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Hoping for the best

To all you first time moms out there, congratulations! This is a VERY exciting time in your life, and you will never forget it.

As for me, I have 2 wonderful children, a 7 1/2 year old son and a 6-year-old daughter; both are healthy and happy kids... My story is... I got pregnant for the 3rd time in January 2007, but did not find out until I was approximately 6 weeks pregnant. The first ultrasound showed that everything was great, and that it would be another uneventful pregnancy for me. What I mean was my other 2 children were very easy for me, except some morning sickness and lying in bed the last 2 weeks before delivery (due to high blood pressure).

Since the ultrasound was so early they asked me to come again at 10 weeks. We did, and things were good again. Over the next week I spotted a little (red/mucus) but barely anything. I was still very concerned and went to the Emergency with my Hubby and got another ultrasound done and a pap test. He informed us that all looked good, but he did not have much experience in doing ultrasounds and told us all he could really do for us is find the heart beat!

Well, let me tell you that I started to really get freaked out. He let us believe everything was fine. I contacted my Doctor Monday morning, told him what had happened over the weekend and he sent me right away to get another ultrasound after lunch (we live in a smaller city - which can help). The technician took many pictures and did not say a word to us the whole time we were in the room with him. I never saw the screen, but my husband did. On his way out of the room, he told us to wait, and that he would be back.... About 15mins or so of waiting and wondering, my husband said he never saw a heartbeat and I figured something bad must have happened.

The tech came in, informed us that he was just on the phone with my doctor, he told me the baby had NOT grown in the past 10 days or so and that there was NO heartbeat. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT!! How could this be??? We just saw a heart beat 2 days ago. I made him show me on the screen. He was right. I started to cry hysterically, and my husband (#2) has never had children, was just devastated! It was a huge shock. We decided right there to keep trying again!

I was glad and sad at the same time. My doctor thought it would be best for me to NOT have a D&C and let it come out naturally. Well it took about a week later for it to happen. I started to bleed around suppertime and it got worst over the night. I could not sleep, the pain was like labor, of course not as strong, but I still had contractions, and lots of blood clots came out. My lower back and my stomach hurt for about 2-3 days after the fact. The whole time I was bleeding so hard, no pad would help, and I sat on my toilet ALL night, from about 11pm until 7am the next morning. I did fall asleep a few times, due to exhaustion.

A month later, I started my period! Trust me, I was happy! My doctor told me it was safe to start trying to conceive again.
I AM 9 1/2 weeks pregnant now. I just found out that there’s a 'bleed sack' in the womb. I never heard of this. We were told that it is something that is seen on ultrasounds very commonly. And I am worried about this. We are wondering what are our chances this time??? I had my second ultrasound today; the heartbeat is 156, which is perfect! The baby is growing well according to plan. I have had NO spotting or cramping, but this pregnancy is bringing on a ton of morning sickness - well mostly all day, on and off... My 2 kids are excited about the baby, and pray all will be well.

For all of you who feel the way I do (worrying/anxiety) remember that you are not the only one- Think positive! I get most of my strength from my husband and my kids...
Good luck to all of you out in the pregnancy world!

Jen

Ultrasound

Looks like my due date is May 16th but I went to the doctor yesterday for a UTI and he did a U/S and said the baby can't be seen. He told me that it might just be too early and send me for blood work. Has anyone been 5 weeks and was told the same?

maggie

Am I Pregnant?

I'm 25 years of age and have been married for nearly 2 years. My husband and I have been trying to conceive now for the past 4 months with no luck.

For the past 2-3 days I have been getting really bad tummy cramps and today is when my period was due, although it has been late for a few months.

Last week I found I have CIN 3 and it was suggested that I stop trying to conceive. I need to have LETZ surgery next week and now I am worried that I might be pregnant which means I cant have my operation. I really want to be pregnant, but I also don’t want my CIN 3 developing any further.

I have taken a few pregnancy tests over the past few days and they have come up negative. I suppose I just need to sit back and wait to see what happens.

My fingers and toes are crossed...I really want to be a MUM!!


Lisa

I couldn't believe my eyes...after a whole year!

My fiancé and I had been trying to conceive for over a year. When we started I was so excited and just knew I would be pregnant ASAP. But I was very, very wrong. After 2 months I began to cry every month I wasn't pregnant for about 9 months... What was funny was I thought I was pregnant all those months...I believe it was just me WANTING to be sooo bad...To make a long story short...I was not thinking of making a baby much anymore. I studied hard on my career path.

Now...I always keep track of my AF. But come this August 2007 I couldn’t remember when my period was and so I couldn’t think if I was late or not. Lol. My fiancé reassured me that it was at the beginning of the month. Well I’m writing this 17th of September 2007...My AF isn't here.

I went to Planned Parenthood today and got a (FREE ;)) pregnancy test and as soon as I took it, 2 lines showed up immediately!!! I didn’t even wait 5 seconds!! I couldn’t believe it. I could not. I didn’t even have any symptoms. But there were definitely two very clear blue lines. I’m thinking "wow after a yr we did it!"

So...anyways...There’s a hopeful story for those TTC

~Good luck~

"Keep believing if no one else will."


Mixxi Mornix

Why does it have to be so hard?

I found out I was pregnant one month after starting a very demanding high level job. My husband and I did want to have another child; I just hadn't planned on it just then. I am now in the 1st day of my eleventh week and still feeling like hell. I really deplore people who say, it'll pass, or I wasn’t sick at all. Shut-up already! When you feel so awful you don't want to hear anything from anyone. The other day my husband said to me, "its a time honored process, you'll be fine", I responded by saying, "I'm glad you feel that way because the abuse that you are getting from me is a part of the time honored process as well so you better suck it up".... so far he does suck it up and I really am a nasty person right now.

My advice to those of you who are experiencing pregnancy sickness and have a partner who is around is just lash out all your misery on him. He should experience some of the bad stuff too that way he knows that it is not easy, and not something that women must endure.

For those of you, who do not have a present partner and decide to keep your baby, do not focus on the sleaze bag (unless he is at war); focus on taking care of yourself so that you can take care of your child. If you think you love him, forget it, it’s never worth loving someone who doesn't love you back. Make no excuses to yourself or anyone else, except reality and realize you and your child will be better off not having someone who is low enough to walk away from you at this point. Sometimes God takes people away from us for a good reason.... remember that!

It is not easy being female and many days I ask why I was not born male, but we just need to realize that we are strong women and must be loved, respected, appreciated and cared for. If you do not get these things from people in your life, cut them off like a dangling thread. Remember your child will be a product of his/her environment so be very careful who you have in your life...deep down you know when a person is up to no good so protect yourself and your child. One last thing...people will treat you good if you feel good about yourself and demand nothing else, and the moment they sense a weak fragile, insecure person, they will pounce and treat you like a doormat.

Even if you are young, unwed, and poor.... don’t let anyone make you feel that you are wrong and worthless.... you are not. You can change your life and shape it to what you want for yourself and child.



Zora