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Dreams of a miscarriage

I have had two miscarriages since 1/06. I am 8 weeks pregnant and I have had dreams that I will miscarry. My two previous pregnancy's, I had dreams as well that I was going to miscarry and both times, I did.

Has anyone else experienced this and had a pregnancy last.

I don't know if it's a way of preparing me for what is to come or if it is all anxiety and me thinking it will happen.

Christina

Confused

My husband is being particularly insensitive and I'm not sure what to do. I am going on my seventh week and have had what I believe are regular symptoms of early pregnancy. I've had cramping, light headaches, and have been really exhausted.

My husband insists that I'm being lazy and that the whole house is suffering including the dog (which I used to walk everyday, but can't seem to find the energy to do it now). I'll admit that I haven't been much help. Everytime he does something he seems to want to make me feel guilty for "making" him do it. It's gotten really bad and it's making me feel even worse than I already do.

I'm confused because this pregnancy was planned. I guess I thought he was more ready for it than he is. Any advice? I don't see my doctor for a week and a half.

Kimberly

Paraniod, but estatic

Two years ago in May I found out I was pregnant, it was my first pregnancy and was going to be the first grandchild for both my family and my husbands. Somewhere during my 9th week I started bleeding slightly... I was rushed to the emergency room and told I was okay, and I needed to rest a little. I had about 3 more episodes like the first.. all getting worse over time.

Finally the I was told that there was a blood clot in between the placenta and my uterus. I was on bed rest from then, thankfully my mother was taking care of me the entire time. I had another appointment soon to see my doctor and he said nothing much... but I was exeriencing horrible pains, that night I started timing them and I started passing huge clots. My mother rushed my to the hospital again... and I was told I needed a D&C. My doctor was really cold about it, I didn't even know what that meant.

I went for my last ultrasound and even saw my baby kicking a swimming along, but when I finally got up for the procedure my water broke, and while they were wheeling me to the operating room I was definelty in labor... I ended up passing the baby naturally... thank god because when I found out what type of procedure they were going to do. It made me sick.

I was 14 weeks along and actually held a memorial service for my baby I named Matthew. The mortuary even did the cremation for me for free which meant a lot. I couldnt bear to think of them just throwing him away with all the rest of the human waste. A lot of people at my church showed up and told me that what I did was great and they admired me. But I admired the women with babies.

Now two years have passed and I just found out I am pregnant again. I am super estatic, but paraniod every time I go to the bathroom. If I feel any wierd pain I think it is going to happen again. I am trying to think positive and praying that I will carry this baby to term. I have tons of great family and friends around me supporting me.

The day after I found out my group of friends threw me a little party. It felt really good and i am learning to not be stressed out and hope for a healthy baby in the spring.

Catherine

help! tired of being moody and mad

I am 37 years old with 2 children ages 11 and 14. I am 8 weeks pregnant. My pregnancy now is with my new partner. Before starting the IVF process I was happy I enjoyed being around my partner and in love. My problem now is I can not be nice to this man. I haved mixed emotions, it seems I'm angry all the time and everything he does irritates me. I remember being moody with my 2 children before I just don't know if it was this bad. I know hormones are up and down when your pregnant so I guess my question to anybody out there is when does it get better and is it common?

janet

No bonding

Hey ya'll. 31 yo first pregnancy here. I'm a little frustrated with my ob. She's competent, and nice, but she barely spends any time with me, and gives me very very basic and general information about the pregnancy. I found a whole lot more information on my own than I have from her. I'm thinking about trying to find a certified nurse midwife so I can have more hands on care...both now and especially during the birth. But I'm sheepish about the whole process.

I don't want to have to back out on my ob (do the ob's and midwives work together?), do you go to midwives only for the checkups, or would I need to keep up my ob appointments anyway? I feel a little needy for wanting so much attention from my doctor, but this is my first and probably only pregnancy and I'm scared! I want more reassurance that whoever is taking care of me is paying attention to what is happening to my body.

What kind of care are you guys getting? My first appointment took about 10 minutes. And the next one (where we'll hopefully hear a heartbeat) is scheduled for the same amount of time.

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