It's not easy being a single mom. As a single parent, you have to take on double the parenting duty. Other issues can make this even more complex. For example, some young moms write about what to do if my boyfriend is an alcoholic. Please share your experience and wisdom. As you will see, these problems require a great support system, time management skills and top-notch parenting techniques. If you have tips to share with other single moms or just want to help other single mothers and single parents out there, then tell us your story.
It's A Very Mad World.
My name is Emily and I'm 17 years old. I'm currently pregnant with a baby girl, set to deliver around Christmas. My ex-boyfriend's name is Josh and he'll be 17 on my due date. I'm almost 100% convinced that my daughter isn't Josh's, and I just told him a few days ago. Here's what happened.
Before Josh and I were dating, he'd dated this girl for over a year. Her name was Morgan. Well, Josh and Morgan broke up because she was abusive and treated him badly. She would lead him on and tease him about everything. After they broke up, Josh and I became really close and we started dating. He was still a virgin, I was not sadly. Josh and I had sex for the first time a week before New Year's Eve 2013. He was uncomfortable at first, but eventually warmed up to the idea. I also told Josh I ran into Morgan and she invited us on a double date on New Year's. He was upset, but he said he needed to put his past with Morgan behind him and we went on the date. Morgan and Brayden were really cute together and we all became good friends and I even hung out with Morgan alone and sometimes I would help Brayden with homework and on how to surprise Morgan with gifts. Life was going pretty nice.
Around Valentine's Day 2014, Josh started to act different. He told me he had to work on Valentine's Day when he said he'd scheduled off and was cleared. So, I followed him. Turns out he was going to meet Morgan on Valentine's Day. He'd been hooking up with her behind my back. Morgan had been dating Brayden and he was 16. I had met Morgan and we even went on double dates together because I saw she was actually really nice, or so I thought. I was devastated but I couldn't let him know that I knew without him nagging me for following him. So I let it go.
A few days later, I'd had a scare and Josh came over and we talked. I told him I accidentally missed my pill a few days. We were worried and when we found out it was a false alarm, we were relieved. As I feared, Josh kept hooking up with Morgan behind my back and one day in late February, I found them kissing and having a romantic dinner together. So I called Brayden and asked him to meet me in the restaurant parking lot. He asked me what was up and I took him inside and we crept on Morgan and Josh.
Brayden was so devastated and he wanted to confront them, but he kept tearing up when he tried. So we sat in my car and we talked and I comforted him while he cried, and we cried together. We insisted that they weren't going to get away with this, since I told Brayden what Josh told me about Morgan. Brayden looked at me and said that Morgan told him the same thing about Josh. We both got really upset and realized we'd been played.
Brayden and I sat there in the car thinking how stupid we were for letting them play us. I told Brayden I was sorry and that he deserved better. He agreed and leaned over and kissed me. I felt weird and asked what he was doing and he said he needed this. He told me him and Morgan were planning to have sex soon. They were both virgins and wanted to give it up to each other. So I kissed Brayden back and one thing lead to another and we ended up having unprotected sex in my car. After it was over, we looked at each other almost in horror, but we talked and neither one of us felt bad because of what they had done to us.
The next day, we both confronted our significant others and told them we knew about their little hookups behind our back. They were shocked and confused as to how we knew. I admitted to following Josh and I said that I called Brayden when I saw them last night. We didn't tell them about our hook up that night. We called off our relationships and Brayden and I started seeing more of each other.
We'd go on little dates and have sex afterwards, protected sex, but we didn't always use condoms because I was on the pill. Well, I'd started feeling sick a few weeks later and boom, I was pregnant. I honestly had no idea who the father was. I could've been Brayden, it could've been Josh. The last time Josh and I had sex was February 20th; a few nights before Brayden and I hooked up after seeing them together.
In mid April, I had discovered I was around 7 to 8 weeks along. So, it could've been either of them. My doctor told me since I had gotten off my regular schedule with my pills, it took a while to get back on the regular cycle. And when it was still funky, I had gotten pregnant. I told Brayden and he actually threw up, but I told him I didn't know if it was his. He seemed relieved, but still anxious to know.
I told Josh and he assumed full responsibility and he was still seeing Morgan. Brayden and I told them together finally about our hook ups and that there was a chance the baby was Brayden's. Surprisingly, Josh wasn't too mad since he'd been cheating on me with Morgan. Morgan though, was furious. Brayden yelled at her and said she was a hypocrite for this and she had no right. We want to know for sure who the father is and we've decided to go take a test now. No matter the test results, they both want to be present at the birth. Which shocked me. Especially since Brayden is 16, freshly dumped, and if this baby isn't his, he goes home with nothing. Josh is almost 17, dating Morgan, and has been there the whole time I've been pregnant.
We have gotten the results back, and Brayden is actually the father. He was relieved to know and thankful that he has something to look forward to. Josh wasn't as upset as I thought he'd be, but he's gonna be known as Uncle Josh. Even though we've been through hell and back, we're still best friends. Weird, I know. I told him when he comes to visit her, Morgan is not welcome. I don't want her around my daughter filling her head with lies. He didn't fight me on that.
Well, Brayden has moved in with me and my cousin and legal guardian Joey. They get along well, and Josh comes around every few days to help prepare for her and is helping Brayden and Joey set up the room. Josh and I are on a good basis now and we love being friends so much more than dating. Brayden and I are a couple now and have been for months now. We understand it's going to be hard, but we're ready. Now, we wait until December 23rd to meet our baby girl. Her name will be Annabelle Elaine McCaine.
