Single Moms
It's not easy being a single mom. As a single parent, you have to take on double the parenting duty. Other issues can make this even more complex. For example, some young moms write about what to do if my boyfriend is an alcoholic. Please share your experience and wisdom. As you will see, these problems require a great support system, time management skills and top-notch parenting techniques. If you have tips to share with other single moms or just want to help other single mothers and single parents out there, then tell us your story. |
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Pregnant and aloneI just found out today, that I'm pregnant. My baby's father and I had been together for less then two months. We broke up five days ago. We were still friends until today, when I told him my news. I convinced him to meet me somewhere. I told him, and begged him to buy me another test, to be sure. He said it was my fault for not taking my birth control right; (even though I was taking it perfectly). I told him it was part his fault for not wearing a condom, and he told me that I didn't make him. He wants nothing to do with me or my child, and even though it's only been a few hours, i'm coming to terms with it. He doesn't deserve a child, especcially not MINE. i'm seventeen years old, and in high school, with a part time job; he's twenty one and has a full time job. I'm being the bigger person, and LETTING him walk away. When July 21st comes around, he WILL be signing his rights off. I don't need his money, and my baby doesn't need him. The two of us will be just fine! :) Eliza BetrayedI always had my heart set on becoming an actress. When i was 18 I decided to get my own apartment and not go to college but instead try out for acting jobs. After a few months I didn't get any and i had to get a job to pay rent. I became a maid and was working for a single man who didn't have a job so he was home all day while I cleaned. He was always following me around talking to me and flirting. I fell hard for him and we started to hang out after I was done cleaning, we started official dating and I got fired because I was always hanging put with Cristian instead of going to my other houses. Crying I told him I couldn't afford my apartment and he let me move in with him. He got a job and soon after I moved in I started feeling sick and took a test that came out positive, I was scared but I told him and he thought I was lying and he was mad at me, but later he apologized and said he wanted to stay together and have the baby. He soon got fired and I was scared to death since we had no money, plus I was always dropping hints about marriage and he wouldn't propose. One day when i was seven months in I woke up from a nap starving, I went to the kitchen to get something to eat and there he was kissing some other girl. I yelled and told him we were done and soon as I had the baby I was out of there. I gave birth to our twins McKinley and Michael on October 21 and moved out with them in December. He still gets to see them and we both have new relationships, he has a baby boy with the girl he cheated with and I have a boyfriend who helps me care for my son and daughter. I love them more than anything but being with their father was a huge mistake and it's so hard being a single mom especially of twins!Arianna The Story of Maggie and Indi DavisI had known Josh since I was in kindergarten. When we were thirteen and in seventh grade, we started dating. It wasn't really dating, it was just kind of a yeah-I'm-in-a-relationship sort of thing. But I wanted it to be something more than that. And I got it, though not necessarily in the way I had hoped. One evening in August, Josh invited me over. His parents weren't home, and we snuggled on the couch and watched a movie. One thing led to another and that became the night we gave each other our virginity. And I won't lie, it was great. But we didn't use a condom.In September, I missed my period. I didn't think too much of it, since it had only started about six months before and was still kind of irregular. But when it didn't come in October either, I started worrying. We'd only had sex once, but I knew once could be the one time you got pregnant. So my best friend and I went to the drugstore after school to pick up the pregnancy tests. I took two when I got home and they both came back positive. I was thirteen years old, I had just started eighth grade, and I was pregnant. Abortion was one thousand percent out of the question. I wouldn't do that, ever. But it was the hardest thing telling my mom. When I finally got it out, she was shocked but extremely supportive. My dad was, too. But I told Josh, and he broke up with me. He said he was too young to be a dad, and that I didn't have proof that he even was the dad, and when the baby was born he wanted nothing to do with it. I told him fine, if you wanna be like that, go ahead, I don't need you. My family will be behind me the whole time. We completely ignored each other after that. I decided that any child of mine was too good for a jerk like him. When I was twenty-one weeks along, I went for my ultrasound. The doctor had said that this was the week I would find out the sex of my baby. I was really excited, but when I got there, I got an even bigger surprise. I was having identical twins. Twins?!?! I was thirteen! How would I possibly deal with twins! My mom had to leave the room for a moment when we saw the screen, because it was obvious from the second we looked at it that there was definitely more than one baby in there. I guess the thought had been in the back of my head, because I did think I was showing more than I should have been at that stage. But you can't blame me for being surprised. I didn't bother to tell Josh. I knew he wouldn't care. So I told my best friend, and she was really happy for me. I was happy too, I suppose. It was big news, and it took me a while to get used to the idea of having one baby, let alone two. But I was excited, and I couldn't wait for my due date, May 22nd. I turned fourteen in February. That was also the month I had to start sitting out of gym class, for obvious reasons. My belly was getting bigger every day. I had a talk with my principal, and she said that I would be excused from school for the rest of the year when the babies arrived, and I would still be allowed to graduate provided it was April or later. I remember the day like it was yesterday. I was sitting in math class at around 9:00 in the morning when I went into labor. It was April 28th. My teacher let me go right away and I called my mom and told her I thought I was in labor and that she needed to pick me up immediately. She drove me straight to the hospital. I had an ultrasound to make sure neither of the babies was breech, requiring a c-section. They were both headfirst. I was in labor until 4:00 in the afternoon, when I had the urge to push. So I did. At 4:37 pm on April 28, 2008, my first baby girl was born. She weighed 5lbs 7oz and was 20 inches long. I named her Magdelinne Hope. At 4:39 pm on April 28, 2008, my second baby girl was born. She weighed 5lbs 4oz and was 19 inches long. I named her Indiana Faith. They were both healthy. Later I texted Josh, 'Your daughters have arrived. I hope you're happy for not being there during the pregnancy.' He texted me back, 'daughterS?' I responded, 'Yeah, daughterS. I had twins and I named them Magdelinne and Indiana'. He never responded. When Maggie and Indi were one month old, they attended their mother's eighth grade graduation. I went on to high school, where I am now. My babies are now energetic three-year-olds, and I work part time to support them. My advice to teenagers (yes, guys too): Wait to have sex. It has a lot of consequences. I love my daughters more than anything, but I didn't expect to have children until I was much older. Morgan my little princesshi my name is brandy , and im 4 months pregnant im in high school im a 10th grader , i met this guy named rolly and we've been together for about 5 months , during the first month we were dating we had sex and i found out i was pregnant /: i told my baby daddy , he was pretty upset and said that the baby wasnt his and i told him it was !then he was like alright its mine , we told out parents and my parents were pretty upset but they were still supportive and still are , we told my baby daddys parents and they were mad too ! but they are supportive too! and im glad that there very supportive (: im 4months pregnant and im having a girl . we are going to name her dezaray . i cant wait intill she guets out of my tummy . we are happily married and are expecting a girl <3 brandy LonelyI'm 16 years old and I'm almost three months pregnant.These months have been very emotional for me.My pregnancy was so unexpected I was really nervous.I eventually told my mom and she sent me to live with my daddy.when I told my baby's father about me being pregnant he denied it saying he can't have kids but he's the only person I've been with. He wanted me to get an abortion and when I refused he cursed me out and called me all types of names.we were to tether going on 2 years and broke up the week before I found out I was pregnant.he's been with a lot of girls ever since I went to go stay with my day and cheated on me multiple times while we were together.he Cal's every now in then but I just don't want to deal with him at all anymore.If you're not going to be there for my child then there's know need for me to even deal with you.Teens that are pregnant and your baby's father is willing to be there for you and your baby then you are lucky.Unfortunately mines is a jerk.a.m.j. 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