Single Moms
It's not easy being a single mom. As a single parent, you have to take on double the parenting duty. Other issues can make this even more complex. For example, some young moms write about what to do if my boyfriend is an alcoholic. Please share your experience and wisdom. As you will see, these problems require a great support system, time management skills and top-notch parenting techniques. If you have tips to share with other single moms or just want to help other single mothers and single parents out there, then tell us your story. |
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Mom at 18I never thought that I would be the girl that got pregnant in high school. My boyfriend and I had been together for about 3 years when I found out that I was pregnant. I was never irresponsible, it just happened. I have been feeling sick for a few weeks when it finally hit me that I was possibly pregnant, so I decided that I would take a pregnancy test. I have never seen a positive sign come back so quick. I told my boyfriend right after I took the test and he stood by me. But he wanted me to get an abortion because he was only 17 and not ready to be a dad. I went to the doctors to confirm the pregnancy and sure enough I was about 13 weeks pregnant. At my first ultrasound we found out that we were expecting a boy. We knew then that we couldn't give our child up. My pregnancy was healthy until about my 30th week because my blood pressure started to shoot up. I was diagnosed with pre eclampcia(sp?). I was put on bed rest in hopes that my blood pressure would go back to normal but it didn't. So at 37 weeks I was induced, and we welcomed a beautiful baby boy on May 21, 2010 named Ryan Thomas. I do not regret my son, I do everything in my power to make sure that he gets everything he has. Ryan Thomas May 21, 2010 6lbs 1oz 17" Katie Not so easy starting off.I'm 18 years old. I am 21 weeks pregnant with a beautiful baby boy. I had the typical 'best friend' yet 'we are so in love' type of relationship. I met him in 2008 and it was just something quick and meaningless. Paths crossed us again and we became best friends towards the end of 2009. We did everything together, I told him everything and he was there for me whenever I needed him. I truly felt like he'd always be around. We tried dating but realized it worked better as friends who just care strongly about eachother. We didn't talk to anyone else like that, or so I thought. We stayed best friends for about 8 months.. the 5th month I could not fall asleep because of the cramps and butterfly feeling. I threw up (which I never do) and I finally realized by test and doctor that I was infact pregnant. Worried, and scared. I told him, he was accepting of it but of course he wanted an abortion. After doing everything he could to make me have one he stopped trying because he realized I was never going to have an abortion as it's not something I believe in. He tried for adoption but once again, there is no way I can carry my own child inside of me for nine months and just be okay with that. So I told him I was keeping the baby. I thought everything was smooth, and even though it was hard I thought he was truly going to be there for me. So a few weeks passed and he started acting different. I found out he had a new girlfriend, and she 'understood' his feelings apparently more then the own mother of his child did. He left me. Cut off all contact he even could have had with me, and ended everything and to this day, is still with her. He left me when I was 17 weeks pregnant. It's a struggle, and I wish I would have waited. I blamed it all on myself when he left thinking I did something wrong and I was excited about the baby because I knew a part of him would continue to grow. But, now knowing my child is going to grow up without a father, and there's nothing I can do to make him care. I've showed him ultrasounds, he's heard heartbeats, it hasn't registered that this is his baby boy. I know I'm weak but I will be strong for my child because that's what I have to do. I should have waited and I know that. Thankfully I have a supportful family and I can take care of myself.Danielle Mommy At 17i am 17 and just gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on May 30, 2010..It Was The Best day of my life, my little boy has completely changed my life, me and his daddy are still together, we are trying to make our relationship work, but to be honest, Im not sure it will..he has been abusive and i do believe i deserve better..iwas always a really happy popular person, i had it all, until i met him, i gave it all up to be with him..ididnt know iwas pregnant until me and my parents got into a huge fight and i told them iwas pregnant to just piss them off, right after i told them, my morning sickness kicked in, BAD..A Week later we went to an OBGYN to confirm that i really was because not even i was sure..sure enough i was pregnant, almost 3 months pregnant and ididnt even know..from there things went to hell..i lost almost 15 pounds because my morning sickess lasted ALL Day and i couldnt eat ANYTHING, At 6 months pregnant i weighed 100 pounds..thats when my smartass doctor decided to finally give me some medication for it..at 3 months pregnant, was when my boyfriend got caught robbing a store with my car and went to jail,..he was in jail until i was 9 months pregnant, less than a month away from my due date..needless to say, istuck by him the whole time, he was my world, but now ifeel as if we're drifting and he wants to do everything possible to trap me, i believe he's trying to get me pregnant again..ilove my son but too be honest, i dont think ican go thru everything again..one beautiful baby boy is enough..and No, i dont wonder what if?? i got pregnant young..but i would prefer being a mommy than partyinq and doing everything iwas before..ifind it insulting when teen mommies say that they wish they would've waited because they still wanna be teenagers and party, they should've thought about it before they did anything, because NOTHING Is 100% Effective except abstinence, and nomatter how careful you're being, there's ALWAYS that chance that you might get pregnant..but im noone to judge or say anything to anyone..ijust love my son, and as i lay next to him i look at him and realize how truley lucky ireally am..i am going to do everything in my power to give him EVERYTHING, and im NEVER guna look back and wonder, What if??Esther My Reasons to LiveMy name is Willow and two months ago I gave birth to my beautiful twins, Jukka and Jhosefena. At 16 I found out I was pregnant, after a month and half of morning sickness, I decided to get tested. It was a shock to my family, mainly my Mother, Suzana. She was disappointed at first, but quickly grew to love the idea of having little ones around the house. My at the time boyfriend, who hasn't had contact with me or my son and daughter since I told him I was pregnant a week after I found out. I have dropped out of normal school, my junior year, and have decided to continue my education through home school and tutoring. My last name translates to English "of Life" which suits my children perfectly, as I was ready to commite death before I found out I was pregnant.Jukka Angel von Leben 4 lbs 5 oz April 20th, 2010 and Jhosefena Faith von Leben 4 lbs 2 oz April 20th, 2010 ~Willow Willow von Leben 16 and pregnant without a clue.My name is Madaline Adams. I was about to turn 17. everything in life was perfect! i had alot of friends, a perfect boyfriend! what more could i ask for? I found out i was pregnant 3 days before my 17th birthday. I told my parents on my actual birthday. There were upset for like 10 minutes but got over it extremely fast. The became so supportive. I found out 4 months later that i was having a baby girl! On december 23, i went into labor. 21 hours of labor was horrible for me. to me it was an undescriable pain. but i knew when i saw my daughters face for the first time i would forget about that pain. December 24, 2:43 a.m. Adelyn Grace was born. it wasnt like anything i imigained. she wasnt breathing. she came out without a sound. no cry no sneeze, no cough. i heard the doctors calling names and saying words i didnt understand. i was terrified. was my baby going to die? luckily, with CPR and alittle oxygen, Adelyn was in my arms breathing on her own. smiling! she is such a blessing. though i wish i could have been more responsible, me and my boyfriend Jordan, are taking care of our 4 month old daughter, Adelyn Grace. shes a healthy baby. not trying to scare any teenage mothers, but this was an experience that will change my life for ever.Madaline Adams Page: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60, 61, 62, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 77, 78, 79, 80, 81, 82, 83, 84, 85, 86, 87, 88, 89, 90, 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96, 97, 98, 99, 100, 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107, 108, 109, 110, 111, 112, 113, 114, 115, 116, 117, 118, 119, 120, 121, 122, 123, 124, 125, 126, 127, 128, 129, 130, 131, 132, 133, 134, 135, 136, 137, 138, 139, 140, 141, 142, 143, 144, 145, 146 |