Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
Today I was suppose to be 12 weeks and 3 days pregnant. Yet today, I was told that there is no heart beat, no fetal movement and a miscarriage is inevitiable.
I don't even know how to react, what to say. I called my husband at work to tell him to please come home. He strangely said that he already knew because he had a bad feeling in his gut. I am schedule for a D&C on Friday (3 days away) one way I want to have this done to just move on and in another, I have the what ifs? What if the doctor was wrong...........But I just can't think in denial.
I feel numb and empty right now. I feel lost. I don't know what to do or what I am supposed to feel. I am almost embarrassed. We recently told everyone our news, thinking that at 12 weeks everything would be fine..........I was wrong things are not fine.
The worst feeling right now is knowing that I have a dead baby inside of me and I can't do anything to save it. I don't know what else to say.
i was so excitedJust this last saturday I lost my baby. I was 8 wks. I think that part that makes it hurt more is my little Mason. I told him all about the baby. He was even starting to touch my stomach and say baby.
My husband wants to wait since we didnt plan to have another baby in the first place but I dont know how to tell him that the only thing i want is to have another baby as soon as possible.
MC ttcHad a mic Dec 23, due to the d&c they said my blood levels werent doubling and that they should and that something was wrong so I had to undergo the D&C.
I got off the depo shot in Aug and 1st month that we tried, I got preg but ended up in this! We want to ttc again, but the doc told me to wait 6 months to make sure of no other mc happening right away, and to give my body time to heal.
Im just very nervous and anxious to get pregnant again!!!!
christmasChristmas is a special time for my husband & I. In 2003, I asked him to move in with me. In 2005, he proposed to me. When I found out I was pregnant on 4th December 2007, I knew it would be the best present to my husband of 5 months.
After confirming the home test result with my doctor & being told I was one day off 6 weeks pregnant, I ordered the most beautiful red long sleeved baby top for Dave as his last present to open - with silver lettering which read 'My Daddy Rocks.' Perfect. Lucky for me & my secret, I suffered no morning sickness, just a little light headedness at work, very tender breasts & frequent trips to the toilet. He didn't suspect a thing. I blurted it out within one week to my best friend Sharon, who was thrilled for us.
I finished teaching for two weeks on Thursday 20th December & the next morning I found blood when I went to the toilet. When Dave left for work, I called my doctor & got an appointment that morning. Tearfully, I told her about the light spotting & she arranged for the hospital to call me. While she said it can sometimes be nothing to worry about, it's always worthwhile investigating for peace of mind.
Having had a call from the hospital within the hour to go for an early scan on Monday 24th December, I was advised to go to Accident & Emergency if the bleeding got worse (it had stopped at that point). Trying to calm myself & unavoidable dreading the worst, I had a nap for a couple of hours. Sadly, I woke up to heavier bleeding & drove myself to the hospital. I left Sharon a voicemail message telling her where I was going, & she arrived at the A&E within 30 minutes.
By that time, I'd been hisked of, had my BP taken & tearfully answered a series of questions: Was this my first pregancy? (yes). How long had we been trying? (2 months). Initially I was told I wouldn't be scanned but Sharon interjected & explained the situation - how was I to explain this to Dave? The return news was that they would scan me & Sharon gently pressed me to tell Dave - I couldn't go through this without him knowing. She tried her best to keep things positive (if it's positive, he'll be with you for your first scan - before Christmas). I couldn't be positive but somehow mustered the energy to cross my fingers & hope against hope that the tiny life within me would pull through.
20 minutes later, Dave & Sharon's husband Darren arrived on the ward & I burst into tears at the sight of my husband. He was so worried for me & all I could do was apologise - this wasn't the way I wanted to tell him, I was so scared at what we would be told. The registrar who carried out the scan couldn't find anything initially in the sac within my womb & had to carry out an internal scan. Dave & I held our breaths in the darkness.
He showed us the sac which appeared on the screen - with nothing inside it. He confirmed I was more likely 5-6 weeks pregnant & called it a non viable pregnancy. I was asked to get dressed & follow the nurse for a follow-up, weeping silently & clinging to Dave's hand.
I'm writing this on Christmas Eve afternoon. I haven't wanted to see or speak to anyone. I feel so isolated & a large part of me feels terribly for Dave. He said he'd been hoping so much to see something on the screen & the present I'd intended to give him would have made him the happiest man alive.
This isn't how things were supposed to go.
When you start bleedingI found out I was pregnant 2 days after a missed period. At 35 and having been happily married for over a decade, I was besides myself. I confirmed the home pregnancy test with two more and a blood test and then told all friends and relatives.
About two weeks later, 3 hours after a usual 45 minute walk, I noticed some spotting. I rested the rest of the evening and the next day and called my doctor the next business day and was assured that it is ok. I was told many women have periods during their first trimester and as long as I didn't have heavy bleeding and cramps, I was fine. I was told not to restrict my activities, except for weight lifting or heavy work out. But no bed rest was recommended.
A week later, out of no where, I started bleeding on a Saturday evening again. Again I rested the next day and bleeding got lower, but didnt stop this time. I called the doctors office and was told it's normal, but that if I was worried, they could get me an Ultrasound appt. Ultrasound had to be done internally and showed a normal 6 weeks pregnancy w/heart beat. Again I was told everything is ok and go home and no restrictions were recommended. I kept on bleeding and now after the ultrasound, I had excrutiating abdominal pain and cramps and chills.
The next day I called my OB and told her that despite the normal Ultrasound, I'm still bleeding w/worse than my period cramps. She assured me that it is normal and and the cramps might be Gas. She said Tylenol and Maalox are safe during pregnancy. When I asked if I had to decrease my daily activity since I worked 40 hours a week, was told that women work thru last days of pregnancy. That it has nothing to do with working as long as your job doesn't require heavy lifting (I have an office position). So I continued working that day and the next day, with deadly cramps and bleeding.
On this third day of continous bleeding I must have passed my baby at about 6 pm. When I got home and checked my pad, there was the kidney bean size fetus fully attached to the yolk sac. My heart must have stopped for a few seconds!!! The whole thing was discharged from my body. I called the on call doctor who said he doesn't think there will be happy ending for my pregnancy but he might be wrong. Due to my history of 1 cm fibroid, I was hoping this was the fibroid or a cyst that was discharged.
So the next day, I went for another ultrasound that showed no baby. I had a complete miscarriage. The doctor still said there was nothing bed rest could have done, but I feel extremely guilty for not taking my initial bleeding episodes more seriously and not taking time off of work b/c I now have heard from enough people who had the same early bleeding (before 2 months) signs but got advice from their doctors to be at bed rest for up to their 4th month and they made it. I'm not saying it's 100% cure for every bleeding pregnant woman, but it's definitely a possibility that should be exercised by women.
If I had the chance to live the last 72 hours of my life over again, I would have stayed in bed despite the repeated medical advice I received from my doctors b/c the least that it would have done for me was having no guilty feelings that I didn't do all I could......
So I'm sharing my story w/you b/c i don't want you to ignore the little spottings or bleeding you see. If you're around 6 wks and see blood or colored discharge, STAY IN BED!
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