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A mommy at 17
I am 17 years old and have a 6 month old beautiful, healthy daughter. her father and i are not together but he is in the picture. he and i get along and he is very supportive and tries as much as possible to be involved in her life. i am in a relationship with his brother, which is awkward at times but we're making it happen. also, we have a fairly supportive family and i live with my mother and her family in a different town. so my daughter goes to visit her dad every couple weeks. which gives me a break. But as great as we have it, being a teenage mother is still incredibly hard. at the start, i was the only one who wanted to keep the pregnancy. nobody had been supportive of me then, not even her father. But as much as i was alone, i wanted her. i felt as though it was my decisons and i needed to take responsibility, come hell or high water. but looking back now, i woiuld have waited. i would have waited until i was in a stable relationship, done school, in a promising career, graduated, etc. not only for myself, but because i realize now that i would have been able to give my daughter i better life. she is loved and taken care of, but being a mother i never want her to be deprived of anything. even material things. if i was to get pregnant again or go back to when i was pregnant, i would have opted for adoption. as much as i love having my daughter around, i know she deserves better. i would have wanted her to have more than i could give her. i go to a school that encourages teen mothers to bring our children to class with us and so i attend school regularely and with a baby. im doing my best but its exhausting. to any teens out there..wait! even if you want a baby, wait. it will benefit not only you but also your future child.
**11 - 24 - 09**
Teen MommyI'm sixteen.... I have a two and a half month old daughter... You would think that after everything I go through, day after day, that my past would no longer be able to haunt me... Well that's not true! There are days like tonight that I just get so tired, and so stressed about everything that I'm not sure if I can wake up and do the same thing all over again tomorrow, but at the same time I know that I have to...
A normal day for me consist of waking up at about 7, changing my daughter, giving her a bottle, then taking my boyfriend to school after waking him up at about 8:30. Then when me and Amanda get home at about 9:30 she is ready for a nap. While she sleeps I do school work or clean. Then she wakes up by 11:00. She eats more and plays for awhile... Then around 2:00 she'll take another nap until about 3:00 when we go to pick up her daddy from school. When we get home I cook dinner while she plays in her swing or while her dad holds her.... Then after we eat and she has a bottle or two I hold her until she falls asleep. Then I take the chance of laying her down praying that I will get some kind of sleep that night.
As you can tell... I don't get anytime to myself! I am ALWAYS with her... I NEVER get a break! Her dad does... He gets to go to school during the day, but I have to do school online while I take care of her.. Put her to sleep... Talk to her... Make bottles... Change diapers... Clean up throw up... Give medicine... Take her to doctors... It's really hard, and at times I feel like I am a single mother, and I really shouldn't have to feel like that, but I do...
Her dad trys for the most part, the only thing I think he could really do better is understand.... He doesn't understand how hard it is for me...
I love being a mommy, and I wouldn't trade my little girl for the world, but I also wish I would've been able to finish being a teen before I turned into an adult. I wish I could've had the chance to go to prom, I wish I would've had the chance to go to partys with my friends, I wish I would've been able to plan a big sweet sixteen, but instead I was planning a baby shower. I wish I would still be able to sleep through the night, I wish I was able to wake up with the biggest worry of mine being what grade I was going to make on that math test.
It's so hard, and don't get me wrong, I love my daughter! She is my whole world, and I have NO idea what I would do without her, but I wish I could tell all the teens out there... It's not worth it!!! Don't think it wont happen to you, because it can!!! I was the girl in the class that was quiet, that never got into trouble. But look now instead of doing my makeup and spending an hour in front of the mirror before I leave, now I'm packing a diaper bag, changing my daughter, getting her dressed and then I walk out the door with a carseat and a diaper bag... I just wish I could send the message to all the teens out there that it's so much better if you just wait... You wont have to deal with an unplanned pregnancy, you wont have to grow up so fast. You can continue to enjoy being a teen... Give it a few more years and then have a family...
