Dealing with a miscarriage can be devastating. While many may pass off a miscarriage as a pregnancy that "just wasn't meant to be", these words rarely help to relieve your grief. Although a miscarriage can be an isolating experience, it doesn't have to be. Women who are or who have previously dealt with a miscarriage are often a great resource to those currently suffering from a pregnancy loss. Share your words with us and share your support with other women.
17 weeks 3 days preg. loss
I already had 3 girls and wanted a boy so bad and had never had complications during my pregnancies...well I was severely sick throughout this pregnancy I couldnt keep ANYTHING down!!! I was hospitalized in Aug. 09 for severe dehydration and given fluid and sent home with naseau medication that when i got home was still to sick to keep a pill down...each day continued to be the same as far as being sooo sick..I did finally feel my baby move about 2 weeks before the worst day of my life. On Sept. 17 2009 I went to my dr. bc I lost fluid and blood. The ultrasound confirmed that my baby was gone so I had to go deliver at the hospital and it took 12 hours but I had my baby and it was a little boy and he looked perfect except his insides never went in and his weight was so small considering I was almost 18 weeks...he was only 3.8 ounces and 9 inches long. My heart is broken and I cannot get over it...It has only been 4 months today since I lost him. It is soooo hard but I do believe God does everything for a reason. We named our son Dawson Christopher and he will be missed so much! Mommy and Daddy love you Dawson , ALWAYS! IN MEMORY OF DAWSON CHRISTOPHER SEPT. 17 2009
TTC for 2yrs then miscarriage at 6wksI am truly thankful to the ladies who wrote there stories here. Thank you so much! I hope that my story helps someone as much as your stories helped me.
Where to begin... Well, I grew up in a wonderful Christian home, where I was taught right from wrong. Early on I decided to wait on having sex until I was married (don't know if it was my "good" Christian values, or the fact that I was scared to death of getting pregnant and my mom finding out). I was 20 when I met my now husband, and I was able to give him my wonderful gift (my purity/innocence). As I had grown up I was always told that sex leads to pregnancy and that in order to not have a baby, don't have sex. So I was under the impression that getting pregnant was easy. I saw girls at school walking around pregnant, and the ones that weren't must have not been having sex or they were on the pill or using some kind of protection... This being my thinking, it shocked me when it took several months of trying and not getting pregnant, before going to the Dr. asking him all kinds of questions. I seemed to be healthy, so he ran a bunch of blood tests just to make sure, and then he put me on Clomid and we even had my husband tested. We tried everything, ovulation test sticks, FertiliTea, BBT tracking, cervical fluid tracking, we bought books/software, fertility monitors, just about anything you can imagine, I (we) tried. Finally, we took a month off of everything in November, of course I still knew what my peak days should be, but I didn't go running all over the house screaming "I have egg whites, and my monitor shows I am at peak ovulation" :) Of course this was the month we got pregnant. We were so excited! I took the test a couple of days after I missed what would have been my period. I was able to tell my husband 2 days after his birthday that he would be a daddy, he told me that had been his birthday wish! After several minutes of screaming and crying, we decided to wait until Christmas to tell our families. It would be a nice addition to the Christmas gifts we had bought them. But just 10 days after telling my husband we were pregnant, we ended up in the hospital. I had started bleeding… we checked into the ER at around 10:30 p.m. on the Saturday before Christmas, they ran test and did ultrasounds, before admitting me to the pediatric floor...they believed I had an ectopic pregnancy, so they wanted to monitor me, we finally called our parents/grandparents around 3 a.m. and told them what had happened. We have a wonderful family, so yeah, they all showed up within minutes. When the doctor came though on Sunday morning he assured us it was not an ectopic pregnancy, and that it was a miscarriage that was going to pass on its own. I was a wreck; we had tried so long and look where it got us. I remember Christmas, but it was like an out of body experience, I was watching myself do everything…I wasn’t the one doing it.
It has taken me till now to realize that WE will be okay, and that God has a plan and a reason for everything. I just have to remind myself that God is taking care of him or her, and that God will bless us with another baby.
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance…” Ecclesiastes 3:1-4
My Lost LoveHi my name is Candice and I was just 13 when I became pregnant. My life didnt exactly start right but when i got pregnant I knew it was time for a change. i didnt tell my mom i was pregnant, she found out on her own. by this time i was 14 and 3 months pregnant. i was the happiest i have ever been. my family really didnt support my decision of being a single parent but i made my mistakes and i knew i was going to have to step up and take full responsibility. After a couple weeks it was time for another ultrasound. i went to the doctor as usual and did the normal routine... but when they looked and tried to listen for a heartbeat they didnt find one. my baby died inside me... he was a boy... i went to the hospital and they ran all types of test and told me i would have to deliver the baby. on May 9, 2007 my baby came out. i got to name him and all... his name is D'shawn Terrell Neely. i will never forget that day. it took me well over two years to except the fact that God wanted D'shawn in his garden. My body just wasnt ready for a baby and neither was I. Till this day i could never speak upon this subject. It was just to painful. but I love my son and always will...
Stillbirth at 30 weeksHi, We lost our little boy only 10 days ago, By his 27th week appointment everything eas fine, his heartbeat was a bit slower but midwife said its fine, I noticed few days later that his movements slow down and soon after there was no atall, but I tried not to panic because with my daughter she stoped for few days and then again started to kick me, so I thought everything is fine, but then my tummy got very soft and I didnt felt him for 10 days so we went to my GP and he said he cant hear his heartbeat and send me to hospital where they confirmed that his little heart stoped, in that moment I wanted to die, I still want, its so hard to deal with that, with thought I will never hold him again. In hospital in next day they induced me and day after-5 days before christmas-I gave birth to my little angel, he had cord around his neck but its was loose, so they dont think its the cause, doctors where suprised that its happened, because all his scans and my blood tests were perfect, so today I found out that they finished with autopsy and my little boy is coming back, because we are doing funereal for him, been crying since, just hope they will be able to tell us whats went wrong because we want a baby, but we need to know will its happen again, and I keep trying to find answers in internet reading stories and thinking what I could done better, but We can only wait now for resaults and I really hope they will be able to tell us whats happened. I never thought in million years that this could happen with me, I thought once I passed 20 weeks nothing can go wrong...Good We have our 3 year old daughter, she keeps us moving forward, shes a fuuny girl and makes us laugh, but I do feel guilty with every time I do. I still sometimes feel like I want to die but I have lovely girl and partner who needs me, and we will allways love and remember our little baby boy angel...
Lost my little baby boyI am 28 year old and my husband and I tried to conceive for almost a year. When we find out that I was pregnant we were so exited. We really love that baby from the first moment. I went to my appointments at weeks 5, 8, 11, and 14 and everything was perfect. Also my medical record was perfect and neither my husband or I have a history of any kind of genetic problems in our families. When we visit the doctor on week 17 we were expecting to know the sex of our baby. It was a special day and i was almost Christmas. It was the best gift we could ever get. Unfortunately things were wrong and the doctor did not find my baby's heart beats. I was destroyed. The next day we did another ultrasound and it was confirmed. My baby died when he was around 14 weeks. Probably a few days or hours after my appointment on that week. I never imagine that something like that could happen to me. I did not bleed and I only have normal pains that I though were from the growing uterus. That same day I was induced to labor and my baby was born the next day. I still remembered his little eyes. We still don't know the cause of death. We definitely want to try it again but we are so scared. We don't want this to happen again. This was our first baby :( Our little baby boy
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