 97, 98, 99, 100, 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107, 108, 109, 110, 111, 112, 113, 114, 115, 116, 117, 118, 119, 120, 121, 122, 123, 124, 125, 126, 127, 128, 129, 130, 131, 132, 133, 134, 135, 136, 137, 138, 139, 140, 141, 142, 143, 144, 145, 146 |