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Being a mom

Being a single mom is really hard. You got to work hard to support your baby and for me I got to work 2 part time job each day to get the money to buy my baby milk and clothes to wear over the cold season. But it's really fun to see your baby all comfortable and warm. I love my baby. It's the best thing ever. To give some tips its ok to be a single mom at least your looking over your baby.

kellie

We will survive

I was 16 when I started dating my first boyfriend Daniel I was what you’d say a late bloomer in that field. Anyway he was sweet and kind and treated me so good. We dated for a year, when I found I was pregnant, I was shocked everyone thinks that it will never happen to them but it does

I told Daniel and he told me he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby, I was so shocked it was not a bit like him. Anyway we split up and I decided to keep my baby even though everyone wanted me to have an abortion. On the 5th of September 2000 I gave birth to my little anger TY he weighed 6 lb 6 oz and looked just like his dad.

I found it hard being a single mum but somehow I managed TY is 7 years old now and I got married last year to a different man I’m now 4 months pregnant with twins and TY is really looking forward to being a big brother. As for me and his dad I’ve never seem him since. I feel sorry that TY will never see his dad but he has a wonderful step dad and step siblings soon.


meggan

No Good Baby Daddy's

I got pregnant in the beginning of February. Me and my baby daddy were together. After I told him that I was pregnant he was happy until his mom told him that she was going to kick him out if I didn't have an abortion.

So then he started to deny the baby just to have a place to stay. He never called or came to see at all after that incident. I was only 17 and he was 19. I believed him saying that he was going to be there for me and at the end it was a whole different story.

I was working 3 jobs at that time. Kid's Footlocker, Subway, and IHOP (as a waiter). Then work started to get rough so I quit Footlocker and Subway. It was getting closer to time for me to have my baby and I have not heard or seen my baby’s daddy.

I couldn't believe that he actually put me through hell. When the baby was finally born on Oct 21 I called him later on that day and told him. He asked if he could come see the baby I told him yea and he never showed up. It is almost a month since I had my baby I haven’t heard or seen him since then. He is a NO GOOD BABY DADDY. Life is a struggle but I am handling it all on my own


Rhonda

Life is crazy

I started dating who I thought was the love of my life when I was 14. I waited 7 months before I went all the way with him. We used protection but the condom busted. I didn't have my period for 3 months. I so thought I was pregnant. It turned out that I wasn't. My mom hated him though and I thought he was so amazing. He really treated me like crap. My mom and I fought all the time until one day I moved out and moved in with him at the age 16.

We talked about trying to have a baby which is a really crazy thing to decide when you are only 16. We tried and tried and tired. It never happened. Well, I graduated May 23rd, 2003 and got married to him May 24, 2003. We decided to go to the doctor to see why we weren't able to get pregnant. All along I thought it was me but it turned out to be him.

He was on crystal meth so bad that it made him sterile. The drugs also made him very mean emotionally and physically. He hit me all the time. We started having all kinds of problems. One night we had friends over and they were all drinking and stuff for our best friend’s b-day. Well, after everybody left, me and him got into a huge argument. He hit me several times and hit my sister. I told him to leave and that I wanted a divorce. I filed for a divorce.

In the meantime, I became really good friends with this girl named terri. She had a brother, David, who I fell pretty fond of (don't ask why). Well, one night one thing led to another and we had sex. Well, I pretty much regretted it afterwards and I came clean to Justin about it. I told my bf Brandi about it and I told her that there was a possibilty I could be pregnant. I didn't want to be because I always thought I would have a baby with Justin or at least someone I loved. Justin was the only person I had been with besides David this one time.

Well, 2 weeks went by and I skipped my period. My periods have always been pretty regular so I knew something was wrong. My friend Laura took me to get a pregnancy test and I took it. It read POSITIVE. I

told my mom and she said "how could you let this happen". She later apologized about that and has been very supportive ever since. I told David and he was happy but I was not. He wanted to have a relationship with me but I didn't want a relationship with him, besides I was still married. I hid it from my husband for a while and when I finally told him he was furious. He did not talk to me for 4 weeks.

When he finally talked to me we sat in his front yard for 3 hours and talked. We decided to get back together and he would help me. We decided to let David have something to do with the baby if he acted right, if not I agreed to let Justin sign the birth certificate.

Well, things went good with me and Justin, he got off the drugs, and kept his hands to himself. David didn't come around much but he did every once and a while. Towards the end he stopped completely so I let Justin sign the birth certificate. The day I delivered, David did show up but Justin is on the birth certificate because David never tried real hard to prove himself and he was really bad on drugs. Along came my baby boy Dominique Stephan Andrew Reed. He is the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me.

Now, David has nothing to do with my baby and Justin is still his daddy and we have been divorced for a year and a half. I now have a 9 year old, Leah, through social services who just so happens to be my friend Terri's daughter and my 2 year old baby boy.

I have had Leah for a year now. I am a single mother taking care of my baby and my friend’s child. It is hard and life is crazy, but hey, children make the world go around.

I am living proof that great things come out of bad decisions. For all young girls out there, cherish your bodies and if you get pregnant, remember, it is a big responsibility but it is not the end of the world.


sonya

Why?

I got pregnant when I was 18 years old... Still a kid myself. I got pregnant by a man that I did not love and who had another child whom he did not take care of. He was nothing more than a fling. But he did give me my daughter, whom I love with everything I have, so why do I hate him so much. He has never laid eyes on my child, has threatened to kill me while I was pregnant.

I know that there are a lot of people who have kids and are not together but they say they will always love each other because of what they have together. Well then am I in the wrong because I don’t have those feelings? I know hate is a strong word but it is how I feel. How could someone have a beautiful child out there and not even want to see her... This is what I ask myself everyday.


sonya