Amanda Grace Childers
8 pounds 6 ounces
20 1/2 inches long
"An Exciting Shock"Hello. My name is Erin and I’m 24 years old. I found out on St. Patrick’s Day that I am pregnant. It was a shock and I will begin to tell you why  Kevin and I have been with each other for almost 2 years. Our relationship was pretty serious from day one. I met Kevin at the tech school that I work for. He was an Illinois boy and I was a Philly girl. He charmed me with his Country music singing. Even though I was a total Rock chick, something about this goofy guy just pulled me in. One Saturday night, I figured I’d give him a call and see if he wanted to hang out, so he met me at my parent’s house and ever since that night, we have been together. That was November 2, 2008. February 28, 2009 Kevin and I got our first apartment. It wasn’t the nicest one bedroom apartment, but we were in love and made it our cute little home. It was my first time out of my parent’s house, so it was an experience for me. Kevin and I knew we were not ready for children, so we faithfully used protection. I was not on birth control, because I do not like the side effects it had given me the first time I was on it. We were young and having fun. Friends would come over on weekends and we would have drinks, listen to music, and play fun card games. Kevin and I did not want to have babies yet, because we knew we were not financially stable, we were in a bad area of town, and we were still having fun learning new things about each other every day. Again I have to say Kevin and I used protection EVERY time. Lol Anyhooo I was waiting for my March period to come along, but for some odd reason it did not come. Sometimes it can play tricks on me, so I didn’t think anything of it. Well… 1 ½ weeks into being late, I started to get a little concerned. I started thinking “what if” I would say to Kevin joking around “what if I am Kevin” he would say “Erin your not, your never on time” He was supportive though said he imagined himself being 24 and having his first kid anyway, so it would be a blessing. Anyway in those few days, my brother popped in my work and broke the news that his girlfriend was pregnant. I was SOO excited that I was going to be an Aunt. When I walked home from work that day, a clear thought came to my mind “Oh My God I’m going to be an Aunt. What if I’m an Aunt and a Mom at the same time” I played out a fantasy in my head of telling my whole family and what they would think and how everyone would react. It was fun and it made my walk home MUCH quicker. Anyway another ½ a week passed and still no period. I decided on St. Patrick’s Day while in work that I was going to pick up a pregnancy test that night. I wanted to be sure I wasn’t pregnant, because I had my friend’s engagement party that weekend. I want to be able to have a few drinks. While I was in work that day, I fell asleep twice at my desk. Knocked out cold!! Lol I have never fell asleep at my busy job before. I had my brother pick me up to take me to get a pregnancy test and take me home. As soon as I got home, I fell asleep for 2 hours. Kevin woke me up for some dinner. After I was done eating, I quietly went into the bathroom by myself and took the test. I was sure that I was not pregnant, but part of me was going to be upset when the test read negative. I took the test and placed it on the sink and finished my business. I wanted to hold onto the excitement, I guess because like I said I just KNEW it would come back negative and I would be just a little hurt. Then again if it came back negative, I had some green beer waiting for me to celebrate the holiday with my love. So I grab the test to see and it was POSITIVE!! My mind did not register it. Yes I was one of those who thought it couldn’t be. Never in my life did I even have a scare, so the feeling was almost non exsistant. I started to cry very hard, but not out of pain or hurt. I think out of SHOCK! Kevin came bursting in and said “what is wrong” I said “it’s in thereee” his face was puzzled. I think we both were very shocked. Kevin said “I can’t believe a stick” Both of our attitudes were gearing towards “ I can’t believe it” and “wow how the heck did this happen”? I had to believe it more then Kevin, because I knew that you can never get a false negative, but Kevin being a man didn’t get that part. The next day I shot right over to the family doctor to get a blood test. I had to convince myself too! My test results were in by 1:00pm and I was in fact preggggos! The excitement and joy my heart was filled with can not even come close to explain in words. Kevin was jumping for joy and when I told my parents, they were very shocked. They knew Kevin and I were staying protected, so they knew that this was a baby from God. They were a little scared at first to be hit with the news twice in one week. First my brother who is a year younger then me, then ME!! My Dad said he knew it. He said he could tell, because the one night he picked me up from the waitressing job, I was throwing my guts up with a migrane. He said right then and there he knew his only girl was pregnant. Thanks Dad, because I had NO clue! Kevin and I got pregnant on a condom. We were not aware that it was broken or anything. I believe everything happens for a reason. Kevin and I are ready to be parents now. We have embraced the news with love. We moved into a beautiful 2 bedroom apartment last month. It’s perfect with it’s cute little front yard and everything. I love Kevin with all my heart and thank God every day that he sent Kevin to me all the way from IL. He means so much to me and I still get flutters when I see him. Now, when I look at Kevin, I am amazed that we have started this life growing inside of me. I wish our baby looks like him, so he can be proud of his son or daughter. Kevin has an amazing soul and a heart of gold. I am so excited to see how our life turns out from this point on. We had the best times together and like Kevin said last night, “were about to create even better ones”. I find out the sex of our baby in 3 weeks. We are so excited. If it’s a girl, I want to name her Andrea Rae and for a boy Benjamin Lee. I’ll be 16 weeks tomorrow and I’m glowing so much I can’t stand it. Lol Smiling everyday. I just love being pregnant and I love my Kevin and my little baby.
15 and pregnantI'm Kimberley. I found out I was pregnant exactly 6 weeks before my 16th birthday. I'd missed two periods and had been feeling sick in the mornings. It was daunting me, the possibility I was pregnant. So, I took a test, and it came back positive. I was so upset and stressed out and so scared to tell my mom, but she turned out to be so supportive. The father was a guy I'd been dating for 4 years. When he found out I was pregnant, he didn't want to stick around. My mom took me to the doctor and I found out I was having twins. A little later I found out it was a boy and a girl.
On December 3, 2009, after a gruelling 18 hour labour, Allison Patricia and Aidan James were born. While I regret being irresponsible at such a young age, Allie and Aidan are the best things that have happened to me. Ever. My wonderful older brother James and my amazing, outstanding mother Patricia have really helped me so much in caring for Allie and Aidan and I truly love my family so much.
my baby girlmy name is emma. i found out i was pregnant just after i had turned 15. when i told my baby daddy luke he was so happy. my parents were so disapointed in me that they kicked me out so lukes mom and dad took us in andturned there guest house into our current home. i went into labor while i was at school nearly 3 weeks early. luckily my little girl who we named addison,addie for short was perfectly fine. i never thought i would see me boyfriend cry but the second his little girl took her first breath he broke down in tears and kept saying shes beautiful and perfect in every single way. to this day my parents have never met there first grandchild but when she gets older i want her to know that no matter what anyone ever says she happened for a very specific reason she is a token of the love that luke and i share and no one can ever say anything against that. being a teenage parent is ridculously hard but my baby girl is cmpletely and totally worth it . even though i do wish i had waited to have sex i never will think of addie as being a regret.
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