Conducting into Motherhood.I was 17 years old when I got pregnant. I'd been dating this guy for almost 3 years. We were both heavily active in our band program. Drum major tryouts had come around before junior year was over and Jeremy and I had both won spots as drum majors! Jeremy and I were thrilled about being drum majors for the upcoming season. In mid August, I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant. We were just starting to compete and Jeremy and I had told the band staff and they were disappointed, but they kept us on as drum majors. We had just figured out ways to expand my outfit when the time came. Our band had also been chosen to march down Disney's parade in Magic Kingdom and we waited for that situation when it came, since I was due to give birth right before we were supposed to leave.
As the season went on, it was incredibly noticeable that they had a pregnant drum major. Parents started making phone calls about how they didn't want a pregnant drum major conducting the band. The angry parents even took it to the school board. After a few weeks of debating, our band staff stood up for us and said we were the best choices to be leading the band and the season would be over way before it got too noticeable. So the school board ruled in our favor and Jeremy and I were kept as the drum majors.
Since Jeremy was conducting the ballad and I was conducting the closer, which was the most upbeat and had the fastest tempo, the band directors considered switching us. But we disagreed because conducting the closer was a good workout for the baby and I. At our first competition, my costume was incredibly uncomfortable. I was only 10 weeks pregnant, but I was uncomfortable.
As the season drew to a close, it had been known to the other bands and judges that I was the pregnant drum major. Finally in the 2nd week of November, we had State Competition. I was probably 6 months pregnant and my bump stuck out. Luckily, we got to wear our required school uniforms instead of those ridiculous costumes. Before we competed, Jeremy made sure I was okay and I was fine, but I was nervous. We ended up competing and we received a superior rating (which is the highest you can get). After we competed, we had a little heart to heart talk with the band about the season and how we grew as a team. It was my turn to talk and I said how thankful I was for the band adjusting to my pregnant belly and being able to stick by me during the season. I couldn't have been more grateful to lead the band even in my condition. I also thanked everyone for their support and love and for the surprise shower they threw for me at the last practice of the season.
Jeremy and I also thanked Marcus, who was our third drum major, for sticking with us and being supportive through everything and he was appreciative of us.
As our lives went on, I went into labor 5 weeks early, delivering a 5 lb. 2 oz. baby girl. Her name is Savannah Elizabeth. She was born on January 23rd. We were supposed to leave for Disney on March 29th. Since I was in good shape and everything was fine with the band staff, I was allowed to conduct in the parade. I was completely blessed. Although we flew to Disney with Savannah, she was still with us during our times at the parks and when it was time to march in the parade, she was in a little stroller being pushed by our band staff.
Jeremy and I had actually taken the last day and we got married while we were still in Disney. It was unexpected, but it was the best time to get married. Jeremy, Savannah and I had an amazing time in Disney World and when it was time to go back home, we thanked the staff for supporting us in everything throughout this season. Jeremy and I graduated with honors and Savannah was right there with us on our special day. We have moved on to college. I can't be more blessed to have been able to keep in the one thing I love the most and to have had an amazing man, husband, and father by my side.
Anything Can Happen.A long time ago, I posted a story titled "Gotta Stick Together." My babies are about to turn 2 years old and they're beautiful. Mason is bubbly and loves to play with trucks. Natalee is beautiful little blonde haired girl. Although I said they were beautiful, there are some ugly things going on. Mason has Leukemia. He was diagnosed 6 months ago and it's been tough. Zachary has moved back down from Michigan and we live together for the sake of our babies. We go to the hospital and spend all the time we can with Mason and Natalee gets to come visit her brother too. Zachary and I have talked about getting together for the sake of the children. I know we've had our differences, but I'm always going to love him. It's so hard watching Mason go through cancer so young, but I'm so glad I have Zachary here to help me.
The Next Day.Hi all! I posted a story 4 years ago about my son and boyfriend. Well, it's been almost 5 years since Jared died and everyday it gets harder to be without him. But JJ is the spitting image of Jared. He's so smart for a 4 year old. One day while we were walking around the park, he looked at me and asked, "Mommy, why are you so young?" I bent down to him and smiled and said, "Well, God has a way of creating special things at any time. And it just so happens that he gave us our special miracle when we were very young." JJ just smiled and hugged me. But then comes the heartbreaking question of "Where's daddy?" I told JJ that daddy is in Heaven watching him grow up. He asked me why daddy wasn't here. I told him that God takes people and invites them to live with him when it's their time to go to Heaven. And that God took daddy when I was still pregnant with him. But that just means daddy loves him so much more that he's with God in Heaven. He seemed to understand it, but he's only 4. I wouldn't mind telling him the story again at any time. All he has to do, is ask. I do have a new boyfriend in my life, and his name is Tanner. JJ and Tanner get along really well. Tanner knows about my history with Jared and he respects it. He adores JJ and me and we adore him. JJ looks at Tanner as a father figure, but he knows inside who his daddy is. I hope Jared is watching down over us everyday and looking at the little boy we have created.
Update!A while ago, I posted a story called "Perfect Timing."
Well here's a little update. Jack and I have broken up because when I was pregnant with our second son, I found out he was selling drugs and fooling around with his college professor. Shane is 3 now and lives with me and my current boyfriend. My son Patrick is now 1 and I'm currently expecting a girl with my boyfriend Alex. We plan to name her Jessa Hope. Alex and I are getting married after Jessa is born. Jack still sees Shane and Patrick, but he's only allowed supervised visits by the courts. Jack also has 2 kids now by his now wife who used to be his college professor. Her and I don't see eye to eye, meaning I don't like her because Jack is 22 and she's 40, and she tries to get my sons to call her "mom". No, that doesn't fly. You're the other woman, leave my children alone. She and I are civil, but we are not and never will be friends. Jack and I still co-parent a lot, but since I am the more involved parent, I make most of the decisions. I thought everything was perfect a few years ago. But now I know that somethings are fairytales and others are reality.
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